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First off, I am 21 and never had a girlfriend, I have never been on an official date. I am really shy, but when I open up, I talk alot more. My problems is that when I like a girl, she tends too only see me as a friend. I can respect that, but there is this one girl that I have liked for 6 years, and my feelings for her is unlike any feelings I have had for any other girl. I want to be with her, but she dont feel the same way. For more details, read the next paragraph

About 6 years ago, I met this girl on a fieldtrip, and I have been crazy for her since. I was shy at first, we talked but I eventually asked her out. She said no, and went with her exboyfriend. They dated for about 3 years, and then they broke up. At that time, I still talked to her, and my feelings for her never went away. When she was single, I felt like I should tell her how I felt again. I pussied out, and I wrote a letter expressing my feelings, and I gave it to her. A couple days later, she wrote me back, but on facebook, telling me that her feelings have not changed. A couple weeks later she went back with her ex. Since writing her the letter, we did not speak, until about a year later. She broke up with her boyfriend, and has not been as avoidant, because she becomes more avoidant when she is with that guy. When she told me, she said that Im the only guy she feels like she can hang out with, because I am not expecting anything. Through our interactions, my feelings have grown back. She also told me that, she does not want to get back with her ex, but still texts him from time to time. My car broke down, and when I called her to come help me out, she came with that one guy she always ends up with. I decided then I need to tell her how I feel again. So I texted her telling her that we needed to talk. We made plans for it the following week. When the time came, and I told her, in person, that I always liked her, and that I was thinking about breaking off our friendship, but I decided not too. I told her that I would prefer continue liking her and just being her friend than not talk to her at all. When I gave her a chance to talk, she didnt really say anything about it. What does that mean?? I told her this about a week ago, and I have not been in contact with her since, but I really miss her. I want to see her again. I know that it is best to move on, but I dont want to move on. Is there a way that I can still make all my dreams come true, and be with her. Because she is the only one I really want.

So how can I get girls to like me? Is there any way to get the girl I talked about in the above paragraph to like me? Any help will be appreciated, I am tired of being single

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I am wondering if there are any good books out there that give quality giving male advice for picking up women and to show that you are interested in them.

I am funny and good at talking to women and getting them interested in me but i get into a friendzone because I do not know how to show I am interested beyond a friendship.

btw I have read many PUA books and find them very comical.. I am not into all the pickup lines or whatnot… I am natural at talking to women and making things comfortable I just need advice such as body language or something to show I am interested beyond friendship.

thanks

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i am curious why? i really hate it and move directly on. do any girls not play hard to get? when a girl has to hide there feallings and acts differently just shows me insecurity so i look on. how can you tell if she is not interested or just playing hard to get? and dont you think it pisses people off who is trying to progress. it in know way makes things more interesting typically if someone shows me less interest then my average friend like wont even call me back i just feel time to find some one else who at leasts has a chance to even be a friend let alone worth being in a relationship? can any one explain this to me? do all girls do this? why? do any not do this?

typically when someone is interested in me i would think talking on the phone a few times before the date would be something you do and each calls each other showing mutual interest. just like in a friendship a one sided friendship never works why do people think it helps at all in a relationship? all i can think of is because it save them from some emotion or connection so they keep there distance at first. but doesnt that just express insecurity? and why would i be attracted to that?

is there anything unreasonable about the way i think? i would like to know how i can tell if a girl is just playing hard to get compared to not interested so i can seperate the two signs and maybe still give them a chance but by my gut instinct its really unattractive.
haha i find it hilarious how many girls are saying things back to offend me because there offended girls you should read what i said and many of the guys below says and learn from it lol. and not only do i have a girl friend but i am very attractive and have a lot to pick from. i played 4 varsity sports in highschool. very succesful in engineering in college and very succesful at my track and field records in varsity track for my division 1 college. and i have many girls to pick from. by no way am i a virgin lol. i run a 22.0 for the 200 right now my sophmore year. i am not full of my self a good listner and everyone has fun with me i am just curious if all girls do this and who can explain why? from my experience 89 percent of girls do this especially the ones full of them selves. thats why i picked my girlfriend as a shy girl i met in my engineering major not the rest who liked my athleticism and thought they were everything and needed to put no effort into it.
at least i think quasimoto was a girl if not well that explains a lot about him if he is a guy.
stevie your talking about a different breed. your so wrong those are the guys who are simply desperate they are by not any chance the same people we are so dont think we are the same. your so wrong. just think of this are any of those guys your talking about stay in much of a long relationship with you? probably not because they moved on once they found a girl that they had a better starting foundation with. and you probably think there all jerks. thats why you play games because you have been hurt and are a bit insecure. the fact is the guys who dont hurt girls and now what they are doing find girls they have a lasting connection with because they arent desperate. also we dont wait until we have feallings to break away from you thats to late we can tell before hand it wont work. its the guys who are insecure who do that and then end up jerks because they become players just like you. for the same reason. the non players know when to move on and whats compatible
also i never said i wouldnt chase a girl. i have no problem expressing my feelings and showing them i like them. i do that very easily and make sure they feel secure about that. i am just saying when a girl likes me if she cant reciprocate that because she wants to play games then i move on. and i dont have anything against shy girls i have dated them. but i do have a problem with the girls who date a lot of guys and are not shy but just out to play games or think they have to do that to get a guy that to me just shows insecurity and is very unnatractive all guys here understand that.

