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im kinda shy and i need a way to start a convo with girls in my class. i want to get a girlfriend btw im 14 (freshman)
People always say, that to attract women, one has to be confident and not be shy.
Well I am 18 and I feel I have changed a lot from the 15 yr old shy nerdy high schooler I was.
But at this point, I feel like if I were to change anymore it would be an act.
Yes I go out occasionally, yes I talk to girls at college. I have many female collegues, some almost-girlfriends.
After all, my interests range from sciences, to sci-fi movies and stuff like that. I do have an artistic streak as well. I am confident in my abilities.
But, no matter how confident I get, I’m still not gonna go on stage and break dance / spin on my head ,or walk about to a girl and just slap her on the @ss… that’s just not me.
And why should I have to be that type of person ?
Women always say that men should accept them for their with any flaws, yet women continue to look at a very narrow spectrum of men.
i want to see what responses that i get from both men and woman on this topic. Thanks guys.
I am assuming on a girls perspective on things they are going to say its cheating and on a guys perspective its going to not be considered cheating. I am guessing on that is going to happen but im not sure. I would think it would be cheating.
There’s a girl I like in school but do not know how to approach or what to talk about etc. but if I had to relate to a character from a movie I would say im kinda like John from dear john what do girls think ? 
I have afew acquaintances who think I should start classes and charge guys to learn how to pick up women. I am really good at it, and was thinking of using it to make extra cash. How much would you pay for say a month with 2 classes a week?
This is real help, not just new age be yourself stuff.
Wow, all these guys are good at picking up woman? I doubt it, I very rarely see some guy capable of doing it well. And around here mostly it consists of "can I buy you a drink" 30 times until one says yes.
As for the women, do you not date? Because the guy you went out with learned to pick you up from someone. I am not talking about the guys who already learned how, duh….Just the ones who need help and never had an older brother, friend or other to help them. Get off your high horses and look around, lot’s of guys didn’t have the teachers we had and could use some real help, and girls if want to meet a nice guy what’s wrong with them asking you out? How else are you going to get dates?Sheessh sometime the people her can be awful shallow.
So, my step brothers said that high school guys will say or do ANYTHING to get into a girls pants.
So for a fun little question:
1. What is the craziest thing you would do for a girl in hopes of getting some?
2. What kind of things would you tell her and do you think you would actually mean them?
I’m not trying to brag but I have a looks though not that really so handsome. I find women as a necessity of a man without her, your life is incomplete. However here’s my problem I see many girls everyday but it seems they snob me or they take me for granted.It’s like my physical appearance is not enough for them to be seduced and trap them on my snare so that i can date with them. Do you know some tips on how to attract women?or how to attract beautiful women?If you can give advice how to attract a woman that would be great and will be greatly appreciated
How to approach women in public places
How can u approach a girl whom i had never met.
In a place like universities (I am an Uni student and i want to talk with girls whom i don’t even have the slightest relation i mean they are not in my classes)
Do women like to be approached by decent single men in public places like Bookstores, Coffee shop, Gym etc? If yes, then what is the best way for guys to approach them without freaking them out. The type of women I like are hard to find in clubs and bars, however its difficult to tell if women in other public places are open for relationships. So wondering if its okay to approach them in public places.
1. If its okay, then how to approach women in a public place?say something that i can start a conversation!!
2. If the person is interested, how to ask for contact information for future meet-up?
thanks in advance for all answers! really appreciate it!
I’m 20 years old and I consider myself good looking, I get good grades in school, and I’m a nice person. But I notice I attract women in their mid-late 20s with kids already. Why is this?
Also, I notice I get compliments on my looks more so from guys than I do from girls. I’ve had guys in high school tell me I’m sexy and stuff. I’m not sure if they were kidding or not but I think they were serious. I don’t think I look gay. When I got those compliments I think I was putting gel in my hair and combing it back but so what?
In one class, our teacher said, "I won’t have to worry about guys and girls sending notes to each other in here unless you want to jump on (my name here) because he’s the most handsome person in this room." I took that as a compliment and smiled.
