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Hey all. I am nice, funny, and sweet. I am a good looking dude as well. i just don’t know why i cant get a girlfriend. I would treat a girl really well. there are 2 girls at work and i like and i would like a relationship with. I am too chicken to make the first move thought. I am hoping they will make the first move but that probably will not happen. Oh yeah i have a ton of self confidence. I have long brown hair i ware Black and white DC’s. Blue jeans and a T-Shirt with a band on it is what i usually ware. I have that rocker look. I just don’t know what is it about me that sucks. I am a really cool person. don’t understand how guys that are complete assholes get all the ladies? Can someone please give me some pointers or some advice? Thanks :)

I always hear girls complaining that they called their boyfriends 5 times and he never picked up, that they want to know where he is at all times, just generally needy and clingy stuff like that. I’ve never been in a relationship, but I can’t believe so many guys are able to stand these kind of girls! It seems like so many women think having a boyfriend means spending all of your time together.

i am curious why? i really hate it and move directly on. do any girls not play hard to get? when a girl has to hide there feallings and acts differently just shows me insecurity so i look on. how can you tell if she is not interested or just playing hard to get? and dont you think it pisses people off who is trying to progress. it in know way makes things more interesting typically if someone shows me less interest then my average friend like wont even call me back i just feel time to find some one else who at leasts has a chance to even be a friend let alone worth being in a relationship? can any one explain this to me? do all girls do this? why? do any not do this?

typically when someone is interested in me i would think talking on the phone a few times before the date would be something you do and each calls each other showing mutual interest. just like in a friendship a one sided friendship never works why do people think it helps at all in a relationship? all i can think of is because it save them from some emotion or connection so they keep there distance at first. but doesnt that just express insecurity? and why would i be attracted to that?

is there anything unreasonable about the way i think? i would like to know how i can tell if a girl is just playing hard to get compared to not interested so i can seperate the two signs and maybe still give them a chance but by my gut instinct its really unattractive.
haha i find it hilarious how many girls are saying things back to offend me because there offended girls you should read what i said and many of the guys below says and learn from it lol. and not only do i have a girl friend but i am very attractive and have a lot to pick from. i played 4 varsity sports in highschool. very succesful in engineering in college and very succesful at my track and field records in varsity track for my division 1 college. and i have many girls to pick from. by no way am i a virgin lol. i run a 22.0 for the 200 right now my sophmore year. i am not full of my self a good listner and everyone has fun with me i am just curious if all girls do this and who can explain why? from my experience 89 percent of girls do this especially the ones full of them selves. thats why i picked my girlfriend as a shy girl i met in my engineering major not the rest who liked my athleticism and thought they were everything and needed to put no effort into it.
at least i think quasimoto was a girl if not well that explains a lot about him if he is a guy.
stevie your talking about a different breed. your so wrong those are the guys who are simply desperate they are by not any chance the same people we are so dont think we are the same. your so wrong. just think of this are any of those guys your talking about stay in much of a long relationship with you? probably not because they moved on once they found a girl that they had a better starting foundation with. and you probably think there all jerks. thats why you play games because you have been hurt and are a bit insecure. the fact is the guys who dont hurt girls and now what they are doing find girls they have a lasting connection with because they arent desperate. also we dont wait until we have feallings to break away from you thats to late we can tell before hand it wont work. its the guys who are insecure who do that and then end up jerks because they become players just like you. for the same reason. the non players know when to move on and whats compatible
also i never said i wouldnt chase a girl. i have no problem expressing my feelings and showing them i like them. i do that very easily and make sure they feel secure about that. i am just saying when a girl likes me if she cant reciprocate that because she wants to play games then i move on. and i dont have anything against shy girls i have dated them. but i do have a problem with the girls who date a lot of guys and are not shy but just out to play games or think they have to do that to get a guy that to me just shows insecurity and is very unnatractive all guys here understand that.

I think girl getting rejected by a guy because it takes longer for girls to recover from them. We guys are used to being rejected by girls if we want o go on a date or start a relationship so we move on pretty quick. The next day we’re already trying to hit on another girl and the humiliation is completely gone. But I think that girls have a harder time get over the fact that a guy just rejected them
@Lea there’s always some truth in generalisation

Why is it that if the girl dumps the guy in the relationship and you start flirting with her friends either 1) the girl gets really pissed off at you 2) her friends dont want to even think about dating you 3) Her friends who you were friends with before you started dating the girl dont want to look at you as friends anymore. It makes no sense to me, I did not dump you and i did not break your friends heart so why is it that I am the one getting screwed over?

