What is it about me that's repulsive to women? Pics and other info included.?

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Well I am usually a very nice guy. I go out of my way to be nice to people, and especially the ladies. I mean I am not a suck up, I just am not a jerk usually.

My friends tell me to bulk up etc, and act like an ass to attract women, but when I tried that in the past, I ended up feeling as if I was trying to live as someone who is not me. Usually I am alittle quiet, but I am always smiling and extraverted, and get along with people just fine, but when it comes to picking up women and getting somewhere with them, I get lost in transition, and nothing happens. I have had encounters with women in the past where I was almost able to find someone, yet at the same time in a moment’s notice, everything changed, and she lost interest in me (Bar scenario).

Usually older women find me more attractive for some reason, yet I can never get anywhere with girls at my age. Here are some pics and transitions I have went through. Sometimes I think it has to do with my race and sometimes I think it has to do with the way I look or dress up. Personality wise the only bad thing I might have is strong headedness, but that rarely ever comes into play.

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Pics of my room for all it’s worth. Maybe you can judge my personality by that.

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I want you to tell me, what to do and how to fix it. If it can’t be fixed, i’d like to know that too (good to know where you stand), I can update info or answer anything through the details feature.
I am 21, and a virgin! see I have an issue.

What's the best way to approach women in bars?

I was just wondering about this. I don’t approach women in bars much, since I’m waiting for marriage. I usually date women who I already know through some other way first. But if I ever approached someone in a bar, what would be the best way to go about it? I assume walking up to them with the timid, nice guy, "Hi I’m Arlo. I was just wondering if I could buy you a drink?" way would get shot down?

So how does one do it? Should I be cocky and treat them like sh!t for best results?
Hasn’t gotten me dismissed in our e-mails, Alex.
That’s because I haven’t asked for it.

How do I get girls to talk to me?

im talking about in general. im a freshman in high school just to clarify
its always have been me coming to the girls bc im a very outgoing and talkative guy. And have many not so popular friends.
now there are some girls that do come to me to talk, but they are the ones i already talked to enough to the point where i know too much about them and it gets boring for me.
now the girls i DO want to talk to, like the semi-popular girls, never come to talk to me, its always the other way around, unless they need like hw or help with a problem on a classwork or like give something for someone. and yes i would usually say yes bc im a nice guy, but girls say im too nice so idk if thats too bad of a thing. i know i get used, so i dont really do anything for the semi popular girls except if they really are my friend which i can tell.
so how do i turn the tables? am i like giving girls too much attention or something? what should i do?

If I totally suck around woman can I hire a mentor to teach me how to pick up woman?

I have always been weird around woman and usually say the wrong things when I do get enough confidence to talk to someone I get shot down. I have been in relationships but the woman I want and tend to presue I’m told are way out of my league. I’m a nice guy but no confidence. Can I hire someone to help me in this situation!!!!

Do You Approach Women of Different Races In The Same Way?

I posted this question in a very unfair, demeaning, and inappropriate way a few days ago-for anyone who saw it, I apologize-it was a reaction to a handful of people, and I have deleted it. This is how the question should have been presented, and I would appreciate anyone’s input at this time:

I have noticed, as an African American female whose friends are mostly white girls, that men of all races do not approach me in the same way as they do my white female friends (or Asian friends, though I don’t know as many of them).

Men, especially the black ones, talk to me as if they are a ‘hard thug (even if they aren’t one) ‘-I am assuming this is because they think that this is what I want. I have witnessed the same guy speak to one of my white friends in a softer, nicer tone, with more sophisticated vocabulary and much more gentlemanly posturing or gestures. I get a sideways sneering Snoop Dogg grin with a comment about my butt (hey, ma, ya gotta man?), while my white friend receives a more respectful smile (hi, you are really beautiful).

As a result, I really can’t tell the difference between the thugs that I don’t want and the nice guys that I do (because they seem to try to impersonate ‘thugs’). When I turn down the guy, I am told that I am doing so because I am looking for a thug….when in actuality, these guys have confused me to the point that I just have to pick one and hope that he is the nice guy.

So my question is-do you act differently depending upon a girl’s race, and why?

Why do guy rely on thier wallet to attract women ? ?

Don’t men know that women don’t get turned on sexually by way of money. Seducing women with your personality( sincere charm, wit , confidence, smile, and of course doesn’t look as bad as the elephant man) is the only way to turn women on sexually.

Money will only turn on there greedy side. And when you finally get sex after 3 or 4 dates you paid, she give it to you because of obligation not because she hot for you. But if you can turn her on wit ya personality she cant help but jump on you after the second date and will probably take you out and pay on the 3rd date.

Nice Guy’s game(how they get money) is money. Real men’s game is himself. I advice you guys to save ya money and learn to talk to women. What do y’all think, guys and gals ?

Question for grown up women that think they're mature?

