How did the unfair tradition of men having to approach women for a date begin?

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I personally think it’s really unfair to us shy guys. Because we’re not comfortable with making the first move. So most of us have to live our whole lives and die as virgins. I’m 23 years old now, and I’ve accepted that I will die a virgin. It’s not because I’m ugly or anything, I’m actually better looking than average. It’s just I’m too shy, and lack the confidence to approach a woman for a date. And a woman would never approach me for a date, so I’m pretty much doomed. And there are lots of other guys out there, who share my fate. So I’m just curious, how did this whole unfair tradition begin anyway?

why can’t i attract women?

I’m wondering why i can not seem to attract women. I’m a funny guy with a good sense of humor, (some people say i should be a comedian) Im def. loyal and dependable (sometimes to the point where people take advantage of me for it). Im only 21 and I have a regular 9-5 job where i make about 50 grand a year starting. I have my own car even though it is a junker. Im in the process of getting my own place. I associate with good, honest, hard-working individuals and I know how to have a good time.

The only reason i can think of is maybe my looks, im an average looking guy, not ugly by any stretch nor am i model handsome either. Just plain average. I know plenty of other average guys who have gf and whatnot. It seems every girl I am interested in either declines my advances or ignores me altogether, but then they seem to date an a**hole, who deals drugs,and usually treats them badly. Has the world gone mad or is it me?

btw i hate talking about myself…it feels wierd
Gme and confidence is not my problem, I know (or i at least think i know) how to act ….dont get it twisted i jus came off of a serious 2 yr relationship and it seems getting back into the game is harder for some reason

my fellow guys, how to attract women?

in terms of communicating, and flirting, and the body language, what should i have to make myself appealing to women and ultimately catch the heart of the woman i like?

i know confidence is the main key but it would be better if i learn specific details.

thanks brothers

How do you show confidence when approaching women?

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with a ‘how’s it going?’

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

How can girls sense a guy’s confidence when shyness gets in the way?

I think a reason why I am not good with women is that I’m generally quiet and shy around social settings (where you’d usually meet women) and I project the wrong vibe. I know women can really pick up on a guy’s confidence, but how? I mean, I think I’m good looking and that I have a lot to offer, it is just the talking/flirting with women is what I’m not smooth at. I wouldn’t say I get nervous around attractive women, I just am worried that I’ll seem less confident. I’ve been able to go up to cute girls in my college classes and ask them to work on school stuff etc. But they all end up acting distant and not very social afterwards, like I’m a creepy guy or something. They would never really say hi if I saw them outside of classes etc. It seems the girls I meet never get a good impression of me. I’m not sure how to improve myself when interacting with women so this stops happening, and I become the kind of guy girls like to be around, not just romantic interest but for friends too.

How do you show confidence when approaching women?

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with a ‘how’s it going?’

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

How do you show confidence when approaching women?

My thoughts are to always look at them in the eye when they past by you and just simply do a smile or a smile with ‘how’s it going’.

In your mind, what does it mean to show confidence when approaching women? Thanks.

How do you pick up women effectively?

I just ended a really long realtionship and I forgot all about pickup and the moves to you.. I want to boost up my confidence and play cool to girls. my looks are above average but I just don’t want to be kicked out by the girls I talk to. what are the working routines that I could use that is a sure hit? I’ve read many stuff about pickup and learned new things. One unique one is using magic to pickup girls. I’ve practiced a few and would want to try it out this weekend. these tricks are cool and not GEEKY! I’ve tried out joining to forums and puma skills anyway, hope you all can help me out with this.. Thanks!!!

How to get comfortable with approaching women?

How can I get comfortable with approaching women, as if they were a best friend?

Now you might say "Well think of her as a bestfriend!" but that doesn’t always work.

Whenever I see my crush at school I just act like I don’t see her, mainly because I don’t have the confidence or knowledge of what to say when I approach her.

Any baby steps I can take that anyone can provide?

thanks

How can I have confidence if girls have never liked me before ?

Whenever I ask someone how to get girls to like me, the usual answer is that I should have confidence. The problem is that if I have approached say 30 girls and I got rejected 30 times chances are that even if I try to fake confidence on the 31st time I probably know that I will be rejected.

i am a shy guy how can i pick up women?

i mean i tried but i guess i wait for them to pick me up, i look then they look , then they turn there face is this normal? also what should i do? i am a n attractive guy (ive been told) but i have no confidence help me!!!

I am shy and have no confidence. How can I approach women?

I am downright ugly. I have a big nose, a skinny face, a long neck, balding, out of shape, and hairy all over my body. I am an utter loser. But it bothers me a lot that I can’t go up to women. I am 33 and still a virgin. This is making me depressed more and more each day. How can a girl find me remotely attractive? If I were a woman, I wouldn’t go out with a guy like me, no matter how great my personality is. I hate feeling like this. I don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life, but maybe this is what I am destined to be. I want to be happy. I wish I had the confidence to approach women.

How exactly do you approach women at malls?