Many experts and wannabe experts claim that men are different when it comes to relationships, dating, and romance, but I don’t see a whole lot of differences.

Don’t we all want a relationship with someone who’s…

reliable/dependable
honest/trustworthy
loyal
supportive
confident
fun
generous
respectful
willing to share
considerate
affectionate
and at least a little bit adventurous?

These experts claim that men are visual creatures but don’t women enjoy eye-candy too? Some of them look at height, physique, skin tone, eyes, smile, hair, and "package" also.

But, all men don’t look at women as sexual objects just as all women don’t look at men as sexual objects. Some people are just "addicts" and lustful whether the individual is a man or a woman.

Some men are sensitive and emotional just as some women are sensitive and emotional.

Some women want a man who can support them financially and some men (the one’s most people in society call "lazy") want the very same thing.

Many men want to be independent just as many women want to be independent.

Men and women rush into relationships, but there are men and women who like to take their time.

Both men and women abandon relationships.

A lot of men play romantic head-games and many women play romantic head-games.

Men cheat because of their "desires" and women cheat because of their desires. Either one might cheat because he or she feels neglected – even the man.

Some men love to talk and share their feelings (with someone they trust or maybe interested in) just as some women love to talk and share their feelings.

Some men want marriage and children and a lasting relationship just as some women want those things. Some don’t want to get married, just as some women don’t want to get married.

Some men are nurturing just as many women nurture.

Some women don’t want kids just like some men don’t want kids.

Some men are shy and are afraid to approach women just as some women are shy and afraid to approach men.

Because of their personality, some good men are often misunderstood just as some good women are often misunderstood.

Men like to look good every once and awhile to attract pretty women just as some women like to look sexy to attract a handsome man. Sometimes we both just want to look good and feel good about how we look (I know many men don’t realize that a woman just wants to look and feel sexy sometimes, but there are men out there who understand this point of view.)

Some men will hang onto a bad relationship and try to make it work just as some women will hang onto a bad relationship and try to make it work.

Some women are dominant in a relationship (and can be abusive) just as there are dominant abusive men in relationships. Likewise, some men are submissive in a relationship just as some women are.

And there are more similarities, but what are the real MENTAL (or EMOTIONAL) differences when it comes to relationships? Can you really think of any?
I would like to offer you more than 10 points for the best answer. I would like to work on a book project to discuss this and publish it. If you have a blog or would like to study this more, I would like to work with you.
ajal, many women want to date, want sex, and no commitment. I’m sorry someone gave you a thumbs down, but you deserve it.
Rob, I agree with you that women are always right and men are always wrong, but I’ve some women say that their man "thinks he knows everything" or that "he always thinks he’s right" too. Thumbs up, because I forgot to include that one.

This is a vicious cycle. I crave a relationship with a woman, when opportunity of an available woman arises, I freeze up because I don’t know what to say (shy), then I lose my opportunity to get to know that woman. In the end, I’m asking myself, "What if I had made the move" type thing and end up becoming more frusterated then before.

How can I break this cycle and raise my self-confience to approach women?

I’m wondering why i can not seem to attract women. I’m a funny guy with a good sense of humor, (some people say i should be a comedian) Im def. loyal and dependable (sometimes to the point where people take advantage of me for it). Im only 21 and I have a regular 9-5 job where i make about 50 grand a year starting. I have my own car even though it is a junker. Im in the process of getting my own place. I associate with good, honest, hard-working individuals and I know how to have a good time.

The only reason i can think of is maybe my looks, im an average looking guy, not ugly by any stretch nor am i model handsome either. Just plain average. I know plenty of other average guys who have gf and whatnot. It seems every girl I am interested in either declines my advances or ignores me altogether, but then they seem to date an a**hole, who deals drugs,and usually treats them badly. Has the world gone mad or is it me?

btw i hate talking about myself…it feels wierd
Gme and confidence is not my problem, I know (or i at least think i know) how to act ….dont get it twisted i jus came off of a serious 2 yr relationship and it seems getting back into the game is harder for some reason

I would like everyones views on how you see men and women…at the club…in a relationship…their wants and needs…. opinions and etc. Dont hold back. Feel free to tell me your story and opinion. I am open to whatever you got. This is for research.

