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If my personality has certain traits that can’t be helped, how do I change them so women would find such things more desirable?? I want to change, but it’s hard because it’s just who I am. But "who I am" isn’t getting the job done.

Women like to be treated bad, they like confidence, they like aggressiveness and assertiveness because it comes off as masculine and dramatic. How can a man of a very quite, humbled nature who doesn’t have non – outgoing traits change his character??

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I’ve looked around at all sources but I just can’t figure it out. Goodness knows I try, I have really really low standards when it comes to women, looks-wise (ex. I’ll think someone who most people think is ugly is good looking.)

I just can’t attract women. I try and flirt with them, I try and talk to them or give them certain looks, and no matter what, I get nothing in return. I never see any girl ever treat me any different than anyone else would. Hell, all I make with friends, who spend time telling me how awesome I am just to choose a different boyfriend when they break up with their previous ones. It’s like no one even considers me, ever.

I mean, I don’t think I’m ugly. And I don’t have some supreme lack of self confidence, either, because if I did I think I’d know it.

So, what’s up? Can anyone give me any tips or tell me how to see if a girl is attracted to me?

Here’s a pic of me if you want to see.

http://img266.imageshack.us/img266/9853/awesome002pw7.jpg

As far as my personality goes, I’m nice, almost to a fault, always silly, never serious, very intelligent although I come off as dumb a lot of the time because I like to make people laugh, I’m very humorous but also very impulsive, I say things without thinking. I’m a huge nerd in a way, I like to play lots of computer, but in other ways I’m the opposite, I like to work out and hang out with friends and have a good time. I’m completely unique and not like anyone else I know.

I’m also really innocent, haven’t had much experience in relationships, and tend to be very mature in my view towards women, viewing them as potential wives rather than tit-racked funbags.

As I’m reading over it I can’t see any reason why a normal person wouldn’t like me, but then again, I’m not exactly the expert here.

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Well I am usually a very nice guy. I go out of my way to be nice to people, and especially the ladies. I mean I am not a suck up, I just am not a jerk usually.

My friends tell me to bulk up etc, and act like an ass to attract women, but when I tried that in the past, I ended up feeling as if I was trying to live as someone who is not me. Usually I am alittle quiet, but I am always smiling and extraverted, and get along with people just fine, but when it comes to picking up women and getting somewhere with them, I get lost in transition, and nothing happens. I have had encounters with women in the past where I was almost able to find someone, yet at the same time in a moment’s notice, everything changed, and she lost interest in me (Bar scenario).

Usually older women find me more attractive for some reason, yet I can never get anywhere with girls at my age. Here are some pics and transitions I have went through. Sometimes I think it has to do with my race and sometimes I think it has to do with the way I look or dress up. Personality wise the only bad thing I might have is strong headedness, but that rarely ever comes into play.

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Pics of my room for all it’s worth. Maybe you can judge my personality by that.

http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w35/shahnwz17/DSC02506.jpg

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I want you to tell me, what to do and how to fix it. If it can’t be fixed, i’d like to know that too (good to know where you stand), I can update info or answer anything through the details feature.
I am 21, and a virgin! see I have an issue.

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Their seems to be a pattern, why do I fall for the same type of woman often? Im a genuine nice sincere man, I think my problem is im to nice. I want a woman that compliments my personality and qualities not the opposite. The crazy wild woman are not for me, not that I cant hang its just they tend to do what they want when they want. Any suggestions on what to do or how to approach women differently. Ladies Fellas help ya boi out cause this shit is really getting ridiculous!!

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ok i know im not attractive (im 23, have tomboyish face/mannerisms and work out a lot) back at college for a facial attractiveness activity i got mainly 4′s out of 10 the lowest in the class the other girls were getting 7′s and 8′s. Then I dated a guy i met online (he was 23, a virgin and said he couldn’t get girls) anyway we had stuff in common so went on a few dates, I just didnt fancy him though he wasn’t my type so I gently broke up with him i honestly never insulted him once.

The first thing he said was ‘geez i must be seriously ugly’. I said that it was nothing to do with looks and that i just didnt want a relationship but he carried on saying how he lowered his standards for me and compromised cause he liked my personality.

He posted on a forum (which we both go on) that he was worried that almost any girl will reject him because he couldnt even start with me. He made a topic months later which said that he lowered his standards considerably for a girl (meaning me) and that he thought he was out of my league yet still got rejected which confused him. He said that its wrecked his self esteem that he was friend zoned by the ugliest of girls. Btw this guy believe it or not was actually decent in personality (my parents liked him lol) and he had an economics degree he was just insecure about himself.

Im not a looker, I dress plainly and my hairs always a mess but even so I don’t understand why Im supposed to be attracted to him just because he was better looking? Did he think he was entitled to me because he was better looking? I dont get it when he said ‘i couldnt even start with you’ does this mean that because im ‘ugly’ Im supposed to be easier to get?

