Why should a nice guy have to completely abandon his persona to attract women ?
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People always say, that to attract women, one has to be confident and not be shy.
Well I am 18 and I feel I have changed a lot from the 15 yr old shy nerdy high schooler I was.
But at this point, I feel like if I were to change anymore it would be an act.
Yes I go out occasionally, yes I talk to girls at college. I have many female collegues, some almost-girlfriends.
After all, my interests range from sciences, to sci-fi movies and stuff like that. I do have an artistic streak as well. I am confident in my abilities.
But, no matter how confident I get, I’m still not gonna go on stage and break dance / spin on my head ,or walk about to a girl and just slap her on the @ss… that’s just not me.
And why should I have to be that type of person ?
Women always say that men should accept them for their with any flaws, yet women continue to look at a very narrow spectrum of men.
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Men don’t have to abandon their personality to attract women. A healthy relationship *enhances* who you already ARE, instead of forcing you to become someone you really are NOT. Certainly, there may be some changes which take place, but these are generally voluntary, and for the better.
You do need confidence, which is attractive to women, but you gain that by owning all the different parts of yourself, for better and for worse. People who think that "nice guys finish last," take that quote out of context, or they fixate on other guys (whom, not surprisingly, they label as a$$h0les, to make themselves feel better) and denigrate these men to explain their own shortcomings.
The bottom line, is that there is someone out there for everyone. But you *do* have to go out and look, and you *do* have to put your best foot forward by discussing things that are likely to be of interest to girls (hint: not the local Star Trek convention), and you *do* have to accept that failure will happen in the short term. Certainly, you can avoid many headaches and heartaches by ignoring the women who only accept a very narrow spectrum of men. A good way to start is by asking some of your female colleagues to set you up with friends (or even friends of friends), as these are the people you are most likely to have something in common with, and they in turn are likely to hang out with other compatible people (whom you haven’t met yet).
But ultimately (as with anything else), you will get out of dating and relationships what you put in. If you don’t, go find a different woman. Wash, rinse, repeat. Eventually, you will find the one who is right for you.
I agree whole-heartedly. Just be yourself, bro.
Here’s a great article I found about it. I really liked it. Take a look:
“Ode to the Nice Guy”
http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html
Just because you’re shy doesn’t mean you are not confident. Women that don’t know this are not worth your time.
lol at the response below me "Stay feminine" …… yeah that’s the kind of girl you want to avoid.
stay how you are. you shouldnt have to change for somone, itll catch up to you later in the relationship and all that will happen is that itll end in heartbreak.
just wait for the right guy, im certain you’ll find one. i know heaps of people who like ‘feminine’ girls, like you.
i personally am into the confident/cocky/extremely outgoin type but i know many who arent. stay feminine and dont change.
You don’t have to be that kind of person.
You just need to find the right girl that will love you for who you are.
Someone that loves the person that you are deep down.
Be it the shy boy or not, you don’t have to change for anyone.
You shouldn’t…I Know I wouldn’t change for a guy and he shouldn’t have to change for me either. I mean I love guys for their originality, I don’t like them to change because I might dislike a certain thing…I mean come on there is probably a ton of stuff they hate that I do.
So after all my rambling, I say Don’t Change Be Yourself!
Cheah <3
The women who look for that kind of behavior or "sluts" in lack for a better word. You shouldn’t have to change yourself for anyone. People who have good taste will know that you are a charm that is rare.
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Just be yourself… girls can tell when you’re not…and there’s no bigger turnoff than a guy who’s putting on an act…which basically is the same as lying cause your real self will come out eventually…