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I just broke up w/ my girlfriend of almost 1.5 years and am re-entering the DC Metro Area dating scene. I am at somewhat of a loss of how and when to approach women on the street or elsewhere? By way of reference, I am an African American male in my early 30′s. So some of the tactics that I used to employ when I was in high school and undergrad seem childish now, but that’s all that I remember. I have no wish to pursue online dating options call me old fashioned but I prefer to meet someone in the real world first.
Some questions that I have:
Is it OK to approach a woman on the Metro when she is going/coming to work? If so what is the best way to go about it?
Is it OK to approach a woman when she is traveling with girlfriend(s)? If so, what is the best way to go about it?
Also, is it OK to approach a woman while she is working out at the gym? If so, how and under what circumstances is it OK to approach?
Any constructive help would be appreciated
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Well, I hope I can help, being a woman and being thru all these situations…
1. Metro is a tough spot, because a woman may feel like she’s being bothered by a stranger. If you talk to a woman on the metro, pay attention to her behaviour, you will see pretty quickly if she’s uncomfortable. Usually people aren’t up to chatting when they’re going to work, they are either on their way there and stressed already, or still sleepy, and on the way back home they are already tired and maybe they had a bad day. I would probably stay away from that scenario. I would only say that if there’s a reason to chat you may want to try it, for example she’s reading a book you already read, so you can say "hey, I read that too, it’s one of my faves" and if she’s up to the chat she will go on. But if you don’t have a reason, then don’t do it.
2. Travelling with girlfriends is definitely a no. She will act stupider than normal (women have that effect on each other in groups unless you meet her at some high class shindig), and she will show off in front of her friends by turning you down. And then when you go away you will hear them all laughing at you behind your back. Definitely stay away in that case, unless, as I already said, in a high class situation.
3. It’s NOT ok to approach a woman while she’s working out, because she’s at her most unattractive then, she’s sweaty and bouncy and not wearing any makeup. If you notice a lady at a gym, wait until she’s leaving and no longer sweating. Many women think gyms are like a "meat market" so make sure you don’t give her an impression that you go there to pick up chicks and show off your biceps. Only meatheads do that. Wait until she’s feeling more attractive, after a good workout.
Well, hope that helps.
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Edit: about what blue girl said above, do not ask a woman right away where does she work and what school she went to, because it’s too many personal questions all at once, and she’ll think you’re a stalker and want to follow her to her work or something, so DON’T. Those are far too personal questions to ask right away. Talk about neutral stuff, weather, how late the train always is, how you drink the same coffee, whatever, but nothing personal all at once! It feels very invasive, especially on the metro.
go up to her and say I wish I were your teay born on your eyes live on your cheek and die on your lips
I feel what you are saying i’m the same way…I wanna know some ways to approach a female myself. My opinion would be to approach her while she is with her friends and be polite and sincere about what you say. That way the friends can see what type of person you are and if they like you they will convince her to get to know you.
Start off with a smile and speaking to the lady and then if she is smiling back and speaking, then say maybe we could get together sometime for coffee or whatever and go from there..
I’m not from the DC area but I assume that the Metro is some kind of public transportation like a train or bus. If so then that is perfect for conversation. Just ask her if she is going to or coming from work and then ask what she does. Also ask what school she went to and then take it from there.
I don’t think that it is a good idea to approach a girl when she is with other females because most of the time they will show off and try to embarrass you because of the other girls.
When a girl is exercising she probably doesn’t have time to chat or doesn’t want to.
I think the best place to approach a woman is in a neutral environment such as a park, train, bus, plane, bar, or maybe even at a cafe or restaurant.
Hope that helped and good luck!!
i wish i cld help, only that am not a guy…n am in kenya
but i agree with you…. n cant call u old fashioned cos i know the problems of online datings. meeting with someone creates better chances cos you can be abale to see those things they say online (am simple but ellegant…good character while someone is exactly opposite).
if i were you, i will do it right there, wherever it is. whether metro or on highway or gym,,,,, but it has to start with good manners to show some decency…..
good luck mr.
Talk to her only if she responds to you with a warm smile – regardless of where you are – and go very, very slow. Also look for any rings on the left hand – if they are diamonds, simply stay away.