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I am good looking, kind, have a good personality and I am confident. The only problem I have when picking up women is I have no "game". I have no clue how to flirt and end up acting friendly towards them

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This girl at a store has been flirting with me big time. I like her, and I am not used to picking up women (just got out of a very long term relationship). I’m in my 30′s and this girl is in her early to mid 20′s i’d say. She has been looking at me and smiling everytime I am in the store. She also (very) recently began wearing skirts and heels (she always wore drab "earthy crunchy garb" before. She’s really cute! and she seems to appear out of nowhere wherever I am in the store, but sh’e real subtle about it. She also is always looking at my mouth and eyes, and touching her hair, so I think she likes me. My problem is that I am out of practice with this stuff, and I don’t want to blow it. I think she’s working tomorrow night, and I bet she’ll at least smile when she sees me come in. What is the best thing I can do? I’m NOT looking just for sex. I’m a good guy who mostly just wants to date. I don’t want to come on too strong or be too slow to act either. What’s my best bet?

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well me and my friends and him were hang out drinks and having fun. The topic of sex came up and one of my Friends ask my bf if he was guy and when is he going to come out of the closet. we a laughed at first but he did not find it funny .

Here is a little back ground , he told me he had social anxiety for most of high school and I was never real good at picking up women until college. He just work on it and push him self to talk to people. he did this with out meds so it must of been hard.

he did have a gf until he was 20 years old they did not have sex or any think put they fooled around but did not have sex they did not date long.he ask a few girls out but nothing clicked He lost his virginity at 24 to a girl he was Friends with. then he had sex with one other girl.

so people though he was gay and because he could get a girl for the longest time.

so he got up and he told me and my Friends that we are stupid and he does not heed this right now. he just got up and left . he went for a walk cuz i drove and i found him and we talk but he told me that is I can not accept me for me then i do not know what to tell you. he did not talk to me for the rest of the night.

he does not like to talk about him feelings much so it just got to him i think.

how do I mike it up to him? I do not want to lose him.

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And I’m not talking about a relationship or anything. I mean when not in a relationship, i think it’s still ok for women and men to have sex, so basically NSA (no strings attached) sex with a guy they’re attracted to even if they’re not looking for a relationship.

When a woman does this frequently, like have sex with different guys, while not getting in a relationship with any of them, she is labelled a slut and seen in a negative way by both most women and men.

But if a guy does the same thing, then he’s labelled a player or good at picking up women, and he is seen in a positive way by men.

How is this fair? Why is there a double standard when it comes to NSA sex, or women having sex with guys when not in relationships. Why are women automatically labelled sluts and guys always seen in positive ways? It really should go both ways more often.

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And I’m not talking about a relationship or anything. I mean when not in a relationship, i think it’s still ok for women and men to have sex, so basically NSA (no strings attached) sex with a guy they’re attracted to even if they’re not looking for a relationship.

When a woman does this frequently, like have sex with different guys, while not getting in a relationship with any of them, she is labelled a slut and seen in a negative way by both most women and men.

But if a guy does the same thing, then he’s labelled a player or good at picking up women, and he is seen in a positive way by men.

How is this fair? Why is there a double standard when it comes to NSA sex, or women having sex with guys when not in relationships. Why are women automatically labelled sluts and guys always seen in positive ways? It really should go both ways more often.

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And I’m not talking about a relationship or anything. I mean when not in a relationship, i think it’s still ok for women and men to have sex, so basically NSA (no strings attached) sex with a guy they’re attracted to even if they’re not looking for a relationship.

When a woman does this frequently, like have sex with different guys, while not getting in a relationship with any of them, she is labelled a slut and seen in a negative way by both most women and men.

But if a guy does the same thing, then he’s labelled a player or good at picking up women, and he is seen in a positive way by men.

How is this fair? Why is there a double standard when it comes to NSA sex, or women having sex with guys when not in relationships. Why are women automatically labelled sluts and guys always seen in positive ways? It really should go both ways more often.

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Well I am usually a very nice guy. I go out of my way to be nice to people, and especially the ladies. I mean I am not a suck up, I just am not a jerk usually.

My friends tell me to bulk up etc, and act like an ass to attract women, but when I tried that in the past, I ended up feeling as if I was trying to live as someone who is not me. Usually I am alittle quiet, but I am always smiling and extraverted, and get along with people just fine, but when it comes to picking up women and getting somewhere with them, I get lost in transition, and nothing happens. I have had encounters with women in the past where I was almost able to find someone, yet at the same time in a moment’s notice, everything changed, and she lost interest in me (Bar scenario).

