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This girl at a store has been flirting with me big time. I like her, and I am not used to picking up women (just got out of a very long term relationship). I’m in my 30′s and this girl is in her early to mid 20′s i’d say. She has been looking at me and smiling everytime I am in the store. She also (very) recently began wearing skirts and heels (she always wore drab "earthy crunchy garb" before. She’s really cute! and she seems to appear out of nowhere wherever I am in the store, but sh’e real subtle about it. She also is always looking at my mouth and eyes, and touching her hair, so I think she likes me. My problem is that I am out of practice with this stuff, and I don’t want to blow it. I think she’s working tomorrow night, and I bet she’ll at least smile when she sees me come in. What is the best thing I can do? I’m NOT looking just for sex. I’m a good guy who mostly just wants to date. I don’t want to come on too strong or be too slow to act either. What’s my best bet?

Eh I’ve basically never had a gf in my years of living. I’m going to be going to university nxt year and still haven’t had a gf in my life. I just don’t know why. At first, I thought it’s cause of the zits. I had loads in my middle school yrs and early high school yrs, took ‘em off. I’m clean now. Don’t have ‘em anymore. Next I thought I was too scrawny, started working out more and way bigger than I was in my early high school yrs. Still nothing…then I thought it was my short hair and my wide forehead so I grew out my hair and have it curly (i’m going to a salon or a barber for them to make it wavy. i know it sounds weird since i’m a guy but curly sucks)

but nothing works! i get some girls attention from other states or so. i’ve developed pretty much a horrendous reputation as the class weirdo from when i was younger. i’m not like that anymore. i changed. but you can’t get people’s views about you to change. i’m certainly not ugly. i’m a good looking guy (mind me i don’t want to have a huge ego).

is it because im shy? i never am comfortable in talking to girls at my school, EVER. i just don’t know why. i try and try and just completely forget what i say or just smile and don’t say nothing and i don’t know how to keep my discussions going on in tlking to them. i really need help on girls. i’m really clueless.

i guess its the shyness that turns them off eh?

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with a ‘how’s it going?’

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

I posted this question in a very unfair, demeaning, and inappropriate way a few days ago-for anyone who saw it, I apologize-it was a reaction to a handful of people, and I have deleted it. This is how the question should have been presented, and I would appreciate anyone’s input at this time:

I have noticed, as an African American female whose friends are mostly white girls, that men of all races do not approach me in the same way as they do my white female friends (or Asian friends, though I don’t know as many of them).

Men, especially the black ones, talk to me as if they are a ‘hard thug (even if they aren’t one) ‘-I am assuming this is because they think that this is what I want. I have witnessed the same guy speak to one of my white friends in a softer, nicer tone, with more sophisticated vocabulary and much more gentlemanly posturing or gestures. I get a sideways sneering Snoop Dogg grin with a comment about my butt (hey, ma, ya gotta man?), while my white friend receives a more respectful smile (hi, you are really beautiful).

As a result, I really can’t tell the difference between the thugs that I don’t want and the nice guys that I do (because they seem to try to impersonate ‘thugs’). When I turn down the guy, I am told that I am doing so because I am looking for a thug….when in actuality, these guys have confused me to the point that I just have to pick one and hope that he is the nice guy.

So my question is-do you act differently depending upon a girl’s race, and why?

I thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with a ‘how’s it going’.

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.
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My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with ‘how’s it going’.

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

Don’t men know that women don’t get turned on sexually by way of money. Seducing women with your personality( sincere charm, wit , confidence, smile, and of course doesn’t look as bad as the elephant man) is the only way to turn women on sexually.

Money will only turn on there greedy side. And when you finally get sex after 3 or 4 dates you paid, she give it to you because of obligation not because she hot for you. But if you can turn her on wit ya personality she cant help but jump on you after the second date and will probably take you out and pay on the 3rd date.

Nice Guy’s game(how they get money) is money. Real men’s game is himself. I advice you guys to save ya money and learn to talk to women. What do y’all think, guys and gals ?