Hi, I’m 21 yrs old, 6 ft tall, muscular, brown hair, green eyes, and a "nice guy". I’m currently single, and would like to ask someone out. I don’t really know anybody, so it’s going to be a stranger. As a women, how would you like to be approached by a guy you don’t know. Lets say the setting is in a grocery store or something. Are there pick up lines that work? How should it be done? What I don’t want to do is get rejected over and over and just freak a bunch of women out. So if you were single, and open for dating, and a good looking guy came up to you, what would you want him to say, and how would you like him to ask you out?

How do you approach women….?

Im not used to talking to women and flirting with them. Im a nice guy.. but my social skills are not the greatest.. How do you start talking to women that you dont know… Im not desperate and looking for sex.. I just want to start dating someone to enjoy life with.. but i have to figure out how to talk to them first.. Thanks for any advice

need advice on girls and how to get them?

but most importantly i need advice on accepting myself. I’m 18 and need advice on how to talk to and get girls, when ever i talk to a girl or anybody i don’t know i mumble or talk too low. I know that girls love a man that is confident enough to be himself but i don’t really have much confidence, i care alot about what people think and i don’t really accept myself because i’m some what of a nice guy and i know people (especially girls) mess over nice guys, and nice people seem to get messed over by everybody. I hate being so nice and sensitive, i’m not saying i want to be cold hearted but more tougher and assertive. I really need help, i’m a grown man now and i still can’t get girls. And I know some smart ass gon say try drinking and i already do that and trust me i feel good when i drink because that releases every inhibition i have because i don’t care what people think and i just do whatever but i don’t want to become reliant on alcohol because then i would become an alcoholic with worse problems than what i have. So can I please get some advice?

How do average looking guys attract women?

I just started my first year of college two weeks ago. I’ve never had a gf, sadly, because I’m just a shy, nice guy. I’ve always fallen in the ‘friend’s zone’ right away. It seems like girls want the guy who is outgoing, confident, and they don’t seem to care that those are the guys who ALWAYS wind up cheating.

I just dont’ know what to do to make a girl start a convo with me. I can’t start the convo because I’m avg looking at best and I feel like I’m making a fool of myself because I know they aren’t interested in me. I’m a really nice guy, I’m pretty smart, I’m interesting.. but I’m just too nice and quiet. I would never cheat on a girl EVER, but it just doesn’t seem like that’s a quality girls want, sadly. I noticed so far one girl who was giving me a few smiles during our first speech once, but when I went to strike up a convo with her a different day, she seemed bored and uninterested in talking to me.

I find it hard to be confident because no girls give me the time of day.

Guys? Would u pay for lessons on how to pick up woman?

I have afew acquaintances who think I should start classes and charge guys to learn how to pick up women. I am really good at it, and was thinking of using it to make extra cash. How much would you pay for say a month with 2 classes a week?
This is real help, not just new age be yourself stuff.
Wow, all these guys are good at picking up woman? I doubt it, I very rarely see some guy capable of doing it well. And around here mostly it consists of "can I buy you a drink" 30 times until one says yes.
As for the women, do you not date? Because the guy you went out with learned to pick you up from someone. I am not talking about the guys who already learned how, duh….Just the ones who need help and never had an older brother, friend or other to help them. Get off your high horses and look around, lot’s of guys didn’t have the teachers we had and could use some real help, and girls if want to meet a nice guy what’s wrong with them asking you out? How else are you going to get dates?Sheessh sometime the people her can be awful shallow.

Women: how should men approach you?

I’m really really confused about how to walk up and talk to women. Women are usually very cold, aloof and not often very friendly to me and I don’t really understand why. I look nice, I’m not a jerk nor an overly nice guy. And I look and dress nice. I want to get over my fear of approaching women I don’t know, but I’m afraid women will be weirded out, since that’s how they often act if I ask them out.

Let’s say I’m at a nice mall, or on campus at my school, or a festival, just somewhere a lot of people are where it’s not unreasonable for a man to approach, but not a club or a bar. What is the best way to approach if I’m decent looking and dressed well?

The idea I had was if a girl is walking somewhere, to ask for directions, and if she in a friendly manner and I sense she won’t blow me off I’ll smile and say "Oh I know where it was, I just wanted to talk to you. But I had to see if you were friendly first!" and introduce myself. How would you respond to an approach like that? The other thing I want to do is just go up with a smile and say "Hi… you are just so cute, so of course I had to come talk to you."

I’m pretty shy so it’s going to be difficult for me, but I’m dead-set at getting over my fear of approaching attractive women. I hear from time to time that I’m handsome and should have a girlfriend but I just never approach anyone! I don’t want to meet girls at parties or bars or clubs because I’ve had nothing but bad luck with that. Any advice would be appreciated!
I know the obvious things, like hold eye contact, don’t stare at her breasts, smile, ask open ended questions, have a sense of humor, don’t be needy or beg for her number/a date, don’t talk about myself too much, etc. What else needs to be there for there to be chemistry?

I want to know why douchebags attract hot women, from the perspective of a douchebag?

