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im kinda shy and i need a way to start a convo with girls in my class. i want to get a girlfriend btw im 14 (freshman)
I’m really really confused about how to walk up and talk to women. Women are usually very cold, aloof and not often very friendly to me and I don’t really understand why. I look nice, I’m not a jerk nor an overly nice guy. And I look and dress nice. I want to get over my fear of approaching women I don’t know, but I’m afraid women will be weirded out, since that’s how they often act if I ask them out.
Let’s say I’m at a nice mall, or on campus at my school, or a festival, just somewhere a lot of people are where it’s not unreasonable for a man to approach, but not a club or a bar. What is the best way to approach if I’m decent looking and dressed well?
The idea I had was if a girl is walking somewhere, to ask for directions, and if she in a friendly manner and I sense she won’t blow me off I’ll smile and say "Oh I know where it was, I just wanted to talk to you. But I had to see if you were friendly first!" and introduce myself. How would you respond to an approach like that? The other thing I want to do is just go up with a smile and say "Hi… you are just so cute, so of course I had to come talk to you."
I’m pretty shy so it’s going to be difficult for me, but I’m dead-set at getting over my fear of approaching attractive women. I hear from time to time that I’m handsome and should have a girlfriend but I just never approach anyone! I don’t want to meet girls at parties or bars or clubs because I’ve had nothing but bad luck with that. Any advice would be appreciated! 
I know the obvious things, like hold eye contact, don’t stare at her breasts, smile, ask open ended questions, have a sense of humor, don’t be needy or beg for her number/a date, don’t talk about myself too much, etc. What else needs to be there for there to be chemistry?
i was raised to be really polite, kind, and act like a gentleman. even tho i’m 20 and never had a girlfriend i think those qualities will give me a head start. i know how girls like to be treated and i want to show a girl how nice i am. i’m thinking flowers, etc…i know i’m bragging ; ) but how fast do you think i’ll get the girl?
Firstly I want to clarify the difference for all the women out there. There are two types of men who learn this kind of thing:
Players:- Simply say and do whatever makes a woman attracted to them quickly, only temporarily and build no emotional connection essentially just to get laid.
Pick up Artists:- Learn how to be perceived as attractive by women on a deeper level and learn how to interact with women effectively so they can date the women they want to and build a working relationship.
I used to be terrible with women, one girl straddled me and I still wasn’t sure if she liked me and had no idea how to react or what to do. I was sick of always being stuck as just friends, I had enough friends. I wanted someone to show my affection towards and to be close to emotionally, I’m not going to lie, the only difference between your best friend and your boy/girl-friend is you have sex with your boy/girlfriend so that was a factor but I do not want to shag every girl and have meaningless sex, I want as most if not all “pick up artists” do; to find a special girl who is worth sharing my life with.
I was sick of it being up to fate putting me in a situation where a conversation would start with a girl and we might "click", I wanted to be in control so if I met the girl of my dreams or saw her I could go and get her or at least know how to have a go and maybe not crash and burn instantly. You have no idea girls how terrifying it can be for a guy to approach a girl, the fear of rejection was crippling.
I have read so many questions like this and all the answers are guys saying "its bull****, none of it works you are either attractive or not" and women saying "you sicken me tricking women like that just to get laid".
Guys who think its all crap; there is allot of bull**** out there written by guys who are naturally successful with women but have no idea why and make up bull**** theories. I learned by reading a few select books written by guys who have studied evolution, biology, psychology and sociology and been out and tested their theories, their stuff is correct at a fundamental scientific level. I have tried it and what they say is true. It’s not "say or do this and she will be yours", It’s "this is what women find attractive, this is why they find it attractive this is how to communicate that attractive trait to a woman".
For women who think we are tricking or manipulating you. It’s not like that. I HAVE NEVER TRICKED A WOMAN OR FAKED AN INTERACTION, everything that happened was real, we met, had a conversation and every feeling she felt was a real emotion. I just learned how to convey the positive aspects of my personality effectively. Like now i know that bragging about my car won’t do much.
Have you ever worn a push up bra, low cut top or a short skirt or worn makeup to attract guys? That is manipulating men, you are pushing our inbuilt attraction mechanisms, women are far more complex than men so why is it wrong to learn what women’s attraction mechanisms are and how to push them? You do it to men all the time, most men just don’t know how to do it to women because they are so much more complex. When it comes to attraction, men are like whistles, a couple of buttons, easy to work out, but women are like accordians, or a harp or a piano, far far more difficult.
