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I am a 37 year old man who has never had a girlfriend in his life due to shyness and insecurity. I was made fun of as a child/early teen and I was put down a lot when I was in my mid teens to early twenties. I do not go out much and when I am invited out, I never go because I feel like I am not worthy of anyone’s company. Recently my attitude has started to change since I talk to more and more people. Some days my confidence level is medium to above average compared to being at a low in previous times. I never really asked out a woman in my life because I am afraid of rejection. If I do start to come out of my shell for good, how hard will it be for me to pick up women? I am average to above average looking (so people say). Keep in mind I am also a virgin with a high sex drive and am willing to have sex and do anything a woman commands in that category. My personality is said to be that I have dry humor, I am laid back but can have a hot temper when provoked after awhile. When I go play the field, how hard will it be for me to pick up women with all these traits?

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I am a 37 year old man who has never had a girlfriend in his life due to shyness and insecurity. I was made fun of as a child/early teen and I was put down a lot when I was in my mid teens to early twenties. I do not go out much and when I am invited out, I never go because I feel like I am not worthy of anyone’s company. Recently my attitude has started to change since I talk to more and more people. Some days my confidence level is medium to above average compared to being at a low in previous times. I never really asked out a woman in my life because I am afraid of rejection. If I do start to come out of my shell for good, how hard will it be for me to pick up women? I am average to above average looking (so people say). Keep in mind I am also a virgin with a high sex drive and am willing to have sex and do anything a woman commands in that category. My personality is said to be that I have dry humor, I am laid back but can have a hot temper when provoked after awhile. When I go play the field, how hard will it be for me to pick up women with all these traits?

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Now girls have told me that I’m too nice, and they would let their daughters marry me. But never themselves. I’m 21, and without a girlfriend or any idea on how to attract a girl. How can I become more of a jerk to attract women? What kind of man do women need? I’m already trying to act more selfish and more self centred.

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I feel like with dating as women we get the short end of the stick, and i mean that because i feel like alot of us just settle for guys who approach us instead of guys we are interested in and attracted too. Why are women these days so scared to approach men they are interested in? Why is it in a sense that most of us just settle for tom dick and harry because they asked us out. When Bob down the street is our type but we chicken out cause he never approached us..

im just wondering why this seems to be the case.. I always feel as if i attract the wrong type of guys and the guys that i want seem to be less aggressive when it comes to approaching and due to social "norms" i miss out since i dont want to come across as "desperate" initiating advances with a guy.

Any women had any luck approaching a guy that YOU like? or do you just sit and wait for him to do it? how do you get the guy that you like to approach you? instead of Tommy down the street who you completly dislike, approach you and ask you out? i always get the Tommy type of guys instead of the guy i like. =(

Reason why ive had such terrible luck with guys.. im very particular and i do not want to settle for less.. Ive rejected so many dinner dates and what not simply because i dont want to settle for the guy other than the one i want. (yes i have a particular guy in mind) but the guy i like does not seem to be the one to approach women… i dont think ive ever seen him with a girlfriend.. or approach a girl. I know he is not gay.. he just i think lacks social skills or courting skills and i certainly dont want to be in a position where i am the one making all the moves for him because he lacks proper skills to court a women.. no way.. but i do like him. And i dont know what to do.. i guess im into him cause he is not a "player" like most guys and i want to be his first (he is a virgin). But at the same time i dont want to be the one making all the first moves. I am not a virgin and ive dated before so i dont know what to expect with someone who has never had sex and who hasn’t dated much.
@ meow kitty, you know judging by your name/avatar i would not be surprised if you do that.. lmao.

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Now girls have told me that I’m too nice, and they would let their daughters marry me. But never themselves. I’m 21, and without a girlfriend or any idea on how to attract a girl. How can I become more of a jerk to attract women? What kind of man do women need? I’m already trying to act more selfish and more self centred.

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I’m 42 and married but my wife is a total dud. She’s fat and old and doesn’t try to do anything. We have two kids I don’t want to pay for 2 households, so I’d rather just have a girlfriend on the side. Another mom in the neighborhood would be convenient, assuming she is not fat, although I’d consider a younger unmarried girl as a second option.