Usually older women find me more attractive for some reason, yet I can never get anywhere with girls at my age. Here are some pics and transitions I have went through. Sometimes I think it has to do with my race and sometimes I think it has to do with the way I look or dress up. Personality wise the only bad thing I might have is strong headedness, but that rarely ever comes into play.

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Pics of my room for all it’s worth. Maybe you can judge my personality by that.

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I want you to tell me, what to do and how to fix it. If it can’t be fixed, i’d like to know that too (good to know where you stand), I can update info or answer anything through the details feature.
I am 21, and a virgin! see I have an issue.

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i am getting married end of this month. but she tells me she doesn’t mind me having girlfriends after marriage. she doesn’t mind if i am would be in a different r’ship with a different woman or if i am just having casual sex with other women. she says i can do it if it makes me happy. and she says she will stay with me till death. however, i am very crap actually when it comes to picking up women for sex. i am an introvert & a long-term r’ship guy.

how strange is this?

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The beach and pool are usually the places I like to start picking up women. How do you feel about that? Sometimes I think women are wearing their bikinis to catch attention from guys but not always. I don’t want to end up looking like a pervert or get into any lawful troubles. What od you think?

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I’m not interested in picking up women for flings, and I don’t want to be disrespectful.

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there are so many sexy women in the grocery stores. everytime i shop at the grocery store, i feel like walking up to them and flat out give them my number. how do i go about picking up women at the grocery store? and is it a good idea?

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I really don’t have much experience with picking up women. And there is this girl, whom I see in my community college, in between my Biology Class & my Biology Lab. ( we have class for an hour in a room, and then change rooms for a lab… but in between there is a 10 minute opening).

How do I approach and start a conversation with her?

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Me and my buddy who is an expert on getting girls, were talking during lunch, and me mentioned to me that the reason why he is so good at picking up women is because he just doesn’t care about the outcome. basically, he’s not scared of rejection. i don’t think i’m scared of rejection nessessarily, but my main problem here is, i don’t have the balls to just go up to any random girl and talk to her. i know how to talk to girls in general like at bus stops or an employee somewhere, but i want to explain a couple situations where i just wanted to kick myself in the head afterwards.

the first situation was yesterday when i was sitting at a park on a very nice day reading my book on a bench under the shade. a girl was laying on the grass alone with one of those headphones that hug your ears on. she was drop dead gorgeous and i wanted so bad to go up and talk to her but there were several things stopping me. first of all, she was laying right in the middle of an open field of grass so i figured if i walked up to her, she would get the hint that i was trying to get with her and my main thing i avoid is not to look so desperate because that’s creepy even in my mind. secondly, she had headphones in her ears which would mean that i would have to make it obvious that i was talking to her because i would have to give her a signal and she would have to take them off to hear me. but she was alone, wasn’t with anybody.

the second was when i was walking around campus and saw this girl sitting at a bench by the pond. of course, she was drop dead gorgeous too. but again, i just didn’t have the balls to go up and talk to her and get her number or whatever because i figured if she saw me walk across that field towards her, she would get the hint that i’m trying to talk to her and to me, that sounds like desperation.

can anyone give me some help on this? thanks in advance.

-joe

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i get a speeding ticket in a school zone its marked 20at all times. i admitt i was doing 30 but the cop said i was doing 45 no way i just pulled out of another street anyway. he doesnt give me a ticket because i cant find my license so he tells me to meet him back at the office after i get off work 3 hrs later. so i do. he shuts the door and proceeds to tell me that if he gives me a ticket for 45 in 20 i go to court but if he writes it as 30 in 20 its a fine only and did i want him to be nice or not? i said i guess i want the 30 since thats how fast i was going. and he said well its not just that easy. he said i could be really nice and throw the ticket away. (this cop has a rep for picking up women and letting them go for sex but i didnt believe it) anyway at that time i just said i think you should start writing that tick. he said but i could still be nice. and i said you do what you need to do and let me leave please he wrote it for 30 do you think he was offering me sex? or what?
i went to meet him because he is the law and he said to meet him and i dont want to go to jail
and as for telling on him what am i suppose to say he offered to be nice to me?
true i heard about his rep because we live in a very small town and everyone knows everyone
what the hell should i be arrested for?? for trying to follow the law and do what i was asked to do? its not like i get a ticket every day that was my first one.

