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Okay for me I have a hard time trying to figure out what to say to a girl to begin with. For example the other day I saw this girl working at a food joint that I went to get something for lunch. She did not look to happy. I wanted to say, "How comes you look upset?" It ended up with me never even opening my mouth, due to me thinking to myself, come on man use something original. I notice every time I see someone in that situation I use the same boring ass line. For some reason I have these thoughts all the time. Can’t seem to be original or have an enjoyable conversation or interactions with girls that will lead anywhere.

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Wow I sound pathetic. But anycase- I’m an Indian guy living in Philadelphia and I have a hard time finding romance/relationships. I suppose I would prefer an Indian girl but there aren’t many in Philadelphia. And when I consider approaching white girls I feel like a perv because I feel like they are thinking that I *want* a *white* girl as an object or status symbol. And in anycase why would an American girl who knows nothing about Indian culture want to get involved with someone so different? I kind of want to move back to India but I have goals to accomplish here so I don’t know.

Tips on how I should approach American girls for someone in my situation?
You’re right. But I’m 28 years old and American pre/teen opinions wouldn’t help.

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This question has probably been thought of many times, but never asked.

YOU, THE GUY are:

1) Nice, soft-spoken individual, but outgoing once you get warmed up

2) Minimal dating experience, but you’ve been in long term relationships (You have a hard time getting women, but when you do you know what to do)

3) Do not care for the limelight

4) Do not care so much for material things

5) Not very observant of your environment (oblivious)

6) You have a big ego only when "threatened"

YOUR GIRLFRIEND is:

1) High-maintenance, and needs the limelight to show people she is present (Center of Attention and needs to control the every situation all the time)

2) Very experienced in dating and knows how to pick and choose men at will and anytime – and dump them when the timing is right (goes through dates like photocopy paper in a copy machine)

3) Very good at observing and analyzing situations (especially at the bar and club scene)

4) Has a liking for designer clothing (materialistic)

5) Big ego all around (charm has a big part to play in this)

With that in mind, here’s a scenario:

Let’s say you two have dating for less than a year and she wants to break up. The primary reason is that she wants to date other guys (reasoning might be because she is tired of you. She can get any guy she wants by the way.

Now, in order for her not to feel guilty enjoying the "spoils of war" she wants to help you out. She tells you that she will go with you to places such as coffee shops, supermarkets, bars, and nightclubs, just to name a few places, and teach you how to flirt and pick up women so you can move forward with your life without her. And as an added bonus she is willing to set you up with her friends (sounds condescending if you ask me).

But anyhow, she is willing to do that for you so that you don’t get left out in the cold.

Would any of you guys be willing to let your girlfriend do this for you once you two break up?

I WOULDN’T! The suggestion of wanting to help me get women is already offensive as is. But I would like to hear input from everybody, especially guys that this might be happening to.

HONEST AND THOROUGH ANSWERS ONLY!

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I sometimes have a really hard time approaching woman and i would like some tips on how to approach and start a good conversation. Please help.

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This doesnt have to be for relationship, I still have hard time appraching women even when I am not looking for relationship ( I am not).

Alot of times I just stare for couple seconds and then look somewhere else, sometimes girls smile back when they walk past me, what should I do when this happens?

Please give me general tips and behavior I should do and maybe not do.

I am very direct and confident person (my friends tell me this all the time). I am usually quiet, I look older then I am (i am 19 but look like 25 usually wear nice clothes (classical no ghetto).

Also, I get this feeling that when I look to make eye contact with a girl, they turn their head away. It looks like they are shy but I just dont know what to do and it gets awkward cuz I dont do anything

Anyway, sorry for grammar and writing I am very tired

also posted little info about me at my profile

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i get is that in NJ white/black/spanish women are not attracted to south asian men. ive seen enough. i cant say all women but the majority dont. white/black/spanish girls in NJ cant even imagine that a south asian guy born and raised here can be a soulmate. ive seen brown skin guys get rejected all the time. myself included. no we dont smell bad, or bad accent. we are educated, clean cut….i guess they dont see as sexual or attractive. ive approached hundreds of girls all shapes and size but nothing. i go by the personality. actually women go by what they feel rather than what they say. makes me wonder y im even posting here. some people say keep on approaching, one will say yes. kind of hard to do that when the white girl says f-off before u even say anything, than u go to second girl and she ignores u, third girl tells u to get out of her country. all of this has happened to me. i get told i look colombian. so my point is how can one continue to approach when women talk back like that. the ones that dont and i show interest say no thanks and walk away. i see black guys get all types of girls way easier. maybe hollywood has given the stamp of approval for white women to date black men. black women just dont like me. we have a great connection and when i call them its no answer.
well im 30years old now. never had a gf. im not the loner type but became one not by choice. my prime years are gone. not in my 20′s anymore. ive learned to make friends with the lonlieness. gets easier. ive had a hard time finding a social circle so im usually by myself. from diners to movies to clubs i go by myself. get used to it. the hate just makes u numb after a while.

