How to approach women after a long relationship.?
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It has been 2 years since my separation and ultimate divorce from a 9 year relationship/marraige. I have been on one date and got four phone numbers since that all fizzled. I am 32 yearts old and I have forgotten everything I knew about meeting women.
I guess you could say that I am the push-over type of guy. I weigh 205 pounds and am 5 ft- 9 in- I am not muscular. However, I have been told that I am cute and charming. I am the type that looks about seven years younger than I am. I have been told that I look like Tiger Woods.
I always ask questions, and can hold good conversations about lots of topics. I have a good job, and I have a car.
I believe that I have a lot of positive qualities, but evidently no woman that I have met thinks so. Can anyone give me some advice on meeting women in your 30′s?
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if u have so many good qualities, someone’s bound to notice. take ur time.not all girls r keen to b involved with a divorcee. it’s messy business.probably can go to gym & build on those muscles?
You sound like me 10 years ago, before someone pulled my “coattails” and taught me the way to attract, keep, and have sex with, etc, women. I was often, too often, told one of the following things: “you are too nice” “let’s just be friends” “I like you, but I don’t like you THAT way”. Sound familiar?
I was also the pushover type: I was at the beck and call of any woman I was seeing. I would wine and dine women until the cows came home (usually the cows came home in the form of very expensive steak dinners I paid for, only to be pecked on the cheek at the end of the night and told what a sweet guy I was) and never got anywhere with them. Women loved to hang out with me- which I viewed with some solace- but none were interested in me as a boyfriend, or a lover. I couldn’t figure it out until I met a guy, similar story, but who seemed to have a way with women. He told me what my problem was, now I’m going to venture a guess and tell you what yours might be and what you need to do:
•First, too many of us men believe in the Hollywood interpretation of romancing and seduction. We believe we need to buy women with expensive gifts and dates and that, somehow, because they accept these things from us, they must be interested in us. WRONG. They accept these things from us because it is fun to go out on nice dates, eat at nice places, see good movies, and receive nice gifts without paying for any of it. And you know what, who can blame them? I would do the same (and have, frankly). I don’t fault women for our, men’s, stupid way of thinking. Buying women gifts etc does not make a woman attracted to who you are; it makes them attracted to those places you take them and the gifts you buy them…don’t be that guy. You must build attraction for the sake of attraction by being interesting, creating mystery, being strong-mentally and emotionally, being different from the million other guys out there.
•Women hate men who are pushovers. You are a self-described pushover. Stop it now. Women almost universally will tell you (or someone) that they cannot tolerate a guy who they can push around, who they can wrap around (their finger, that is) and who they can mess around. If you are any or all of those things and you must stop. You must develop your sense of self worth (difficult to do, interestingly, for many men just coming out of a divorce) your sense of confidence and your sense of value. You cannot expect a woman to value you, if YOU don’t value you. You cannot expect a woman to respect you if you don’t respect yourself. You cannot expect a woman to want you if you don’t want yourself…You will NEVER create attraction in a woman if you don’t think there is something about you worth attracting. And a man of confidence and inner strength that is, is NEVER a push over.
•You must learn to make yourself seem valuable, interesting, sexy and attractive. You must NOT chase women; be clingy or needy toward them; you must not let any one woman-while dating or just getting to know them- be the sole center of your universe; you must be willing to walk away from any woman. At a practical level you must meet and be friendly (not dopey, entertainment monkey, every body’s male-girlfriend friendly, but cool and interesting friendly) with as many women as possible; you must NOT be these women’s male-girlfriend, however. You must be seen as a potential sexual mate, but never let sex rule your interactions with these women. If sex is the motivator, you will do or say something stupid, you will give up the balance of power in the relationship and you will ultimately come across as an easy target, all of which kills attraction for women… You must be there when YOU want to be, but you must also make yourself unavailable to them when they want you to be there…if yo get a phone number, for instance, dont race right out and call her immediately. If you get her number in a proper way, if you leave a very good impression/anchor at the first meeting, she will be interested in talking to you more, but dont call immediately, let the first interaction simmer and season, otherwise you will seem like a sycophantic wimp, with no one else to call, very desperate, and NO woman likes that kind of guy…period.
•When you approach women, you must do so with confidence, without the end result in mind (e.g. men tend to approach women to pick them up, date, sex, girlfriend in mind) You should approach a woman with the idea of seeing if SHE qualifies as someone you want to get to know better; if she is cool, and not as YOU auditioning for her. Just because she is nice looking or whatever, doesn’t make her a goddess at the feet of which you must worship! This is a very common mistake men make with hot women. We treat them like queens before we know anything about them. Don’t do it…
•You must start this ALL by working on yourself…You must rebuild your self confidence while doing all of this. One of the things you must do is get yourself together physically. While women will tell you looks don’t matter (and guess what, women are the LAST people I depend on for advice about meeting/seducing women) they DO! The better you look, the more confidence and ease you will have; the better you will feel about yourself and the healthier you will be…
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