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I’m wondering why i can not seem to attract women. I’m a funny guy with a good sense of humor, (some people say i should be a comedian) Im def. loyal and dependable (sometimes to the point where people take advantage of me for it). Im only 21 and I have a regular 9-5 job where i make about 50 grand a year starting. I have my own car even though it is a junker. Im in the process of getting my own place. I associate with good, honest, hard-working individuals and I know how to have a good time.
The only reason i can think of is maybe my looks, im an average looking guy, not ugly by any stretch nor am i model handsome either. Just plain average. I know plenty of other average guys who have gf and whatnot. It seems every girl I am interested in either declines my advances or ignores me altogether, but then they seem to date an a**hole, who deals drugs,and usually treats them badly. Has the world gone mad or is it me?
btw i hate talking about myself…it feels wierd
Gme and confidence is not my problem, I know (or i at least think i know) how to act ….dont get it twisted i jus came off of a serious 2 yr relationship and it seems getting back into the game is harder for some reason
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I do not think your looks are the reason you cannot attract women. And when you said you were a funny guy with a good sense of humor… those are the kind of guys that usually become the "best friends". Also, when you are too nice, and you will find your position where girls will only look to you as a "friend". If you ever get those late-night calls at 3 am for a "talk", you know she’s not into you, but sees you as one of those friends, or when girls find it easy to confide in you. Girls like a taste of adventure, not so boring, which is probably why they go for the jerks, but they will eventually get sick of it. What you want, is to be in the middle, but without changing who you are. You don’t want to be perceived as the boring, nice guy who everyone can talk to about anything, but you don’t want to be those typical jerks who will eventually lose their girlfriends. You mentioned your job, which I believe does not have much to do with it. You’re at an early age where most girls you find probably do not want to settle down yet. Girls do not look for those qualities yet in a guy at this early age.
you give off that "Desperate" vibe….chill out..be more self confident..
youll find the right one. just because you arent a ladies man doesnt mean much. attracting women is a good thing, but sometimes it can complicate your life.
Most women aren’t looking for Mr. Right. They’re looking for Mr. Right Now.
aww you sound way sweet, like mr perfect?! Just hold out for the right girl, if the girl you like can’t see the real you then she isn’t worth it! Good luck
x
girls are weird most of em want a bad boy with no job that they can complain about
yo hey do u want 30 free points then be the first to respond to my q’s with no As and ill give u ten points for each hurry up nigga
Maybe you should be become friends with a girl that you like first so’ she can see what a good guy you are. Instead of just trying to get a girlfriend, try to befriend women and then since you sound like a good guy, they’ll like you.
Girls at 21 still haven’t figured out that bad boys = bad relationships. It sounds to me like you already know how to be friends with a woman, moving beyond that is simple yet complicated. My advice would be to just keep asking girls out until you get a yes. Surely if you have a great personality there will be a woman willing to give you a chance.
You earn 50 grand a year and have a junker?!?!?!?
Really hot looking guys are nothing but trouble and girls know this, trust me.
You sound like a wonderful guy, and you make good money too.
I say, start dressing well. If you don’t already. I don’t think you do because you never mentioned it. And pay attention to grooming. And most girls do not like facial hair on guys.
well maybe if you didn’t have a name like Mr.Big121087
idk it may happen for you buddy
Don’t worry, The women around you will wake up and see awahtis in front of them. Don’t try to hard at this and put your time and energy into something else. Play hard to get!
don’t stress yourself. the right woman will come around. you’re young so don’t worry
Good Luck !
First, don’t always be the joker. Being funny is nice, but if it is your only social tool, then girls will see it as some sort of a crutch (aka "weakness"). Next, stop hitting on only the hot chicks. You are a self-admittedly average guy so take a look at the average janes around you. Chances are they are asking the same question you are asking here.
well maybe you are not likeable funny
the kind of funny that upsets people
or maybe you need to continue waiting for the right person.
Okay, here’s my advice. If you really want to date, you have to get dating off your mind. When a girl sees a guy as interested, she is likely to go into a defense mode, and react accordingly. Don’t look at each woman you meet as a potential girlfriend. Look at them as simply another person, and the rest will follow.
that’s just how most girls are,,, they love the adventure and so they be with the bad guys…
but don’t worry there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you… it’s those girls who are weird…
and one day, SHE will come to your life and your complaints will be over! =D
goodluck! ^__^
Boy, you need game…
Buy yourself some Swagger from Old Spice…
why dont you try http://www.datingdirect.com it is a good site for guys or girls looking for a relation ship… did you know 1 in 8 mariages started out on the net.. if you start off as no picture. girls will read your profile and not judge you on your appearence! xxx i think it is a great way of meeting people. xx
just give urself some time and don’t give women the impression that you may be desparate or too self confident. The right girl will come along.
just wait init
increase your self confidence
have high self esteem
and wait for Ms Right to come
Just be genuine. That list of qualifications – don’t tell them that, unless they ask. Don’t come on as desperate. Look at her face. Strike up a real conversation. Don’t try to impress. Just be the person you are with your friends.