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i get is that in NJ white/black/spanish women are not attracted to south asian men. ive seen enough. i cant say all women but the majority dont. white/black/spanish girls in NJ cant even imagine that a south asian guy born and raised here can be a soulmate. ive seen brown skin guys get rejected all the time. myself included. no we dont smell bad, or bad accent. we are educated, clean cut….i guess they dont see as sexual or attractive. ive approached hundreds of girls all shapes and size but nothing. i go by the personality. actually women go by what they feel rather than what they say. makes me wonder y im even posting here. some people say keep on approaching, one will say yes. kind of hard to do that when the white girl says f-off before u even say anything, than u go to second girl and she ignores u, third girl tells u to get out of her country. all of this has happened to me. i get told i look colombian. so my point is how can one continue to approach when women talk back like that. the ones that dont and i show interest say no thanks and walk away. i see black guys get all types of girls way easier. maybe hollywood has given the stamp of approval for white women to date black men. black women just dont like me. we have a great connection and when i call them its no answer.
well im 30years old now. never had a gf. im not the loner type but became one not by choice. my prime years are gone. not in my 20′s anymore. ive learned to make friends with the lonlieness. gets easier. ive had a hard time finding a social circle so im usually by myself. from diners to movies to clubs i go by myself. get used to it. the hate just makes u numb after a while.

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Hey guys how are?
I am actually very flattered to see that many girls on that site are REALLY committed to trying to help all kind of guys to get over their shyness and start meeting the women of their dreams it is really sweet now it is my turn to get some advice!

I met more than one women in bookstores or shopping centers and most of the women are really nice and polite some interested some not, no problems. However, I have a hard time approaching in the bus because there are many people around and on the street because I hate creeping out girls, I am not a creep, I am not a stalker so I want to know what approach scares you and what approach doesn’t scare you, I am not interested in what to say as it is different from girl to girl as long as it is not a pickup line but I am interested in knowing how to make her feel comfortable when I approach in those scenerios thanks?
Guys thanks for answer, it was great! However I am interested in the positive aspects of approaching not negative, I don’t ever go on the bus or in the street and use sexual comments or shower a woman with a compliments. Also I am talking about approaching a woman on the street in the day time when there are lots of people around (City and shopping streets)! Thanks. One more thing I am interested in the answer of girls who are Comfortable talking to strangers, not the answers of the ones who get freaked out by it.
Sorry for what I wrote in the additional details, just ignore it and say whatever you wanna say! Again I am sorry for writing it.

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Well I go to college and I wondering how do I apporach and meet new women on campus. Its hard for me to just go up to random girls and say things like "Hey Hows it going" or w/e. I have a hard time coming up with things to say that can start conversations, I suck at convo starters.

I go to a commuter college so meeting new women is hard for me, and I need some ideas.

How can I approach women without feeling afraid?
So your saying that I should try and talk to girls in my class in college?

I am really shy, so holding conversation is hard for me. Whats a good way to practice and make it easier.

So class is a good place where else, maybe clubs or parties or my friends.

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Hi all,
I’m 26, and haven’t had a serious relationship in a long time due to health issues(Chronic muscle pain) And now my self esteem is some what low, so im having a hard time both finding women and approaching them. I’ve met a couple online, but nothing ever seems to work out. How do I find some good single women at my age? And how do I approach them? Thanks!

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Im kind of having a hard time building confidence to talk to a girl. I mean Ive gotten alot of comments on saying that "Im cute" lol and things like that but I cant seem to get enough confidence to go up and talk to a girl. Its more of a problem I dont really know how to approach them and what to say. Any help?

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I am a good looking successful young man who has a hard time approaching women in social situations. Once the conversation is going i do great and always have a good time. I am just fearful of that first approach and the time shortly after.I am a great guy with a lot to offer, just don’t know how to show someone new. Ladies answers only please. Thanks.

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i guess there are guys out there who do have a hard time attracting women why do you think that is? do you think that it could somewhat the parents fault?

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I grew up in the North and now I live in the South. I seem to be having a hard time getting a girlfriend, and I’m not sure what the problem is. I’m a muscular guy and I notice women checking me out & I know I’m not Fugly. I admit I’m a bit shy to start a conversation, but once I’m in a conversation I have no problem talking. And I really don’t want be like most of the guys in the area who seem to hit on anything with 2 legs and a croch. The funny part is that everytime I head back north to visit family and friends, I have women hit on me all the time. What is the deal?

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