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last year i was a little bi curous, so i decided to look online for a girl to talk to and expiriment with my feelings. I started talking to this girl and although she lived states away, i really fell for her and after a month we became girlfriends. We dated for about 5 months and she even flew to me a few times to spend the weekend. But the cheated on me so I broke up with her and slowly realised that alough i am a little bi, I prefer boys and it was just a live and learn kind of situation. Only problem is, she is still MADLY in love with me. She has a really hard life. Her parents neglect her, she is dirt poor, her friends dont talk to her, she doesn’t have much going for her. She talks about how much she hates her life and before we dated she tried to kill herself before so she has a history of depression. She texts me and calls me all the time crying, but when i try to be her friend she calls me "baby" and says "i love you" and stuff like that. It makes me super uncomfortable and bothers me that she can’t respect that my feelings towards her no longer exist. I just don’t know what to do because I feel bad for her and I want to be her friend but she can’t get over me and its been almost a year. she went on one date and left crying because she says all she wants is me. I feel so guilty for making her feel so terrible and i shouldnt have guilt about this because i have done nothing wrong. I am a very sensative person and I don’t know what to do about her….????? HELP
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I’ve been in a very similar situation. I dated my ex for over 7 years, and we had also met through the internet. I left him because I was just unhappy in the relationship, but he is still hung up on my after almost 3 years. He also had a rough life, was depressive and had been suicidal (before, and during our relationship). When I left him, he was obviously destroyed and I tried to remain friends with him because I felt bad for having hurt him so much. But then I slowly realized that we were never going to be able to have a normal friendship since he was still in love/obsessed with me. I slowly stopped making contact with him, and ever since one day when he blew up on me and said some really inappropriate things to me, I’ve blocked him on just about every online network he could try to reach me through. The only thing I keep getting from him are periodic texts on my cell phone, which I need to figure out how to block.
At any rate…you have to stop feeling guilty over this. I felt guilty at first too. But in the long run, if the relationship didn’t work out, especially since she cheated on you, then it just wasn’t meant to be. It is sad that she has such a rough life, but it is no longer your responsibility to tend to her. If possible, try to end the communication with her with some type of "positive" closure. In other words, be calm/fair/mature about the way you break it to her that you just don’t want to communicate with her anymore. She probably won’t react well to it either way, but at least you’ll know that you tried to end things on good terms.
don’t completely stop talking to her but let her know that you’re straight and bring it up all the time till she gets it. just be consistant, if she texts you/calls you and etc. just be friendly but not too friendly and platonic. sometimes if you make the mistake of being a little bit flirtly she’ll think you want her back so just be really consistant so she gets it that you’re a straight girl who just sees her as a friend if even that just basicly let her know you’re just being polite.
I understand how you feel but you do have to do whats right for YOU. I would feel the same way, but you cant let her issues run your life. Those are her issues, not yours. I know its hard to do, but just be firm with telling her that you dont want her like that anymore
Restraining Order.