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I am good looking, kind, have a good personality and I am confident. The only problem I have when picking up women is I have no "game". I have no clue how to flirt and end up acting friendly towards them

Women realistically, nice guys?

Do women actually like nice guys at all? and even consider them for dating?
I try to always be nice to girls, especially those of which i have liked in the past, and it has gotten me nowhere. I know all about book sources such as ‘The Game- how to pick up women’ and how they work and how to apply them, but i never use them because i want to try to establish a relationship (before i go crazy), on just being nice rather than a strategic mind trick most pick up artist would use. But i’ve had no luck so far.

But girls who i am not attracted to, i would say that i unintentionally wouldn’t treat as nice as i would otherwise, always seem to like me. Theoretically i should easily be able to establish a relationship with one of these girls, but i am just not attracted to them. They come off slightly, needy.

I’ve tried switching the tables and circumstances, by applying my attitude i would to girls i am not attracted to, to the ones i am – but this doesn’t seem to work either – because then they just think i am a jerk.

What should i do? I am great with conversations and at making girls laugh, and i am often commented upon as ‘cute’ (which i hate), so this is not my issue. Could someone please Analise me and my situation?

How to approach random woman?

My friend has social problems and lately it’s starting to depress him because he wants to talk to women but his too nervous and inconfident that he is constantly making himself look bad.

Later today he called me up and was asking for my help. So I decided to tell all of our friends and we want to start a game. Talking to random girls around the school, I figure that if he has social problems the best way to cure it is to force him into several conversations. He said he is down with it, so starting tomorrow we want to start finding girls to talk to in front of him and then eventually force him to do it.

Me and my friends want to play a game to see who can approach the most women. How should we go about this without becoming annoying, I don’t want to scare girls away, just make new friends. what’s the best way to approach a girl in the hall??

pulling a women in a club, best ways to approach?

i’ve been going out around 3 months quite heavily now, around twice a week, trying to meet someone special, go to several spots on a weekly basis, I actually feel alot more confident than when I first started, dancing etc, but my main weekness is approaching women at the club, sometimes when i’m dancing solo I think people start to wonder if i’m gay or something as i have spent a few nights now with no joy at the end of the night and they see this guy solo and think is he strange or smt? I feel i started off with more luck now, maybe I should try some diff spots? new faces new people then etc like a fresh start, the current places I go its actually quite easy to see the same faces over and over – any suggestions on how I should switch my game up? I usually go in shirt/jeans with boots, gelled hair etc, go to the spots that play my music as I can really get down to it on dancefloor, and feeling the vibe etc, I usually start dancing to the side of them subtley, any tips?

Do women like to play games, or do they prefer the honest, straight forward approach?

There’s this popular book going around called The Game, which is somewhat of a practical how-to guide for picking up women, writien by an apparently expert pick-up artist. I haven’t read it, but apparently the message is that women tend to respond more to statements that are on one hand complimentary, but on the other somewhat insulting, rather than simple, straight forward, honest conversation. Is this true? Do women really like to play these games?

You would think that all the help from the internet, on how to attract women, would stop?

Like seriously the whole idea of attracting women and tips and trick on how to do it, sounds more like a game rather than guidiance. And im surprised as to why some girls who fall for the crap that guys learned from dating websites and asking questions. I see it the front of THe Yahoo main page all the time. Its riduculous. Sooner or later none of those tips and tricks are gonna work, because they have been exposed to all types of losers who want to get in and get out too. What do you think of it?
I think the entire media does this in general for people to get ideas of how to treat women.. A good example of this is the movie Hitch.

Why do guy rely on thier wallet to attract women ? ?

Don’t men know that women don’t get turned on sexually by way of money. Seducing women with your personality( sincere charm, wit , confidence, smile, and of course doesn’t look as bad as the elephant man) is the only way to turn women on sexually.

Money will only turn on there greedy side. And when you finally get sex after 3 or 4 dates you paid, she give it to you because of obligation not because she hot for you. But if you can turn her on wit ya personality she cant help but jump on you after the second date and will probably take you out and pay on the 3rd date.

Nice Guy’s game(how they get money) is money. Real men’s game is himself. I advice you guys to save ya money and learn to talk to women. What do y’all think, guys and gals ?

I keep chickening out on approaching/talking to women. How can I approach them? How can I stop being chicken?