I have been told that malls are better places for meeting women than bars, so yesterday I went to the mall in my city solely for finding dates. I wasted an entire evening there and did not talk to a single woman for the following reasons.
* There are too many shopkeepers in the mall (this is how it is in my country India, I don’t know how it is in other countries) and someone is always watching you. You feel awkward thinking they must be wondering what this guy is doing in the mall not buying anything but going around and around.
* The women who are there shopping seem too busy and preoccupied with their purchasing so you wonder if you would be intruding them by talking to them.
* Lot of women are found in the Ladies dress shops where you have no business to be there. Even if you go there pretending to buy something, you feel the girls might be looking down on you for lurking around in the women’s section, and that lowers your confidence.
*All items are too costly.
There are many dating gurus doing business on the internet : David DeAngela, Joseph Mathews, Scott peterson to name a few. These are the guys that say malls are good for finding women.

How can I get confidence to approach women?

I am a 29 year old male, economically independent and have never been initimate with someone of the opposite sex, no kiss, no romantic date or anything. How can I get confidence, It bothers me a little bit when I am work and colleagues of mine are always talking by their romantic partners or ex romantic partners. I always lie when I have to ask a question about relationships

Ladies: Is it important for men to have “game”? I thought not all women fall for cheesy pick up lines? ?

What’s the deal?

I thought not all women function the same—

are you saying ALL women fall for the same smooth one liners and flirt tactics?

Aren’t some women more wiser than others?

Does this mean ALL women are turned on by one thing? Other than confidence, what’s game?

How do i cope with only being able to attract ugly fat women?

Im a 21 year old virgin and i hate it. However While I can get fatties, and fuglies, I know the only way I’ll get the hot, athletic white 18 year olds – the kind of girls who drive men of all ages crazy – is by paying. Trying to get these girls is a whole different ball game. It’s like the difference between making your high school basketball team and making it to the NBA. When I approach the former, I can see their faces light up. When I approach the latter, I get treated like a leper. Im not good looking either, i have no personality, and no confidence, so its understandable that i can only attract ugly fat desperate women. (i know i want what i cant get) Im a nice guy and that seems to only attract ugly women. So i have several questions; first, How do i get rid of the ugly fat chicks? Second, would going to a high class hooker be my only real chance of having sex with a hot chick? Third how do i cope with being out of the league of the women i want? I cant get confidence, i cant improve my looks, and i cant build personality. Am i doomed to die a virgin?

In need of advise. How to approach women?

I need advice on how to approach a woman. I am confident, but when it comes to women, the confidence disappears. I’m well off, I mean I’m 6’5", in decent shape. I’m a nurse, I’m currently in medical school and I have a business. I think maybe I have focused on my success too much. The problem is that when I go out with my buddies I get looks from women, but I can never get the courage to go and talk to them. I really need help, I’m not getting any younger. Any advise would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance.

How can I get a girl to like me?

I am 5’1, gray eyes, 170 lbs very over weight, and I have no confidence. I spend most of my time here thinking I am superior when I am far from it. Also the small amount of girls I could get with would laugh at my penis when I got them in bed.

Am I loser?

How do I approach women if I am very shy?

And don’t just tell me to gain confidence, I can’t gain confidence overnight…

Is Michael scofield the type we define as an alpha male?

Michael scofield in Prison Break shows his intelligence, confidence and composure in solving any problems. Is he a typical type of alpha man?

I am feeling suicidal, I need to know how to get over a girl I fancied who is now married with children.?

I have suffered from depression for a long time, and take seroxat to cope. I have always had low self esteem. I come from a family where everyone is successful, every one apart from me that is. I also have never really had a proper relationship with a woman. Sure I have had many one night stands, but I rarely really fancy a woman (in that I would like to have a relationship with her) and on the rare occasions that I have I never had the courage to ask them on a date.
Now I am massively upset. The problem is a woman called Claire. She was a work colleague of a friend of mine. I fancied her the moment I first met her in the pub arms where her and my friend were having a drink after work. She is beautiful, clever, happy, demure but very done to earth and modest.
Over the years I met her a few times, once I chatted with her in a bar for a while and I liked her even more, but at the time she had a boyfriend. Once I went to her birthday and that was embarrassing I felt she knew I fancied her and all her mates were there.
Then one night in another bar she tried to chat to me before she left but I didn’t say much. Now I wish I’d then had the courage to ask her out. Another time was in a wine bar again she chatted to me, but again I did not have the courage to ask her out.
Each time I did not have the confidence probably due to I was only a student at the time or my job at the time was very low paid, and I felt I had no prospects.
Then she started going out with a guy, first she moved in with him. Then one night came the bombshell, he had asked her to marry him. My friend told me that she told him not to waste money on a ring, this made me love her even more. My job prospects had now improved and I now even owned my own flat.
Finally she left the UK to live with him in Hong Kong. Then my friend dropped the second bombshell that she is now pregnant.
I had always hoped I may one day marry her and now I realise that that is never going to happen. I fantasize, every minute it seems, that we are married, and how lovely it would be, only to brought back to reality and the sense of euphoria to become one of immense depression.
I spend hours wishing I could go back in time and play my hand differently, and asked her out when I had the chance; to the point it drives me crazy. I feel I had the chance and I blew it.
I now feel I will always lead a lonely life as I have no interest in other women as I compare them to Claire and they always fall way short. I feel extremely low even suicidal at times, I feel like a zombie that is just existing not living.

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