In my experience, I don’t find myself attracted to a guy right away, but once we’ve become friends, I realize that maybe we should try for more.
well maybe ur ugly to most people and they say ur funny to be nice wen u reeli suck ass.but could be wrong. btw yahoo answers aint gonna help get u laid…..or maybe ur gay. or look gay
You seem to be the guy that every gal would want to date.
But I gotta agree with one of your answers; You may possibly be giving off a "DESPERATE" vibe.
Gals go after men most like themselves.
You gave a generalized good guy explanation of who you are.. but hun everyone is more than just what they see themselves as, even if that description is part of the truth.
I hate to say it ..but its true, there is someone for everyone and sometimes several someones for everyone.
Be the good guy you are, dont let people run over you, be kind when you need to be, stand up for yourself when you should. Be slow to anger and easy to love.
What more can I say..
DONT RUSH IT!!!
Perhaps you need to widen your social circle. If you feel that your biggest weakness is the way you look then perhaps you could join a gym. That way you could kill two birds with one stone.
it sounds like we’re not getting the whole story here…. come on, out with it already
Have you really looked at the women that you are trying to date? They maybe stuck up or really full of themselves. Sounds like you need someone down to earth (and keep in mind that she may not be the beauty of the office). Maybe you are aiming too high or you are just really picky. Really attractive women have a tendency to date the wrong people and get into bad relationships. I don’t know why that is, it just is. Read, "Mars and Venus – Dating" It really opened my eyes to some of the things I was doing wrong, and what I should be looking for.
Good luck!
Your problem is a lack of self confidence. You need to create a vibe that you are "happy" about who you are. Start with not letting people walk all over you. I’m telling you it has nothing to do with looks….I worked with this guy at a clinic a few months back who looked like he was dying of Typhoid fever and/or AIDS and dropped a couple of times on his face as a baby… but he acted confident and the chicks there LOVED him.
Just be careful there is a fine line between confidence and overly cocky.
Hm.. Most girls are looking for that bad boy who parties hard in our age group. The ones that are crazy and fun. From the sounds of it you are a really nice guy and seem to be going places, you’re focused. That can sometimes place you in the friend zone unless you meet that girl who is looking for someone reliable and motivated. Best advice: Don’t go looking for someone, when people try to find a person to be with they tend to crash into the type of people they really shouldn’t be with. Just wait it out and stay focused on you. She’ll show up, just be patient.
A fun alternative would be to try out for that show The Pick Up Artist.
Good luck to you!
because you ask questions like "why can’t I attract women?" If you just said "f*ck these h*s" and went on with your business, you would be much more successful because you wouldn’t be as desperate. No one wants a desperate mate. Just focus on getting what you want. Good grades, more money, sex, etc. If you’re more self-interested and willing to use other people as tools, you’ll have what you need. I’ll probably get a few thumbs downs for this message but those people giving them to me are going to be p*ssies or women who are either in denial about being one of the girls that I’m referring to or a part of the minority that doesn’t fit the description. Good luck mate.
Get a casual job & work at a bar,,,,,,,,,,,,,,& meet as many girls as you like!
You should just remain yourself. don’t try and impress any girls you’re not desperate. Remember there is someone in the world for everyone. that special someone will come along and will be the best thing that happened to you. Just wait be patient.
be cool yar
no worries
u have every thing…..donnt try to attract any girls but try getting friendship with them ………..
there is a limit for ur sense of humor………
usually most girls dont like that if it goes too much…….dont hate urself…..its stupidity ………carry ur confidence with u…….neither u nor world is mad……….but sometimes everyone becomes so….
when we hesitate …….when v become angry…..lots more things be control ur self
Girls are dumb. Trust me I am one of those girls.
I don’t know why but if a guy is too nice it’s a big turn-off for me. I don’t know why, I can’t explain it. Confidence is a BIG turn on…however confidence seems to come hand-in-hand with cock!ness.
Keep looking and you will find one of those girls like me that finally smartened up and wants someone to make them happy.
i think its the fact that u r soo eager to get a girl that u give off everything before anything could happen so the girl prob loses interest coz they already knw u like just now..u gave off i’m desparately lookin for a girl so someone might htink u r obssessive … be cool as if it doesn’t bother u…girls like confident guys…
k there are many ways in which u can improve ur skills with women, but i recommend 2 things cuz theyre essential, simple and easy.
1st
When women ignore someone its because they arent interested, means that you arent arent fun nor useful to them, so try to start a conversation with a funny comment or something of her interest, that gets em interested which is exactly what we want. Then try to keep her interested with a joke or something until u get the chance to introduce yourself then the rest is easy
2nd
Look for a friend who’s good with women and check out the way he gets a woman’s attention in a conversation, and try to copy or learn from him, this worked with me!
and btw charm is much more important than looks, thats y u see hot girls with avg/ugly guys, this type can have her hypnotised with a couple of words, and they have mastered the art of charm, so forget looks and work on charm!