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^ just that question.
details: if this person tells you everything about their problems, you are almost exactly alike in every way like you have so much in common with that person, you feel like he/she is the only person who gets you. <That kind of friendship with a guy or girl, does it usually turn into something more? This also means that you are opposite of that person, like if they are a girl then your a guy and switched.

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This girl who went to my old school now comes to the one im at now, but it’s not mixed. It’s boys and girls separate. She always says hi and i’ve always loved her, Anyway to show her that without interfering with our friendship?

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Whenever I try to converse with women at the university, I always receive "are you hitting on me look". This is madness, I just want friendship! How can I approach women without them thinking that I am looking for intimacy?

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I met this girl like 3 months ago, and at the beginning i was just about the only guy that didn’t like her, or rather the only guy obsessed with her. Long story short, she liked me, i liked her but i got back together with my ex. Blah blah, we broke up and now im still friends with the girl i liked, and now like again. She doesnt want to give up a friendship, how do i just get her to take a risk and go out with me?

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I’m 27 m. never had a girlfriend ever, but at least i want to start meeting and connecting with women now. I’ve met women at work, … went to dance classes sometime ago. went to school for years and there was never any girl that would care about me. Well i never talk cause i’m quiet but still. I don’t feel anyone is ever interested. They may just interact with me BECAUSe they have to( example: group project at school) but doesn’t seem they have any interest in friendship or more.

Recently i met a girl at work. She’s really attractive to me, personality wise. But she’s one of those outgoing people.. she has a life already. and i’m only meeting her now cause the boss told her to come and help us temp workers. She is a permanent worker for years there.

So that girl really attracts me when i talk to her. She’s awesome but there’s no way for that to turn into anything. It’s just a temp job and it will end soon.

What else can i do? Is it just up to luck in getting friendships?

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Hey everyone that answered my previous question, thanks for helping me out. but I how do I flirt with her? This is the previous question http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20091008155311AAEe5ll I don’t want to destroy our friendship, and I really like her, but how do I flirt? or any other suggestions?

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in school theres a girl who i like alot and i have a friendship with her. what is a good way i can get her to like me and notice me more?

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Like i really like and enjoy this guy’s company. He said he likes me too! But my friend told me he used to be a flirt, right now she’s not sure cos they didn’t really hang out much. The guy actually admited to me that he used to made up with a girl and whatever he did in the past. He said he is determined to change because he got toyed by a girl before and he knew how it felt.

Today he asked to hold my hand (we’re not attached cos i don’t want to.) and i agreed. We started to behave really intimidatingly where he put his hand on my waist, we even hugged. He promised he’ll never let me go, and he really will wait for me till i am ready. I don’t know if he’s really TRUE or he’s just trying to take advantage of me. What should i do? Really?

I want to believe him, but currently i just want to hang out with him as a friend. I don’t want touchy stuff (though i enjoyed it) because it complicates our friendship.

Guys, i need ur suggestion?
If i tell him i am not comfy with getting touchy, and he respects me, means he really likes me right? Can i request for that? since we are not even bgf.

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I can make small talk with a girl, saying hi, making comments, so I guess I’m in. But the problem is you can’t just keep talking like hi, how are you, how was your class, how your summer. So how do i make the conversations more interesting and more meaningful to have some sort a real friendship with the girl?
In high school, all help is appreciated!
Thanks

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I like this girl that I work with a lot, and we’ve been hanging out a little bit. To be more specific, I’ll talk to her one on one at work and we’ll have very playful conversations and stuff. Outside of work if I hang out with her, its usually with her one friend (who I also work with, which kind of makes it weird/hard to make moves) and we’ll go to the movies or something. To give you some background information, I’ve never been good at making moves on girls because I’m always afraid of how awkward it will be seeing them after. We’re both talkative, so we never have awkward silences or anything, but I need help on how to take it to the next level. Keep in mind, her friend is there who i also work with, so not only could things get awkward between me and the girl if she doesnt like me, but also between her friend and im sure word would spread around quickly to everyone else. I should be hanging out with her one on one sometime soon, so that should make things somewhat easier, but I’m looking for help with both scenarios. I know you’re probably going to say "just suck it up and ask her" but this is very complicated. I don’t want to ruin our friendship, and also I like my job and the people I work with and don’t want to kind of ruin that either. Any help is greeeeaaatttlllyy appreciated, thank you all.

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