I am nerdy looking, though I’m not a nerd. I don’t play computer games, don’t do Dungeons and Dragons bullshit, don’t watch star trek, don’t go to game festivals etc. I go to the gym 4 times a week. Yet, I don’t have much confidence when it comes to women due to bad past experiences and I generally feel unnatractive to women, which may not be too far from what the reality is, due to my nerdy look (basically my glasses make me look like a god damn dork.)

Yet, still, sometimes I get attention by women. Since I’ve been going to the gym several women have "checked me out." I didn’t even bother trying anything. Worse yet, today I saw 2 girls who were really cute looking. They were working out on the machine beside me. I thought, nah, I’m just going to look stupid but whenever I changed machine (3 times) they kept going to one right beside me or the last one I went on. They looked very friendly and apporachable. This was a good opportunity for me to at least say something and I blew it. I bailed. I’m not good at reading signals but I think, just maybe, they wanted me to talk to them. I think they saw me looking at them. However, I could just be overthinking that and thus I’m full of bs. NONETHELESS, the fact that they kept going close to where I was gave me a good opportunity to talk. They looked nice and cute, not incredibly skinny (maybe a bit below chubby but attractive) and I blew it. I’m mad at myself. I hate doing this and then coming on here and whining about it like a god damn drama queen.

How do I approach women? How do I "grow a pair"? I’m not a chickenshit in anything but this and its lagging me down.

Do Women Have "Game": How Do Ladies Approach A Man?

I hate the term "Game" (it sounds sooo lame!) but I’m curious, in social situations like you know everyday normal places like at a club, a party, or in line at McDonalds how do you try to pick up a guy? Do woman use pick up lines too or do they not like them.

I know social norms say that us guys have to be the one’s to approach women but if any woman here ignore’s "social norms" how successful have you been in your attempts, why did you approach him first , and how did/do you go about approaching a man?

I keep chickening out on approaching women. How can I approach them? I hate being chicken!?

I am nerdy looking, though I’m not a nerd. I don’t play computer games, don’t do Dungeons and Dragons bullshit, don’t watch star trek, don’t go to game festivals etc. I go to the gym 4 times a week. Yet, I don’t have much confidence when it comes to women due to bad past experiences and I generally feel unnatractive to women, which may not be too far from what the reality is, due to my nerdy look (basically my glasses make me look like a god damn dork.)

Yet, still, sometimes I get attention by women. Since I’ve been going to the gym several women have "checked me out." I didn’t even bother trying anything. Worse yet, today I saw 2 girls who were really cute looking. They were working out on the machine beside me. I thought, nah, I’m just going to look stupid but whenever I changed machine (3 times) they kept going to one right beside me or the last one I went on. They looked very friendly and apporachable. This was a good opportunity for me to at least say something and I blew it. I bailed. I’m not good at reading signals but I think, just maybe, they wanted me to talk to them. I think they saw me looking at them. However, I could just be overthinking that and thus I’m full of bs. NONETHELESS, the fact that they kept going close to where I was gave me a good opportunity to talk. They looked nice and cute, not incredibly skinny (maybe a bit below chubby but attractive) and I blew it. I’m mad at myself. I hate doing this and then coming on here and whining about it like a god damn drama queen.

How do I approach women? How do I "grow a pair"? I’m not a chickenshit in anything but this and its lagging me down.
No money for contacts. Not an option.
I’m 20. X_X

why can’t i attract women?

I’m wondering why i can not seem to attract women. I’m a funny guy with a good sense of humor, (some people say i should be a comedian) Im def. loyal and dependable (sometimes to the point where people take advantage of me for it). Im only 21 and I have a regular 9-5 job where i make about 50 grand a year starting. I have my own car even though it is a junker. Im in the process of getting my own place. I associate with good, honest, hard-working individuals and I know how to have a good time.

The only reason i can think of is maybe my looks, im an average looking guy, not ugly by any stretch nor am i model handsome either. Just plain average. I know plenty of other average guys who have gf and whatnot. It seems every girl I am interested in either declines my advances or ignores me altogether, but then they seem to date an a**hole, who deals drugs,and usually treats them badly. Has the world gone mad or is it me?

btw i hate talking about myself…it feels wierd
Gme and confidence is not my problem, I know (or i at least think i know) how to act ….dont get it twisted i jus came off of a serious 2 yr relationship and it seems getting back into the game is harder for some reason

How to approach women I've never met?

Give me some tips, cuz I need to step my game up.

From zero skill, to total pro. How long does it take to be able to pick up women in a club setting?