I am decent looking, a professional, take care of myself and dress nice. I haven’t dated in almost ten years and have no nearby friends. I want to know how to approach women such as at a Starbucks or the gym. I smile but don’t get much response so I don’t pursue them as I feel like I would be bothering them. I feel helpless in this alot and worry that I may have missed my chance in life at falling in love. I would like advice from women on what they would suggest and any guys who have found ways to overcome this type of problem too. Thanks for your help!
Thanks for the advice. I know I fear alot with approaching women. I find it hard for them to even notice me and then sort of panick if and when they do. I will keep trying.

this is what a female GS poster suggested when asked how can a man make himselvf attractive to women for a casual affairs and sex

"Well, you want to be well-groomed, smell good, be dripping with confidence, and develop that lovely art of being charming. It helps if you are good looking…
Basically, don’t let them get to know you, but focus on charming them and turning them on with how good you look and smell and sound. And never show fear or nervousness. Always be in command of yourself and the situation. Take any rejection with a laugh and a smile. Also, being able to make a woman laugh will help you there…"
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fcuk you. even regular looking women have no problems getting guys for just sex. and confidence and personality prolly doesnt even matter for women. they can get sex so easily.. go fcuking figure

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with a ‘how’s it going?’

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

I thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with ‘how’s it going’.

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with a ‘how’s it going?’

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with ‘how’s it going’.

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with a ‘how’s it going’.

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with ‘how’s it going’.

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with ‘how’s it going’.

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

Many experts and wannabe experts claim that men are different when it comes to relationships, dating, and romance, but I don’t see a whole lot of differences.

Don’t we all want a relationship with someone who’s…

reliable/dependable
honest/trustworthy
loyal
supportive
confident
fun
generous
respectful
willing to share
considerate
affectionate
and at least a little bit adventurous?

These experts claim that men are visual creatures but don’t women enjoy eye-candy too? Some of them look at height, physique, skin tone, eyes, smile, hair, and "package" also.

But, all men don’t look at women as sexual objects just as all women don’t look at men as sexual objects. Some people are just "addicts" and lustful whether the individual is a man or a woman.

Some men are sensitive and emotional just as some women are sensitive and emotional.

Some women want a man who can support them financially and some men (the one’s most people in society call "lazy") want the very same thing.

Many men want to be independent just as many women want to be independent.

Men and women rush into relationships, but there are men and women who like to take their time.

Both men and women abandon relationships.

A lot of men play romantic head-games and many women play romantic head-games.

Men cheat because of their "desires" and women cheat because of their desires. Either one might cheat because he or she feels neglected – even the man.

Some men love to talk and share their feelings (with someone they trust or maybe interested in) just as some women love to talk and share their feelings.

Some men want marriage and children and a lasting relationship just as some women want those things. Some don’t want to get married, just as some women don’t want to get married.

Some men are nurturing just as many women nurture.

Some women don’t want kids just like some men don’t want kids.

Some men are shy and are afraid to approach women just as some women are shy and afraid to approach men.

Because of their personality, some good men are often misunderstood just as some good women are often misunderstood.

Men like to look good every once and awhile to attract pretty women just as some women like to look sexy to attract a handsome man. Sometimes we both just want to look good and feel good about how we look (I know many men don’t realize that a woman just wants to look and feel sexy sometimes, but there are men out there who understand this point of view.)

Some men will hang onto a bad relationship and try to make it work just as some women will hang onto a bad relationship and try to make it work.

Some women are dominant in a relationship (and can be abusive) just as there are dominant abusive men in relationships. Likewise, some men are submissive in a relationship just as some women are.

And there are more similarities, but what are the real MENTAL (or EMOTIONAL) differences when it comes to relationships? Can you really think of any?
I would like to offer you more than 10 points for the best answer. I would like to work on a book project to discuss this and publish it. If you have a blog or would like to study this more, I would like to work with you.
ajal, many women want to date, want sex, and no commitment. I’m sorry someone gave you a thumbs down, but you deserve it.
Rob, I agree with you that women are always right and men are always wrong, but I’ve some women say that their man "thinks he knows everything" or that "he always thinks he’s right" too. Thumbs up, because I forgot to include that one.

I know this question is pretty blunt, but why beat around the bush. Not looking for ones who charge a fee, but some young ladies that I could pick up at a bar and have a good time with and possibly head back to my hotel or a love hotel for the night. Ideas on where to go, how to approach them, etc. would be helpful. Roppongi seems like the place I hear the most about, but also like there’s a lot of "professionals" for lack of a better word. I feel like Shibuya may be best for me. Shinjuku seems similar to Roppongi. I think I’m a fairly good-looking guy, good personality, don’t mind buying a couple rounds, etc. This is my first time to Tokyo and I just want to be able to have a good time. This isn’t my only goal when I’m out there, but when I go out at night, it would be one of my main objectives. How approachable are women, any easy pick-up lines in Japanese to get a smile, etc.?? Many thanks.

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with a ‘how’s it going?’

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with a ‘how’s it going?’

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

Eyes, smile, body type. We all have something that gets our fire going! What is it for you? And why :)

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