Also another incident was, we were talking about how to choose witnesses for signing wills. So our teacher said, "Don’t pick some old person like me who is all over the place, choose a nice young fellow like (my name here)" and he pointed at me.
When he said that to me, I smiled and took it as a compliment. But some of the other girls in the class laughed. Were they thinking, "Yea right, he’s not good looking."?
I mean when at first, I thought both of my teachers were complimenting me But at the same time, I can’t really be sure because I’m the only guy in class. Sometimes if you’re the only guy in class, people tease you.
I don’t think I’m ugly but sometimes I feel funny if people say things about my looks. I’m not sure if they’re messing with me.
I don’t think being the only guy in class is what it’s cracked up to be. I mean if my teachers just wanted to lighten the tension, why couldn’t they say something else?
I’m really really confused about how to walk up and talk to women. Women are usually very cold, aloof and not often very friendly to me and I don’t really understand why. I look nice, I’m not a jerk nor an overly nice guy. And I look and dress nice. I want to get over my fear of approaching women I don’t know, but I’m afraid women will be weirded out, since that’s how they often act if I ask them out.
Let’s say I’m at a nice mall, or on campus at my school, or a festival, just somewhere a lot of people are where it’s not unreasonable for a man to approach, but not a club or a bar. What is the best way to approach if I’m decent looking and dressed well?
The idea I had was if a girl is walking somewhere, to ask for directions, and if she in a friendly manner and I sense she won’t blow me off I’ll smile and say "Oh I know where it was, I just wanted to talk to you. But I had to see if you were friendly first!" and introduce myself. How would you respond to an approach like that? The other thing I want to do is just go up with a smile and say "Hi… you are just so cute, so of course I had to come talk to you."
I’m pretty shy so it’s going to be difficult for me, but I’m dead-set at getting over my fear of approaching attractive women. I hear from time to time that I’m handsome and should have a girlfriend but I just never approach anyone! I don’t want to meet girls at parties or bars or clubs because I’ve had nothing but bad luck with that. Any advice would be appreciated!
I know the obvious things, like hold eye contact, don’t stare at her breasts, smile, ask open ended questions, have a sense of humor, don’t be needy or beg for her number/a date, don’t talk about myself too much, etc. What else needs to be there for there to be chemistry?
Girls how to you get boyfriends! I have had 2 before but it seems really hard to get a good guy! What are some of your tricks to getting a good guy. Guys what do girls do that make you attracted to them?
So for some I’m attractive. I also work out, not because i want to be muscular but because i love the pump. I spend most of my time reading books and studying and what not.. the other time i spend working out or at work (im in my 20s).
When I go out, I tend to attract women, as I am relatively attractive and confident. However, once I get into conversation, I flop.. evidently few females really want to talk about the latest technological advances or engineering feats or how the theory of relativity can be used to prove much more than we though and the accuracy of it is outstanding.. just like how gravity as we know it is actually an incorrect theory..
anyways.. i suck at speaking to girls.. what sort of topics should I practice and use when I converse with them? Any tricks?
is it easy for a guy to get your number? i talk to a lot of girls at parties but i never go in for the kill and try to get her number, am i making it too hard for myself?
i was raised to be really polite, kind, and act like a gentleman. even tho i’m 20 and never had a girlfriend i think those qualities will give me a head start. i know how girls like to be treated and i want to show a girl how nice i am. i’m thinking flowers, etc…i know i’m bragging ; ) but how fast do you think i’ll get the girl?
I need to non-verbally attract a woman before I can even talk to her.
So How should I look at her?
Is there a special look I should give her to say I am interested?
How should I smile at her or whatever to let her know I like her?
What type of cloths should I wear?
I notice I am more attracted to women who wear more colorful cloths for instance.
I need to do something to make the girls notice me and make them come to me.
What is the first thing I should say to her?
Where should I go?