Im probably one of the hardest girls to ‘get’ because i like my own company so much. Why am I meant to be easier to get? Id like a guy or someone to explain it to me.

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I didnt say envy, I meant, as in, to like you enough to want your presence.
I am talking about women of the age of 17 (my age), BUT, they arent party animals (or hooligans/whatever), they are the nice, study conscience but also beautiful.

I am not saying ‘how to ask them out?’, I am saying how to attract them-in the most healthy (i.e. not awkward/drastic) way.

I Thank You for reading.
I like to add, that I am already nice and polite (as MANY have stated already). But now I really regret it, I will tell you why:
1. Some people think its slightly wierd and they think there is something wrong with my personality because of how ‘warm’ I can be
2. Women get uncomfortable (I see it in their face) when I be polite to them
3. They tone of voice changed when I try to speak in a very kind fashion
4. I can tell that the majoritory of them prefer the cocky, show-off over me-one even said that I act like a girl when I did not argue back against an extremely cocky teacher.
5. This may be a strong factor-but because I am studying all the time, minding my own business and not excessively socialising, it adds to the expression that I may not be the kind people want to be with.
6. When a girl needs space to sit down, I smile and move up-whereas they have a puzzled expression-meaning that this is clearly what women do not want.
7. Am I wrong?

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So my friends and I joke with each other a lot and we talked about our plans on going to Puerto Rico. Well, my friend said that a White or Black guy would make the women there go crazy and the women there go crazy for men who are Black or White. Now my friends told me that the women there would probably ignore an Indian guy and they have a negative view of us.

Not that we are going there to pick up women or anything but I am wondering, is it true that Puerto Rican women have a negative view of Indian men and in general would take a Black or White guy over them regardless of personality, how well the person looks or profession?

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I am a 37 year old man who has never had a girlfriend in his life due to shyness and insecurity. I was made fun of as a child/early teen and I was put down a lot when I was in my mid teens to early twenties. I do not go out much and when I am invited out, I never go because I feel like I am not worthy of anyone’s company. Recently my attitude has started to change since I talk to more and more people. Some days my confidence level is medium to above average compared to being at a low in previous times. I never really asked out a woman in my life because I am afraid of rejection. If I do start to come out of my shell for good, how hard will it be for me to pick up women? I am average to above average looking (so people say). Keep in mind I am also a virgin with a high sex drive and am willing to have sex and do anything a woman commands in that category. My personality is said to be that I have dry humor, I am laid back but can have a hot temper when provoked after awhile. When I go play the field, how hard will it be for me to pick up women with all these traits?

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I am a 37 year old man who has never had a girlfriend in his life due to shyness and insecurity. I was made fun of as a child/early teen and I was put down a lot when I was in my mid teens to early twenties. I do not go out much and when I am invited out, I never go because I feel like I am not worthy of anyone’s company. Recently my attitude has started to change since I talk to more and more people. Some days my confidence level is medium to above average compared to being at a low in previous times. I never really asked out a woman in my life because I am afraid of rejection. If I do start to come out of my shell for good, how hard will it be for me to pick up women? I am average to above average looking (so people say). Keep in mind I am also a virgin with a high sex drive and am willing to have sex and do anything a woman commands in that category. My personality is said to be that I have dry humor, I am laid back but can have a hot temper when provoked after awhile. When I go play the field, how hard will it be for me to pick up women with all these traits?

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i’m a sophomore guy in college. i skipped a lot of my econ classes, in the first few weeks of this semester because it was all review and the teacher is really slow, but i’ve just recently started going to class regularly. i’ve noticed that there’s one girl in class who is really attractive to me, including her personality, but she’s attractive to the point of being unapproachable. i don’t have any idea what i can even do to meet her. i’ve never spoken to her, and as far as i can tell i think she books it out of class every time. any advice? i’m getting really depressed about the fact that i don’t even have any girl friends at this point, like girls that i talk to, just my group of guy friends. partly because i just recently got out of a long term thing with a girl back home, but it’s still depressing. i haven’t been with a girl at all this year in college, or even last year, so i don’t even know how this sort of thing usually works in college.

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Sometimes I feel attracted to other women, they have much softer skin and I like their personality better, generally speaking. And men really turn me off sometimes, I know they shouldn’t because I am a woman, and should wait until marriage to have relations with my future husband.

By having feelings toward women, I know I am making baby Jesus cry and I will probably end up in hell. My family would never accept my attractions.

How can I turn straight? I have the will power Im sure I can do it if given direction, how can I do this?

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Don’t men know that women don’t get turned on sexually by way of money. Seducing women with your personality( sincere charm, wit , confidence, smile, and of course doesn’t look as bad as the elephant man) is the only way to turn women on sexually.

Money will only turn on there greedy side. And when you finally get sex after 3 or 4 dates you paid, she give it to you because of obligation not because she hot for you. But if you can turn her on wit ya personality she cant help but jump on you after the second date and will probably take you out and pay on the 3rd date.