Don’t get me wrong, I am me and I won’t change because someone doesn’t like me but I will and have changed to become a better more successful person in general which in turn has made me more attractive to women. I am not the same as every other pick up artist; I am myself I just know how to tell women who that is now.
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So my question is, now you know what a pick up artist is, what is your opinion of them? And what do you think about guys who actively tried to learn it?
Im going to be a freshman in september. I have always been a huge geek and pretty fat, but iv lost alot of weight playing football in the last year and my older sister and her friends have worked on getting me cooler (cloths, etc). But i have still never had a girlfriend. the head coach said that im the fastest on the team by far and that hes hoping ill b starting on varsity by the end of the season (wide reciever). im pretty sure that will help my chances with girls, but i still have no idea how to get girls to like me, because im not that atractive (people have sed a 4 or so) and im still a little overwieght. thanks!!
Most of these questions on here are for a guy calling a girl. Two nights ago, a girl randomly came up to me and asked me if I had a girlfriend, and then for my number. How long do you think she would wait to call/text me? I hope I gave her the right phone number! Haha. It happened very fast.
Ok so me and another single guy friend went to a club to practice our "Ahem" game… But we both got shot down, hard, that night. Its always discouraging, i have a harder time than my friend putting myself together and trying again. I think the whole time we were there, about 3 hours, i only managed to work up enough nerve to try twice (and nearly got my ass kicked on one of those try’s). Something has to be seriously wrong here.
As a man i feel that i am obligated to have at least some ability in seducing a woman on the dance floor. I say seduce because the goal is strictly sex, nothing more. I would never look for a girlfriend in a club.
So how much training or time does it take to be able to do this like the other guys i see on the dance floor? Some of those guys clearly don’t look like they deserve to dance with such beautiful women.
Also, for bonus points: Are there any other social settings besides clubs that work just as well for picking up women for a night? Of all social settings, i feel the absolute least comfortable in a club.
Sorry to sound like a creep. I’m usually not, but when your manhood is challenged like this, well, it makes you take progressively more drastic measures.
Because i like this girl,who is really HOT and cute and funny and she is a professional track and field runner in 400 m.I’m also a track runner i run sprints but im not professional yet.and although she lives in another city,it’s not a problem,because i go there almost every other weekend.
Does anyone have any advice on how to ask her out and make her my girlfriend?
I don’t have a girlfriend and I’m very anxious about it, I want to try and meet someone..
i need tips on how to introduce myself..
I dress kinda butch at school, and most of the people I talk to, and their friends know I am a lesbian because I am open about my sexuality (not to my family or parents).
I am trying to attract other lesbians/ bi girls at my high school that I don’t know about, or that don’t know about me (ultimate goal: get a girlfriend)
What are things I can do/ wear to get the message out to people I don’t talk to, but not to extreme so it gets around at home?
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How do you get a girl to like you is a fundamental question in a guy’s life.
I bet you have encountered guys who got the most successful, beautiful girls and left you astonished by their success. You couldn’t find anything outstanding about them and you are absolutely sure it is not jealousy that has blinded you.
These guys weren’t extremely smart or successful. There was nothing you could have pointed out and say that’s the reason why women fall at their feet. Nothing unusual about them and yet they had the secret code for cracking the essence of the question how do you get a girl to like you in an effortless manner.
Now, I know the clichés, we all know them about guys who are tough, playing it hard to get and hurt girls who keep on chasing after them begging for another rejection.
But those guys, I must ask myself, are they enjoying this unfertile dance? Maybe they do but I don’t see the point of getting a girl to like you if in the following day you don’t have the slightest interest in her.
A guy told me once that when he passes near a girl he fancies he look through her rather than at her. “Do that and that will do the job” he told me. Now maybe it works, we all suffer from this psychological bug as Graucho Marx famous quote implies: I do not want to belong to a club that accepts people like me.
However, these methods are not for me. I prefer staying naïve and authentic and get girls who like guys like me, who hasn’t lost a romantic point of view.
Anyway, the bottom line is I want a girl who is mature enough to appreciate my respectful attitude, my honesty and my ability to show affection.
I don’t want someone who is masochistic; a type of girl that wants a guy just because he doesn’t want her. I want someone stable though I must admit unstable girls also have their charms…
How to flirt with a girl is a question that occupies my mind every now and then, usually when I recognize an opportunity for an acquaintance, recruit all my wits and charms, gather my thoughts and go with high confidence towards my destination and still in spite all the efforts the opportunity often slips away because of some concealed ingredient in the communication equation.