Like, I know some friends purposely wont call or meet up with their girls so that she will miss them or send anonymous love notes/presents and wait until she gets in touch. I know it’s silly but I’m curious if others do similar things and what are those things…
Firstly I want to clarify the difference for all the women out there. There are two types of men who learn this kind of thing:
Players:- Simply say and do whatever makes a woman attracted to them quickly, only temporarily and build no emotional connection essentially just to get laid.
Pick up Artists:- Learn how to be perceived as attractive by women on a deeper level and learn how to interact with women effectively so they can date the women they want to and build a working relationship.
I used to be terrible with women, one girl straddled me and I still wasn’t sure if she liked me and had no idea how to react or what to do. I was sick of always being stuck as just friends, I had enough friends. I wanted someone to show my affection towards and to be close to emotionally, I’m not going to lie, the only difference between your best friend and your boy/girl-friend is you have sex with your boy/girlfriend so that was a factor but I do not want to shag every girl and have meaningless sex, I want as most if not all “pick up artists” do; to find a special girl who is worth sharing my life with.
I was sick of it being up to fate putting me in a situation where a conversation would start with a girl and we might "click", I wanted to be in control so if I met the girl of my dreams or saw her I could go and get her or at least know how to have a go and maybe not crash and burn instantly. You have no idea girls how terrifying it can be for a guy to approach a girl, the fear of rejection was crippling.
I have read so many questions like this and all the answers are guys saying "its bull****, none of it works you are either attractive or not" and women saying "you sicken me tricking women like that just to get laid".
Guys who think its all crap; there is allot of bull**** out there written by guys who are naturally successful with women but have no idea why and make up bull**** theories. I learned by reading a few select books written by guys who have studied evolution, biology, psychology and sociology and been out and tested their theories, their stuff is correct at a fundamental scientific level. I have tried it and what they say is true. It’s not "say or do this and she will be yours", It’s "this is what women find attractive, this is why they find it attractive this is how to communicate that attractive trait to a woman".
For women who think we are tricking or manipulating you. It’s not like that. I HAVE NEVER TRICKED A WOMAN OR FAKED AN INTERACTION, everything that happened was real, we met, had a conversation and every feeling she felt was a real emotion. I just learned how to convey the positive aspects of my personality effectively. Like now i know that bragging about my car won’t do much.
Have you ever worn a push up bra, low cut top or a short skirt or worn makeup to attract guys? That is manipulating men, you are pushing our inbuilt attraction mechanisms, women are far more complex than men so why is it wrong to learn what women’s attraction mechanisms are and how to push them? You do it to men all the time, most men just don’t know how to do it to women because they are so much more complex. When it comes to attraction, men are like whistles, a couple of buttons, easy to work out, but women are like accordians, or a harp or a piano, far far more difficult.
Don’t get me wrong, I am me and I won’t change because someone doesn’t like me but I will and have changed to become a better more successful person in general which in turn has made me more attractive to women. I am not the same as every other pick up artist; I am myself I just know how to tell women who that is now.
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So my question is, now you know what a pick up artist is, what is your opinion of them? And what do you think about guys who actively tried to learn it?
so i was wondering what do women find most attractive in a guy?do girls like a challenge? what do you chracteristics do u find in a challenging guy?
I get really good results when I offer to buy them a drink but im cheap so what another way to get girls at a bar
hi I’m really new to clubbing. I consider myself pretty good looking, but I still have a lot to learn when it comes to picking up women especially at a club. I have a good friend luckily who’s pretty hot. I’m not going for her, because I’m not good enough yet , but I think she’d be willing to help me if I asked.
How exactly can she help me, besides just introducing me to friends [which she can't do right now because we're both in a foreign country right now]? I know that girls often find you more appealing when when you’re with another hot girl, but it’s got to be more complicated than that. How do I exactly use her as a pivot [is that the right term for it?] at a club to make me appear more attractive?
Any particular strategies or anything I can follow? I greatly appreciate any help!
we just broke up a few days ago and were together for a year and 4 months almost five. He said he wants to be my friend and just wants to find who he is since i have been his only real girlfriend i believe that but he is saying we might get back together one day he just needs time to himself but still wants to talk to me… i wanna stop feeling so sick when he talks about other girls how can i 