It always seems like I attract the women that never want to get into a relationship with me. I guess part of the reason why is because I never talk to females that don’t send me any kind of signs. I will see females that I might be interested in but they act like they are not interested in me. Which I have also had from other people that women are intimated by me and I need to make the first move or they think I am stuck up. What do I need to do differently and how can I attract the right kind of girl

I was never big into the bar scene before hand, but how do I get back on the horse now? I mean I figure i need a wing man, but I don’t really know what to do. BTW, I’m not really trying to get into a new relationship so much as into a new vagina.
kainani, why do you wish me no luck? That is really mean. I’m divorced because my wife cheated on me and left me, so I feel down and abondoned, I need some luck. You are a big meany.
I can’t afford a motorcycle right now…When I get the wedding rings paid off, I’m going to sell them and buy something big and stupid for myself, that could be a motorcycle or some sort of scooter.

Firstly I want to clarify the difference for all the women out there. There are two types of men who learn this kind of thing:

Players:- Simply say and do whatever makes a woman attracted to them quickly, only temporarily and build no emotional connection essentially just to get laid.

Pick up Artists:- Learn how to be perceived as attractive by women on a deeper level and learn how to interact with women effectively so they can date the women they want to and build a working relationship.

I used to be terrible with women, one girl straddled me and I still wasn’t sure if she liked me and had no idea how to react or what to do. I was sick of always being stuck as just friends, I had enough friends. I wanted someone to show my affection towards and to be close to emotionally, I’m not going to lie, the only difference between your best friend and your boy/girl-friend is you have sex with your boy/girlfriend so that was a factor but I do not want to shag every girl and have meaningless sex, I want as most if not all “pick up artists” do; to find a special girl who is worth sharing my life with.

I was sick of it being up to fate putting me in a situation where a conversation would start with a girl and we might "click", I wanted to be in control so if I met the girl of my dreams or saw her I could go and get her or at least know how to have a go and maybe not crash and burn instantly. You have no idea girls how terrifying it can be for a guy to approach a girl, the fear of rejection was crippling.

I have read so many questions like this and all the answers are guys saying "its bull****, none of it works you are either attractive or not" and women saying "you sicken me tricking women like that just to get laid".

Guys who think its all crap; there is allot of bull**** out there written by guys who are naturally successful with women but have no idea why and make up bull**** theories. I learned by reading a few select books written by guys who have studied evolution, biology, psychology and sociology and been out and tested their theories, their stuff is correct at a fundamental scientific level. I have tried it and what they say is true. It’s not "say or do this and she will be yours", It’s "this is what women find attractive, this is why they find it attractive this is how to communicate that attractive trait to a woman".

For women who think we are tricking or manipulating you. It’s not like that. I HAVE NEVER TRICKED A WOMAN OR FAKED AN INTERACTION, everything that happened was real, we met, had a conversation and every feeling she felt was a real emotion. I just learned how to convey the positive aspects of my personality effectively. Like now i know that bragging about my car won’t do much.

Have you ever worn a push up bra, low cut top or a short skirt or worn makeup to attract guys? That is manipulating men, you are pushing our inbuilt attraction mechanisms, women are far more complex than men so why is it wrong to learn what women’s attraction mechanisms are and how to push them? You do it to men all the time, most men just don’t know how to do it to women because they are so much more complex. When it comes to attraction, men are like whistles, a couple of buttons, easy to work out, but women are like accordians, or a harp or a piano, far far more difficult.

Don’t get me wrong, I am me and I won’t change because someone doesn’t like me but I will and have changed to become a better more successful person in general which in turn has made me more attractive to women. I am not the same as every other pick up artist; I am myself I just know how to tell women who that is now.

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So my question is, now you know what a pick up artist is, what is your opinion of them? And what do you think about guys who actively tried to learn it?

What causes a person to get bored with a relationship? I’ll admit, i’ve done it myself. And i’ve had it done to me. I’m just curious, does this happen to every person? Have you ever honestly been with someone for years, and not have felt bored once?

What can I do to fix it? Any opinions, or answers are great. Thanks.

Anyone know what to say and how to act with women ?
I meant starting a relationship not a one night stand

You’re age 18-25 lets say, or at least that’s who this question is aimed at. Your relationship is fairly steady with a few years behind you, with high times but your share of lows. Suddenly your guy/girl gets into a car accident and loses both legs or has no face or something messed up like that. Do you break up with them? Or no? Be detailed with explanation.