There is a great gym just down the street about a half mile, and I joined a year ago. I go 3-5 times a week and I’m in great shape. There are all kinds of hot chicks there; old, young, middle age, married, single, pregnant, etc. But at least half of them are really pretty sexy. How do I further my situation and get some action??? I have no idea. I’m not a player at all. A few of them I chit-chat if I know them from somewhere else, but otherwise I never find a way to introduce myself to people I don’t know.

How do I go about this?

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alright i have a pretty good friend named Madison… well the only problem is that i want to be more than friends ….. how do i get this girl to be my girlfriend then?

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Hey all. I am nice, funny, and sweet. I am a good looking dude as well. i just don’t know why i cant get a girlfriend. I would treat a girl really well. there are 2 girls at work and i like and i would like a relationship with. I am too chicken to make the first move thought. I am hoping they will make the first move but that probably will not happen. Oh yeah i have a ton of self confidence. I have long brown hair i ware Black and white DC’s. Blue jeans and a T-Shirt with a band on it is what i usually ware. I have that rocker look. I just don’t know what is it about me that sucks. I am a really cool person. don’t understand how guys that are complete assholes get all the ladies? Can someone please give me some pointers or some advice? Thanks

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Hi. I’m a 24 yr old male who suffers from asperger’s syndrome (mild form of autism) and therefore am not good at socialising or making friends. I am trying to find a girlfriend on ‘are you interested’ on facebook but am worried about whether my profile is attractive or not. The reason for my worry is that i have only had one girlfriend and I’ve found most other boys have pics of themselves at clubs, with mates and with girls, whereas I do not. Is this essential? if so any ideas on how i get these pics in a short space of time.

Could you look at my profile and give me honest feedback and i will be very grateful. to find my profile page, my email address is alexjones.1985@yahoo.co.uk.

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First, let me clarify that my girlfriend is a friend that is a girl. She is a hot chilean model that has win several beauty pageants. I was kind of sad and decided to ask her, how to approach women. She told me that the secret is not to show interest. But by not showing interest, it does not mean being a snob. It means not showing her interest in a physical or provocative manner. I should show her interest in friendly manner and I should not talk that much. For example, if I see a beautiful girl working in a store or maybe being a host in a restaurant, a perfect way of winning her heart is the following. Just go towards her, calmly give her a chocolate and tell her "You look tired, I hope this can brighten your day!." She will be thrilled with the gesture, even if she responds to you or not. If she does not respond, walk away. If she does, STAY QUIET! and let her do the talking. The secret at this point, is not talking that much and let her do the talking. If you get her phone, call her after a couple of days, but do not let a whole week pass. In conclusion, just advance to a woman and give her a nice compliment that reflects friendliness. Do not mention her clothes, or how her smiles makes you happy, or how classy she is, or how seeing her has brighten your day. Anything that has to do with her body, clothes or gesture ignites her defensive mechanism. After reading this, could anyone answer the following questions"
1) Is this true,?
2) Could the previous example actually win the attention or heart of a woman?
3) Would you please give more examples to win the attention of woman in the following scenarios: a) working in mall
b)party or club
c) gym
d) university
4) Could you please give me your personal input and advice?
Thanks!
Please, give me input without using CHOCOLATE. I do not carry a candy bar wherever I go! LOL!
I suggested that maybe I could give a girl that I have seen that is working all day a bottle of water and tell her " You look tired, I hope this helps you cheer up a little bit!"

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I’ll start off by saying that I am 21 and have never had a girlfriend. I am very shy and have social anxiety disorder. Having a casual conversation with a friend or family member is difficult enough, let alone inititiating a conversation with a stranger. Over they years I have just developed a notion that no woman would give me the time of day and it just gets worse with time. Could any women or men who have overcome this offer me some advice?

http://s125.photobucket.com/albums/p72/meekjones/

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I’m 21 years old and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I’ve never actually told a girl that I like her, just the thought of doing so terrifies me. I’d like to get over this stupid phobia of mine but I don’t know how. I’m currently enrolled in college and I have a job where I see many women around my age so the opportunity is there. So my question is: how can I get over my fear, and what should I say to someone I’d like to potentially date?