First of all I must admit I don’t believe that flirting with a girl is a technical thing. Today you can find a book about everything: how to raise children, how to live well, ten ways to success etc…We want a manual for everything, a magic receipt so we can get what we want without sweating, without a changing process.
Well, everybody can write a manual handful of tips about how to flirt with a girl; telling you to be funny, smart, courageous, generous and charming. I guess if you felt you possess these qualities you would be the one to write a booklet of tips and advices.
Now I am not saying those advices can not be helpful; awareness is an important thing and acquiring awareness will help one in each and every aspect of his life.
So of course when you want to flirt with a girl being aware of your messages, of your body language, of the feeling you evoke will help you transmit the right messages.
The thing is acquiring awareness is a long process of self observation, growing up, understanding your needs, knowing how to identify your own emotions and recognizing the person’s you interact with emotions.
Going through this process will buy you good communication skills: with your relatives, with your friends, employers and also with complete strangers; strangers, who can potentially become your intimate partners, if only you could learn how to communicate properly.
First off, I’m a sophomore. There is this girl Danielle who i really like. No joke, she is the most amazing girl i have ever met. she is smart, funny, athletic, one of the prettiest girls that i have ever seen. i think about her a lot, but not in a creepy way. okay so i don’t know how close to get before i should ask her out. i don’t want to become too close to her i don’t think because then she might think of me as just a friend. one of my friends likes her too though, but i don’t think she likes him that way because she already turned him down once. (is that wrong to like someone that your friend likes?) and i don’t know how much to talk to her. i don’t want to seem like some creep that talks to or texts her all the time. and another thing is the "touch barrier" what kind of touching is kinda flirty but not awkward for the girl to show that i care about her? o, and what kind of compliments and how often is it good to compliment a girl? and at what point is it not weird to hang out just one on one because whenever i hang out with her it is with a group unless if it is walking with her to class alone or after school to her car. any help on this is great. i need as much advice as i can get because sadly, i have never had a girlfriend, but neither have any of my friends really. (no i am not a geek, i am athletic, smart, and decent looking.)
o and for the record, i know her already and talk to her at school every day basically.
o update!!!!:
she told my friend who also liked her that she doesn’t like him that way.
My girlfriend is quite jealous every time a girl starts to flirt with me she thinks I somehow initiated it, how can i assure her that I am not one the one who is initiating these advances.
I’m 27 m. never had a girlfriend ever, but at least i want to start meeting and connecting with women now. I’ve met women at work, … went to dance classes sometime ago. went to school for years and there was never any girl that would care about me. Well i never talk cause i’m quiet but still. I don’t feel anyone is ever interested. They may just interact with me BECAUSe they have to( example: group project at school) but doesn’t seem they have any interest in friendship or more.
Recently i met a girl at work. She’s really attractive to me, personality wise. But she’s one of those outgoing people.. she has a life already. and i’m only meeting her now cause the boss told her to come and help us temp workers. She is a permanent worker for years there.
So that girl really attracts me when i talk to her. She’s awesome but there’s no way for that to turn into anything. It’s just a temp job and it will end soon.
What else can i do? Is it just up to luck in getting friendships?
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Im a guy and i am looking for tips on how to kiss my girlfriend for the first time. We both want to kiss eachother.
Please Help.
I’m 31 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I’m afraid I might die a virgin and not be able to ever have a baby. I just don’t want to end up like lockergnome.
I like this girl, we go to the same skool. how do i get her to like me?
im a junior shes a freshman, shes kinda friends with my sister. my sistter doesnt go to the same skool. i barely ever see her except on the bus but im too shy too really talk to her. i think she has a boyfriend but i really like her. what should i do. how do i indirectly hint that i like her? please help how can i get her too like me.
im kinda shy around girls an i really need a girlfriend but ive never hadd one. i have glasses and i guess im average looking an shes really cute
I am UNDERWEIGHT(5`9 tall and 105 pounds) and I want to get a girl to like me/get a girlfriend. But it seems like EVERY girl hates skinny guys like me. So how can I get a girl(and other people) to see past that appearance and see the real me inside? Is this even possible?
Here is a picture of me if you wanna see for yourself:
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=490877905&albumID=487352&imageID=6120495
And it seems like this appearance is genetic, so I can’t change it no matter how much I eat or exercise, and I do both A LOT.