It has been 2 years since my separation and ultimate divorce from a 9 year relationship/marraige. I have been on one date and got four phone numbers since that all fizzled. I am 32 yearts old and I have forgotten everything I knew about meeting women.

I guess you could say that I am the push-over type of guy. I weigh 205 pounds and am 5 ft- 9 in- I am not muscular. However, I have been told that I am cute and charming. I am the type that looks about seven years younger than I am. I have been told that I look like Tiger Woods.

I always ask questions, and can hold good conversations about lots of topics. I have a good job, and I have a car.

I believe that I have a lot of positive qualities, but evidently no woman that I have met thinks so. Can anyone give me some advice on meeting women in your 30′s?

im 23 still a virgin.

don’t know how I would tell a girl that if we were to get intimate. I’ve made out with several girls but it hasnt’ really gone anywhere. I’m 6’3 but 150 lbs been told I’m good looking.

how do you know when a chick is down. I’m not nerdy, i just didnt hit puberty till 16 and haven’t been in a real relationship with a girl.

How do you get a girl to like you?

How do you get a girl to like you is a fundamental question in a guy’s life.

I bet you have encountered guys who got the most successful, beautiful girls and left you astonished by their success. You couldn’t find anything outstanding about them and you are absolutely sure it is not jealousy that has blinded you.

These guys weren’t extremely smart or successful. There was nothing you could have pointed out and say that’s the reason why women fall at their feet. Nothing unusual about them and yet they had the secret code for cracking the essence of the question how do you get a girl to like you in an effortless manner.

Now, I know the clichés, we all know them about guys who are tough, playing it hard to get and hurt girls who keep on chasing after them begging for another rejection.

But those guys, I must ask myself, are they enjoying this unfertile dance? Maybe they do but I don’t see the point of getting a girl to like you if in the following day you don’t have the slightest interest in her.

A guy told me once that when he passes near a girl he fancies he look through her rather than at her. “Do that and that will do the job” he told me. Now maybe it works, we all suffer from this psychological bug as Graucho Marx famous quote implies: I do not want to belong to a club that accepts people like me.

However, these methods are not for me. I prefer staying naïve and authentic and get girls who like guys like me, who hasn’t lost a romantic point of view.

Anyway, the bottom line is I want a girl who is mature enough to appreciate my respectful attitude, my honesty and my ability to show affection.

I don’t want someone who is masochistic; a type of girl that wants a guy just because he doesn’t want her. I want someone stable though I must admit unstable girls also have their charms…

How to flirt with a girl

How to flirt with a girl is a question that occupies my mind every now and then, usually when I recognize an opportunity for an acquaintance, recruit all my wits and charms, gather my thoughts and go with high confidence towards my destination and still in spite all the efforts the opportunity often slips away because of some concealed ingredient in the communication equation.

First of all I must admit I don’t believe that flirting with a girl is a technical thing. Today you can find a book about everything: how to raise children, how to live well, ten ways to success etc…We want a manual for everything, a magic receipt so we can get what we want without sweating, without a changing process.

Well, everybody can write a manual handful of tips about how to flirt with a girl; telling you to be funny, smart, courageous, generous and charming.  I guess if you felt you possess these qualities you would be the one to write a booklet of tips and advices.

Now I am not saying those advices can not be helpful; awareness is an important thing and acquiring awareness will help one in each and every aspect of his life.

So of course when you want to flirt with a girl being aware of your messages, of your body language, of the feeling you evoke will help you transmit the right messages.

The thing is acquiring awareness is a long process of self observation, growing up, understanding your needs, knowing how to identify your own emotions and recognizing the person’s you interact with emotions.

Going through this process will buy you good communication skills: with your relatives, with your friends, employers and also with complete strangers; strangers, who can potentially become your intimate partners, if only you could learn how to communicate properly.

We have been dating for just over a month now. He’s been talking about me moving onto post with him. My friends are warning me that all army(armed forces) men are "Alpha" males and I better be prepared to listen and do as asked. I’ve never been in that kind of a relationship. I mean, I respect my boyfriend and I think I would do most things he asked of me, but is it true that things that turn bad? I’ve just heard bad things. Any advice from other girls who have dated army men or are married to army men!? thanks!

I love my bf and he says he loves me. He is very good looking and there are not many at my school sad to say. Many girls flirt with him, some are downright sl***y about it. Why do guys flirt with other girls when they have a gf they say is "everything" to them and what would you say is crossing the line and should be the end of the relationship?

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