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i am 25 and i have slowly came to realize that i am really good at picking up women.but i am with a girl who i Truly love and i will never cheat on her.the only thing that i am having a problem with is all of the insecure guys on this page.so i will do for you guys what my older brother did for me and tell you how to have a great first date.
STEP 1
when you ask for a girls number understand that you are just asking for a number so if she says no then move on and ask someone else.make sure you have confidence.women are like sharks that can smell blood in the water.if they think you are insecure they will never take you serious.
STEP 2
Alright so she gave you the number.go ahead and call her that night.in my experience if you wait to call her then you lose all momentum you had.now on this first call relax she knows your going to ask her out.so don’t panic and chicken out.if you do that then you will never talk to her again.(once again confidence).talk to her for a while then ask her if she wants to go out.she will say yes.try to make the phone call short.you dont want to give her your life story on the first call.
STEP 3
now before you leave to go pick her up get rid of any dorkyness you have inside yourself.you want to be cool and relaxed.but dont be to relaxed she does want a date with a guy who looks stoned all night.Also make sure you look good women don’t want a date with a guy who looks like he hasn’t shaved in a week.also clean your car out.
STEP 4
now you are at her house.understand that this is just a date and she is not your girlfriend.this is suppose to be fun.when you leave dont be so shy talk to her on the way to were ever you are going.there is nothing worse then dead silence.
STEP 5
when you get to werever you are taking her make sure its a place were you guys can talk.NO MOVIES.if you take her to a movie then you will not get to know her.Also don’t talk her ear off and don’t show off.she likes you otherwise you wouldn’t be this far and dont be stupid and ask her questions like if she ever wants to be married or if she wants kids.she will run right out the door if you do this.
STEP 6
now as you take her home dont ask her if she had fun.you are not her dad.be confident that she had fun and when you drop her off walk her to the door and kiss her.and don’t do that panic delayed kiss that will make you look stupid.then tell her you had a good time and leave.if she had fun she will call you back.

so i know i have to ask a question or they will delete the question so my question is was this helpfull
i am not trying to change anyone.i am just trying to help some guys on here with no experience

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My trouble with picking up women is… Why would they settle for me when they can have one of my better looking friends?

I am one of them really tall, really skinny types, I study Drama A level so I see myself as almost a professional when it comes to body language and things like that.

However, no matter what I do, how well I control the situation in my favor, women just see this scrawny guy who is nothing compared to the other people around.

Any advice?
I play guitar
I can snowboard
I can inline skate
A passion for film making
I see myself as intelligent aswell.

I have lots of views
lots of dreams
a good listener

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I’m overwhelmed by all stuff I read online about picking up women. Anyone know how to learn pick up super fast?

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Hi I’m just wondering how many of u have tried/ had success with flirting/ picking up women on the train? or anywhere else during the day?

I find it hard to pick up at pubs and clubs cause they are crap for that sort of thing unless ur both smashed. Yelling at each other cause u cant hear over the music. F**k that.

And GIRLS how many of you are open to being flirted with/ picked up on the train.

I get the train to and from work each weekday and see so many beautiful women but never know what to say and i don’t approach cause of the social pressure and also a lot of women have ipods on or are reading.

Not only trains here but any places during the day???

If you are in Australia that’s a bonus but any answers are greatly appreciated

Thoughts?

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There’s this popular book going around called The Game, which is somewhat of a practical how-to guide for picking up women, writien by an apparently expert pick-up artist. I haven’t read it, but apparently the message is that women tend to respond more to statements that are on one hand complimentary, but on the other somewhat insulting, rather than simple, straight forward, honest conversation. Is this true? Do women really like to play these games?

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i know saying hi my name is, or compliments or using the setting that we are in as an advantage…

but sometimes when i say it i just don’t know what to say after

can someone give me any tips or advice of what to say when picking up women on how i can keep the conversation going?

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I am wondering if there are any good books out there that give quality giving male advice for picking up women and to show that you are interested in them.

I am funny and good at talking to women and getting them interested in me but i get into a friendzone because I do not know how to show I am interested beyond a friendship.

btw I have read many PUA books and find them very comical.. I am not into all the pickup lines or whatnot… I am natural at talking to women and making things comfortable I just need advice such as body language or something to show I am interested beyond friendship.

thanks

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