How to stop feeling like crap when your ex boyfriend talks about other girls he think are hot?
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we just broke up a few days ago and were together for a year and 4 months almost five. He said he wants to be my friend and just wants to find who he is since i have been his only real girlfriend i believe that but he is saying we might get back together one day he just needs time to himself but still wants to talk to me… i wanna stop feeling so sick when he talks about other girls how can i 
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When my ex said he wanted to be ‘friends’ so he can worm his way back after breaking up with me, i told him to GET LOST, plain and simple. He basically wanted to keep the door nicely open because he thought i was marriage material but he also wanted to get his freak on with girls who were up for it.
Singles and Dating is a couple levels down.
So, what do you do with any "friend" so obliviously hurtful?
To the curb with him.
leave him
Talk about other guys tell him you do not want to get back together. Mention that you feel the break up was a good ideal and that you also want time to find yourself and see what else is out there, Say it even if you do not mean it because he wants you on the side line like oh reliable.
Stop spending time with him, it is obviously too hard for you still. Besides, he is just stringing you along by saying you might get back together. Believe me, that is not the kind of guy you want to waste your time on. Try spending your time with someone else.
Why would you let him have his cake and eat it too at your expense? Tell him it is over and don’t call you ever again. Then take your self respect and go find a real man.
So stop talking to him. The best way to heal after a breakup is to cut the person completely from your life and move on. Clean breaks are the least painful way to go. That is really cold-hearted and crappy of him to do that. Just tell him you’re not going to put yourself through that, and you don’t want to be hanging out as friends right now. I know you’ve spent so much time together over the past year and it’s painful to think about not being around him, but that’s seriously what you need to do. It might work out in your favor.. being away from you may make him realize that he doesn’t want to be without you. Even if not, it’s the best way for you to move on. You’re letting him treat you like crap and string you along. Please put and end to this. Best of luck.
tell him good bye good luck and search for a new BF
Stop being so selfish and be happy for him?’
You don’t own him nor his emotional state.
You might get back together one day but you most likely will not.
You need to move on with your life and start dating as well.
Often people stop talking and communicating at all for a period of time to help move on and then catch-up later.
as long as you are emotionally connected to him you can’t, but if he was with you then you might be able to because you know he is yours. you know?
Start dating other guys. He’ll come around if he cares.
So you just sit on the back burner until he decides whether or not he wants to date you again?
And then he tells you about other girls?
You have a pretty insensitive "friend" there.
I think you should give yourself a break and distance yourself from him.
The more you hang out with him, the longer you’re going to feel like crap.
He cares about you. You did nothing wrong. This is about timing. He needs to experience dating and other relationships. Guys who do not want to hurt a girl always tell them that maybe one day…in the future we will be together. Ask around your gf if you dont believe me. We dont want to hurt you and think its an easier way to break up.
By talking to him you are continueing the promise of being with him in your heart. You may have to take a break from seeing him for a wahile. You know if he is talking about other girls he is trying to let you know he is moving on. Next time you will see him with one and it will hurt like heck if you havent found closure and moved on. Take care. You will find love.
Best way to get over a man, is to find a new one.. simply put. Once you start swinging on another guy you wont even remember this dudes name.
I dont know why this jerk doesn’t just say"hey i’m bored with you so i’m gonna go out and do what I want but I want you to stay here and be single in case I don’t find anything better", cause that is what it sounds like. You don’t need someone like that. All he is gonna do from now on is hurt you. You deserve better!!! Move on and find a good man who doesn’t want to make you feel like crap because there are good men out there. They aren’t all like that and life is to short for you to be unhappy. Good luck.
DO NOT TALK TO HIM. He is free to date other women and you are free to not listen to him. You are also free to date other men.
He is very selfish and obviously completely unaware that talking to you about other women is hurting you. Stay away from him, tell him-over is over, don’t bother me anymore.
Stop seeing him as a friend. You are obviously not ready for it and he has the sensitivity of a tree stump. The fact that he’s willing to keep you dangling on his string for god knows how long proves how little respect he has for you. He is bad for you my dear, move on and know it was his loss, not yours.
Guys that need "space" in a relationship, but still want to see you as a friend, basically just want a license to screw other girls. Yes he had the decency to break up with you first, but other than that, he’s not worth it. You don’t deserve to feel bad about yourself so let him go.
doesnt sound like he loves you. he’s hurting you continuously right? provoking someone to jealousy is like torture. why does he have to do this to you? do you think its healthy? sounds like a lack of love on his part.
it also sounds like he wants to keep you around for a safety net incase no one more interesting comes around. he wants to use you in simpler words.
If you have strong feeling for him then this will not go away. He needs to stop talking about other girls and how hot they are. My X used to do this. It bothered me a lot. One day I said to myself,"I am very hot too and if he thinks they are hotter then he can be with them." Tell him to stop.
It’s really tough to be friends after being in a relationship with someone. It’s not an easy switch to make. Some couples never manage it and that’s okay too.
It’s only been a few days, so of course you’re hurting when he talks about other women. It makes you feel as though you’re easily forgotten. You’re probably not. He probably hurts too. But right now, what you need is space.
Take some time and stop talking to him for awhile. Don’t give him the silent treatment or anything but don’t start the conversation. Don’t call him just to chat, don’t invite him over just to hang out. Let him call you. If he thinks you may get back together someday, give him time to miss you and to realize that breaking up with you means you go away.
Don’t put your life on hold for him though.
Take some you time and be good to yourself while you’re grieving this relationship. Take a bubble bath, get a manicure, try some new activity, call a friend you haven’t seen in awhile. You don’t have to rush into a new relationship (in fact I’d recommend being single for awhile), just keep your life moving forward and find ways to nourish yourself.
He may want to give it another shot. He may not. If he does, after some time, you may find you do not.
I wish you happiness either way.
Your ex is giving you a reality check. Surely, you know that there other girls hes attracted to, just as you find other men attractive. The only problem is your feelings still run very deep for him while your ex is seriously trying to move on.
You should have been ready for this as your ex seemed to have propsed the idea of the being with other woman.
Being his friend, you should have been prepared for this, but case in point your ex maybe being a little insensitive to your feelings, or perhaps being a little immature in that he may also be trying to purposely make you jealous.
Until your goingt to be okay with this, maybe you should think about distancing yourself from him. Ex’s usually dont make as good friends as they were a couple. However, if you insist on being his friend than you’ll have to get used to this kind of talk around guys. Maybe you should even think about dating other guys yourself?