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I have this guy in my class who i guess i sort of have a crush on, but i wont do anything (and it wont go anywhere) because he has a girlfriend. Even though i understand that i cant like him i still do and get really nervous when talking to him and blush a lot!!!!! Do you think this makes him feel uncomfortable?

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I have a friend who is relatively succesful career wise, but has not gotten laid in like 5 years. On the other hand, I have a cousin who is a total bum—works a dead end job, and I think he lives at home at 35 years old, yet he always seems to have a pretty girlfriend. My question is, how common, is it for a man to be sucessful in his career but unscusseful with women or vice versa?

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I have this guy in my class who i guess i sort of have a crush on, but i wont do anything (and it wont go anywhere) because he has a girlfriend. Even though i understand that i cant like him i still do and get really nervous when talking to him and blush a lot!!!!! Do you think this makes him feel uncomfortable?

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Well I’m 21 turning 22 in the summer and I have yet to have a girlfriend. I never show it, but I really want one. All of my friends have girlfriends and whenever we hang out, I’m always the only one who doesn’t have a girl to cuddle with and love; it’s not a great feeling.
I think I’ve tried just about everything on trying to attract girls, I’m in pretty good shape and I dress nice but I’ve still come up short. I think my biggest problem is that I’m too "nice". A lot of guys tell me that I have to be a dick and some people suggest to be even cocky. Does this really work? Should I really start acting slightly more like an a**hole?

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I didn’t get an efficient amount of response the last time I posted this question so I’m posting it again.

Well I’m 21 turning 22 in the summer and I have yet to have a girlfriend. I never show it, but I really want one. All of my friends have girlfriends and whenever we hang out, I’m always the only one who doesn’t have a girl to cuddle with and love; it’s not a great feeling.
I think I’ve tried just about everything on trying to attract girls, I’m in pretty good shape and I dress nice but I’ve still come up short. I think my biggest problem is that I’m too "nice". A lot of guys tell me that I have to be a dick and some people suggest to be even cocky. Does this really work? Should I really start acting slightly more like an a**hole?

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i’m 18 years old and just moved to a new city by myself. I’m financially well off because my parents are rich and they bought me my own house and cars to myself. I go to college but i dont know anybody, and today i started my first day and went to the library and saw this girl and i smiled at her and she smiled back. i studied for a bit and then asked her if she wanted to get a coffee with me and she said she couldnt cuz she was busy. i persisted but she didnt give in….

i look pretty ok and i think i got a nice personality… so how do i get a hot girlfriend if i dont know anyone in the city to begin with?

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I often see women that I think are cute and nice out at the store (either as customers or workers) or in the library or just walking down the street, and I want to know how to approach them for like a date.

I also have considered going out to bars (if I can get in I’m only 19) to get some dates. I have wanted to start dating (yes start as in I haven’t been on a real date before unless eating with a girlfriend alone at lunch in high school counts)

At first it was a confidence issue but now I’m okay with my confidence enough to want to try asking for a few dates. I’m just not sure how to do the asking.

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I am 12 and I really want a girlfriend. All my friends say I should have one but I’m nervous around girls. So how do I get "them" to like me??? Thanks

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Hey as title states I just wanted some advice on approaching women, being confident, and taking it further from there, my description is going to be long so if you dont want to read, just give me some general tips and state so, also please note that i am not trying to be a pick up artist or anything, i actually care about my friends…

Alright, as title says im 20, 2nd year college student. I dont know why but I just have trouble making good friendships especially with women. I never had a girlfriend, i had an intimacy back in high school, i am guessing this has been too hard on me, which would explain all this.

I like fashion, technology, cars, science, lazyness, and lots of people consider me intelligent. I do have good amount of close guy friends and people i know. And for some reason all of them are VERY good with women, i do go out with them as a sidekick, and i dont even know what im doing wrong, when i ask them about it, they get so suprised, they think im joking or something. (sarcasm).

When i try to approach, I can usually get into the conversation, but dont know what to do afterwards, it just dies in first 20 mins.

So any suggestions hints tips will be greatly appreciated, Please feel free to email me with further detail, I would greatly appreciate it and will do you favors as well

Also sorry for the length its fine if you didnt read it

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