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I have a fear of talking to attractive women in person. So i started searching for help on how to get over this fear. I found it’s more common than i thought. but then i got to thinking, why is it the men that have to approach women? what’s wrong with a woman making the first move and starting the conversation?
*NOTE* If your reply is going to be criticizing me for my fear or just to say "get over it" then please don’t bother replying. I only want replies about my actual question.
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I’ve always wondered the same thing. Instead of asking a girl to prom last year, I just sat back, didn’t worry about it, and eventually some girl asked me. I don’t see anything wrong with it, but for some reason girls think it’s wrong.
cuz the man is suppose to have the balls to do it not the girl lol. u have to be the man and you have to win her cuz believe it or not they are the ones that control us and yea it sucks
Don’t worry, I have the same fear sometimes.
PS. OMG SOMEBODY FINALLY SEES IT MY WAY
I am not afraid to approach men…and I only approach men I am interested in.
There’s nothing wrong with a woman making the first move. It’s just not as common.
"Traditionally," men make the first move. But nowadays women are making the first moves more and more often.
I understand your fear and encourage you to work on it. But also know that there are women out there who approach men.
Because they’re lazy, selfish, and inconsiderate.
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w/e it’s true. They don’t like being vulnerable so they make the guy put himself in that situation. Tell me that’s not selfish.
women like men that are brave and old fashion romantic
its cuz we’re feminen and everything, but i have asked guys out
Women want to feel like a man will protect them, and they think if he is afraid to approach her than he will be afraid of everything.
idk that just looks better thats just the way it is…..
i dont think theres anything wrong with it, i’m not criticizing you i’m just saying its just as nerve racking for girls to do it so if your plan doesnt work out so well sorry :/
I’m a girl, and I know that I can be incredibly nervous about approaching a guy in that manner. If I am in a confident mood, I’ll do it but generally I do leave it up to the guy as it seems to be a social rule that guys approach girls. It’s not the best thing to fall back on, as the guy could be just as shy as me.. but oh well. The really confident guys live up to it, and get my attention.. Even if this does mean I’m missing out on someone great who really was interested in me.
well, some women are afraid of rejection, so the like the men to make the first move.
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Women are afraid that the guys will think they are sluts or something. What’s really ironic is that the extremely attractive women are the ones that get approached the least because they intimidate the good guys too much. Have you ever noticed that extremely attractive women end up with douchebags? That’s because douchebags have the guts to approach them trying to get into their pants… and succeed because the women don’t get approached enough by good guys.
feel the same way man. i guess after years of men taking the dominating role its expected that we will ask them out, although it wouldn’t hurt for it to go both ways
most women usualy think others are whores when they do that or bigol flirts and no one really likes them if you really want someone to make the first move talk to their friends about it.
Dont be afraid, if they dont like u then who cares?? Ya know there are so many woman out there who would like u, its just one person.
But to answer your question, I guess women are just used to having men approach them first, thats just how it is! Sorry! lol
Don’t listen to ‘Eddy Metal’!! I personally don’t normally only because I’m afraid of being rejected. Also, it depends on the person. My sister always goes up to the guy first, but they all seem to end up being players.
well sometimes they don’t because they think the guy will not like them or something like that… or maybe some are shy…
and i’ve had friends who will never approach guys because they feel like they are not good enough, even though they are gorgeous!
It’s just something about a man approaching a girl first. Women get attacthed to men easier than men attached to us. Like some men can have sex with a girl and never talk to her again…leaving the girl a crying emotional mess. And the man is just still going about life.
Same as how more women walk along side a baby stroller than men do. That my friend, is why we don’t approach men. Men have to approach us. It’s more meaningful, it means they put effort into it. (not the one who just want sex). It means they actually put asside their games and is potentialy ready to settle the hell down.
i guess i just think its a mans job lol
sexest i know, but ya’ll dont know how hard it is for us women to just sit round and wait for ya’ll to ask us out! lol
ok well its not all all the time that guy make the move sometimes its the girl 2 like 2 but i guess its usually the guy that makes the move because thats been passed from generation 2 generation and us womens like 2 change that
Because…since like…forever, it was always the man that was relied on to attract a mate, right? A lot like with most animals.
So, girls are just used to men making the first move. You know? Even when proposing.
Of course, there is no rule that says thats how it’s supposed to be…. There are lots of girls out there that approach the men ;P
Woman don’t approach men too often because its us men that our the lion; the beast and woman are more like the pray. Its all about the chase man.. just like in the wild.
But your right, it is very common for men to fear the "approach". I myself am working on it. There are books you can read on tips, on how to become the "player" and read body language. You have to learn the signs that woman give off. Try working on any woman you met, don’t go right away for the knock outs. Try the average ones and as your game improves work to the knockouts lol First try small talk, than go from there. It takes time, im still learning..
I’m terrified of talking to hot guys.
And it’s not that men HAVE to approach us. It just makes us feel more wanted. Like "hey this guy likes me. This guy thinks I’m cute."
I personally don’t approach first because I get really, really nervous. If I’m with my friends, I have more courage and then I’m able to.
It’s often embarrassing when you approach someone and find out they have a girlfriend/boyfriend. So I wait for guys to approach me. That way I don’t have to deal with the awkwardness of "Oh, I have a girlfriend."
i would feel like im offering myself up on a silver platter, and make it look desperate, where as a guy were to come up to me i would feel wanted and i would think its normal that the guy came up to me.