Ok so me and another single guy friend went to a club to practice our "Ahem" game… But we both got shot down, hard, that night. Its always discouraging, i have a harder time than my friend putting myself together and trying again. I think the whole time we were there, about 3 hours, i only managed to work up enough nerve to try twice (and nearly got my ass kicked on one of those try’s). Something has to be seriously wrong here.

As a man i feel that i am obligated to have at least some ability in seducing a woman on the dance floor. I say seduce because the goal is strictly sex, nothing more. I would never look for a girlfriend in a club.

So how much training or time does it take to be able to do this like the other guys i see on the dance floor? Some of those guys clearly don’t look like they deserve to dance with such beautiful women.

Also, for bonus points: Are there any other social settings besides clubs that work just as well for picking up women for a night? Of all social settings, i feel the absolute least comfortable in a club.

Sorry to sound like a creep. I’m usually not, but when your manhood is challenged like this, well, it makes you take progressively more drastic measures.

ladies, i need your opinion on how to pick up women,?

lately i haven’t been able to meet any women, i’m startin to wonder about myself, ifeel a lil depressed about it. i’m 30 yrs old but i feel out the game (lol) people have said i am attractive but i don’t feel it, can you offer any advice, on what women want .

Has anyone actually studied to pick up girls? How did it work out?

Have any of you actually devoted time to picking up women and getting it down to a science? How did it pay off? Can you really increase your game by studying it like an art?

Ladies: Is it important for men to have “game”? I thought not all women fall for cheesy pick up lines? ?

What’s the deal?

I thought not all women function the same—

are you saying ALL women fall for the same smooth one liners and flirt tactics?

Aren’t some women more wiser than others?

Does this mean ALL women are turned on by one thing? Other than confidence, what’s game?

Why do so many women here insist on treating their men like women on Valentines Day?

We already have 10,000 women and girls asking what to get their men for Valentines Day, think their men are just like they are and want some silly gift. We all know guys hate gifts and just want sex, in one form or anotherm, and every woman asking the queston insists that there must be some other answer. There isn’t, no matter how much you want to insist otherwise.
I am amsued by the women who actually believe it when their men are nice enough to tpretend they like the ifts and the cuddling and the romance. But be fair – if they play the game, you should too.

How do you approach hot women?

I lost my game recently
and I dont know how to approach women and keep a conversation going
before it was no problem
but now iam in college and I suck ass
:’(
why jesus why lol
any tips?

Old xbox game where you try to pick up women?

I remember a long time ago, when the xbox was new, a game that involved picking up women. Any ideas, or am I crazy? Thanks.

GIRLS, i need some advice! how do i get a girl who considers me her brother to like me?

we have a weird relationship, she’s my best frnd’s sis and i asked his permission and he said i could date her. so i asked her out and she said she wants to be friends. we’ve grown closer ever since and she came to call me bro and i call her lil sis, but i just have a feeling its just a game i have to play, coz she laughs at most of my jokes and always gets physical like strangling me playfully n stuff, maintains eye contact, keeps telling me im cute all the time and takes pictures of me and also pics of both of us together, and smiles at me in a friendly way all the time. but i dont kno if she thinks its a game too, its just a feeling i get.

so i started getting more confident and i kno im loads better than that broken up shell she turneed down. ive known her for 4 years, and her bday was a few days ago, so i decided to go ahead and buy her a gift for the first time because we werent really close in her previous birthdays. Anyway i bought her a cute little necklace that i thought would fit the brotherly image, with no hearts or anything so as to make sure she wudnt "misunderstand me", and she has a thing for the twilight series so i gave her one of the books that used to be mine n told her i hate the series and that i dun want it back. she got all happy and blew me kisses, and said: i so wanna hug you right now, but she just stayed where she was and i just said bye and left coz it was time for me to go, but it wasnt the least bit awkward tho.

is there any way she might consider me for something more, or am i doomed to the friend zone? i really like this girl and i really need some good advice. (btw thats not how i think of her, i just listed all the hints i thought might help you guys judge, im not a jerk. ill be whatever she wants me to be, whether its her bro, her friend or her bf)

im really sorry this makes such a big read but its complicated and i had to write all that stuff

Guys what do you do when you both like the same girl?

Im stuck in this situation two guys like me and their both good friends. I took the other one a bit to come up to me and say he likes me too because he didn’t want his friend getting mad at him. But now I feel like it may just be a game of who can win the girl what should I do?

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