Nice Guy’s game(how they get money) is money. Real men’s game is himself. I advice you guys to save ya money and learn to talk to women. What do y’all think, guys and gals ?

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Im 14 in Catholic high school. I like this perfect girl. looks and personality. im a short Irish guy in America. girls always mess with me about my accent. a lot of ppl think im nuts since i could care less about America. no offense. but despite that i tend to be pessimistic. im 5’6" 110 pounds. i golf and play hockey. im not the best looking gent but not nearly the worst. how do i attract her?
i take 3 showers a day guy
I caddy. i always am myself. except when i shoot a bad round in which case i say "That wasnt me"
by the way, I’m extremely well-hung
the whole America thing came up in World Cultures

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this is what a female GS poster suggested when asked how can a man make himselvf attractive to women for a casual affairs and sex

"Well, you want to be well-groomed, smell good, be dripping with confidence, and develop that lovely art of being charming. It helps if you are good looking…
Basically, don’t let them get to know you, but focus on charming them and turning them on with how good you look and smell and sound. And never show fear or nervousness. Always be in command of yourself and the situation. Take any rejection with a laugh and a smile. Also, being able to make a woman laugh will help you there…"
My ANswers Suck
fcuk you. even regular looking women have no problems getting guys for just sex. and confidence and personality prolly doesnt even matter for women. they can get sex so easily.. go fcuking figure

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I am 21…and always seem to attract women around the ages of 29-35. Is it my personality? I am sort of serious and shy.

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i’m 18 years old and just moved to a new city by myself. I’m financially well off because my parents are rich and they bought me my own house and cars to myself. I go to college but i dont know anybody, and today i started my first day and went to the library and saw this girl and i smiled at her and she smiled back. i studied for a bit and then asked her if she wanted to get a coffee with me and she said she couldnt cuz she was busy. i persisted but she didnt give in….

i look pretty ok and i think i got a nice personality… so how do i get a hot girlfriend if i dont know anyone in the city to begin with?

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I am 21…and always seem to attract women around the ages of 29-35. Is it my personality? I am sort of serious and shy.

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I am 21…and always seem to attract women around the ages of 29-35. Is it my personality? I am sort of serious and shy.

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I am curious to see what people say because honestly i try to look for personality but looks is such a HUGE thing thats hard to get over.

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If him wearing Speedos in front of her or him being naked in front of her doesn’t attract her sexually on the physcial level, then I don’t know what the hell will. Besides, if they laugh at instead of getting turned on by him if his pants are pulled down and he’s wearing boxers shorts, if not even THAT attracts her physcially, then I don’t know what will.

I just don’t think it’s fair that God didn’t program women to be physcially attracted to men like vice versa, because if they were, they’d sexually desire us in Speedos like we sexually desire in bikinis, and the way men would suddenly get turned on by a woman with her skirt torn off in public and her panties showing, that’s exactly how turned on women would be toward a man if his pants were pulled down and it turns out he’s wearing Speedos.

Seriously, it’s like God deliberatly made men ugly to women and because of that, the only way men can sexually attract women is by using their physcial approach, their words, and their personalites…
"I # my soldier",
I remember deliberatley wearing Speedos at poolsides and at the beach a few years ago to see if women like it, one said I looked sexy, and others seemed to notice with slight glee, but didn’t say anything or giggle. I guess a man has to use what he has inside to attract her, like his personality, afterall, since my demos didn’t work that well.
"Diana Just got married",
You shouldn’t have to be human encyclopedia on a certain gender or age just to be successful, I just think it’s sad that men can’t physcially attract women anywhere near as easily. And yes, a woman can easily dislike a man as easily as if he breaks her trust or cheats on her, that’s emotional.
"Poop Nose",
Just as I predicted, and I was right, it’s more his words, his promise of trust, and his personality that he has to use, just like you admitted to. See, you women are not so unpredictable afterall.
"Maria R",
I just think it sucks that the man has to get off his "keister"(or however you spell that word) and approach women to make anything happen. Women don’t have to do that, and therefore, they don’t have to risk rejection. Women have to so damn easy, in that case.
"Domestic",
Are you a guy or a girl?

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I’ve been single for 4 years now, and I really want a girlfriend. Here’s the problem: Every time I see a girl I’m interested in, I feel like there’s concrete blocks on my feet. I want to approach women, but, I just can’t seem to work up the nerve. I’ve always been kinda nerdy, both in looks, and personality. I get nervous talking to women, but, I think that if I can approach a woman, and talk to her with confidence, I should be able to do pretty well. I’m 6’1" tall, with a slightly muscular build, with short brown/blonde hair, grey eyes, and glasses. My friends tell me I’m funny, too.

Can anyone tell me how to build my confidence, so I can get myself a girlfriend?

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