Douchebags! Listen up, this question is for you. So this whole thing about hot women being attracted to douchebags has been baffling me as of recent (especially considering I recently graduated from a college, JMU, where there are a LOT of hot women and a LOT of douchebags, who always end up together), so I’ve been reading up on it a little. Thing is, a lot of the articles/postings written about that subject are written either by 1) women who AREN’T the type of girl to go after a douchebag, or 2) guys who aren’t douchebags who are also baffled by that question, or 3) women who are attracted to douchey guys but don’t quite have enough self-awareness to really know why.

So I wanna hear about it FROM the perspective of a douchebag– no more speculcation from dudes who are having trouble getting laid. I’ll often hear douchebags really know how to play the "game", say the right things to women, subtly attract them with certain actions, and know how to get them into bed. I wanna hear what those things are that they do, AND why they so easily attract women, often even when they’re NOT even running game (i.e. demeanor, personality characteristics, thinking process, etc); I wanna hear ALL of it, from their perspective.

And by the way, I am a very good looking guy, though I’m kind of slender (155-160 lbs), and am a really good dancer. However, I’m also a pretty nice guy, and really not that douchey at all. Despite my looks I have trouble bedding hot women and I wanna start changing that.

And please don’t tell me that "well if a hot girl would go for those kind of guys why would you want her, she’s just not good enough for you then"; I’ll be the judge of that. Furthermore, sometimes you just wanna sleep with a hot girl and aren’t looking for a relationship anyway, so the potential long-term headaches of putting up with the kind of girl who goes for douchey guys doesn’t really apply for a one-night romp in bed.

C’mon douches, I know you’re out there. Help me out, will ya? I wanna hear what YOU have to say.

How do i cope with only being able to attract ugly fat women?

Im a 21 year old virgin and i hate it. However While I can get fatties, and fuglies, I know the only way I’ll get the hot, athletic white 18 year olds – the kind of girls who drive men of all ages crazy – is by paying. Trying to get these girls is a whole different ball game. It’s like the difference between making your high school basketball team and making it to the NBA. When I approach the former, I can see their faces light up. When I approach the latter, I get treated like a leper. Im not good looking either, i have no personality, and no confidence, so its understandable that i can only attract ugly fat desperate women. (i know i want what i cant get) Im a nice guy and that seems to only attract ugly women. So i have several questions; first, How do i get rid of the ugly fat chicks? Second, would going to a high class hooker be my only real chance of having sex with a hot chick? Third how do i cope with being out of the league of the women i want? I cant get confidence, i cant improve my looks, and i cant build personality. Am i doomed to die a virgin?

how do i get the girl i love more then anything to forgive me?

i started talking to this girl in january and we talked and got to know eachother and i had flowers sent to her house for vday and we finally met . ive seen her around out school and was deeply attracted 2 her and we met and we stated hanging out and kept talking but shes 16 and im 19 and her parents thing tht im too old and want something else which isnt true but her parents like me especially her mom so we started hanging out more once summer started and kissed a couple time s and i fell in love and i told her tht and she felt it too but about 4 weeks ago she found out tht i told her 14 year old sister she was pretty and tht kinda freaked her out how i flirted with her but they r close sisters and im friends with her but i dnt have feelings for her sister but she didnt like it and said this isnt working maybe when we r older .but i dont wanna lose her cause im in love with her and i cant just throw tht away and im pretty sure she still likes me but we do still talk but its not the same kind of talking cause she said shes not gonna go so fast this time and shes puting her walls up ..idk what to do cause shes very pretty and shes a good girl she can get anyone and idont wanna lose her to another guy i know i screwed up and theres other fish in the sea but she is my sea…can anyone help me with this
i told her sister tht cause she things shes ugly and me being a nice guy had to open my big mouth

How do i get girls to notice me?

Ok. Im a nice guy, not fat, but i have big frame, and I’m nice to be around. Any small tips on just how to muscle my way into the social scene?

How can an Asian man with small penis size attract women?

please serious answers only. that whole be a nice guy thing doesnt work at all.

Guys what approach do you take when approaching women?

Do you take the aggressive and bold approach and just say whatever’s on your mind approaching as many women as possible knowing it won’t work all the time but eventually it WILL work on some girl or do you take the nice guy, gentlemanly, take it slow approach? And I know it’s best to just be yourself but when approaching you do need a plan right?

How do you pick up women?

I’ve never had any luck with women. Like they say I’ma nice guy, sweet, funny, but they never seem to like me or at least pick me as their man. What am I doing wrong or not doing? I try to be their friend but sometimes I do tend to come on too strong.

How can you get a girl you like to notice you as a potential boyfriend?

Okay, so I’m a really nice guy with some very good qualities, and i like this girl alot, as usual. But i’m just friends with her and for some reason I believe she only wants to be my friend and nothing more. Now I really like her but I want to be more than friends with her. So besides just asking her out, how can I get the girl i like to notice me as a potential boyfriend who is really kind, generous, and respectful and instead as her good friend. I like her as a friend and I wouldn’t mind just being a friend, but it’s just that i want her to notice me as a great candidate for an excellent boyfriend. Can anyone help me? (serious answers please) Much help is appreciated.

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