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Whenever I ask someone how to get girls to like me, the usual answer is that I should have confidence. The problem is that if I have approached say 30 girls and I got rejected 30 times chances are that even if I try to fake confidence on the 31st time I probably know that I will be rejected.
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Confidence is for douches after dumb chicks, be the man, that’s what they like
shit on the floor and flap your arms like wing lil bitch
in the real world, you might get a thousand "no’s" before you get a single yes. you need to learn to take rejection well because it’s going to happen a lot.
it’s all about how well we rebound once we fall, brother.
you don’t need confidence, you just need the right girl.
cuz ure a creeper like dud ure probably ugly or smeely or fat or pimply or nerdy or any of the above…
sryy
females always reject. get used to it. and maybe you are asking out the wrong females.
I have the exact same problem. Girls have never really liked me and it doesn’t help that the first girl I ever got up the courage to ask out rejected me. Truthfully though, I don’t think all girls are attracted to courage. Some women think shy men are cute. Faking courage can have an effect that almost makes you seem arrogant, so I think it’s best to just be your own insecure self. You don’t want to be with someone who thinks you’re something you’re not. Hope this helps and good luck finding a girl
Looking hot helps but if you’re are nice and sweet to her that’s a great help
…I doubt you’ve approached girls 30 times. Keep trying, or maybe stop trying. Just be yourself, don’t think about being confident, "cool" with the ladies. Just be yourself! Thats really what confidence is, the ability to be completely yourself!
Confidence is having the ability to never give up even if you get rejected.
All I can say is that my boyfriend NEVER dated ANYONE before me, because every time he developed feelings for a girl, she didn’t feel the same way about him. We had been best friends for YEARS and we are finally together. We are perfect for each other, and nearly inseparable.
What you need to do is find your best friend in this life, and be with her. Don’t just ask random girls out. Find a girl who you have chemistry with, and who you know will be your best friend. Find a girl that you know you can tell ANYTHING to, and play video games with… someone who will make you laugh and who you will make laugh… that kind of thing.
Find a girl you’re comfortable with.
and the fact that you "know" will get you rejected.
The fact is not confidence, but the ability to know who you are, and be who you are. some times thats the hardest thing. If you are secure, in who you are and what youre doing, chances are the 31st girl will be the first. I know if is hard getting rejected, i used to have it happen alot.
but recently, i just decided to stop worrying about how they percieve me.
I’ve been my self, and never felt better. I actually am liked by a few people now, and that alone will help you with your confidence.
Just hang in there. maybe you were asking the wrong girls.
mayeb you just be patient and not immediately pursue every girl you find attractive. but just by reading this i wouldnt like you considering you’ve gone after so many girls. i just graduated highschool thinking only these 2 certain guys liked me, but i just found out a few weeks ago all these guys who thought i was cute and stuff. be patient
confidence shouldnt be based on how many girls have rejected u. dude….stop depending on others so much to give u confidence. it has to come from within u. so do things that can build it up… phyiscally like look hotter and like sport….idk but just stop behaving like such a loser jeez
Maybe you have been rejected because you have been asking too many girls, trust me we are not stupid we can see when someone doesnt really like us. Girls like to feel special and unique not like one of the bunch. Another thing im sure someone somewhere has liked you, you just never found out or she never made it obvious. Also Its never good to be that desperate to get a girlfriend because in the end you will settle for anyone and then in the end realize you dont really like this person, instead take it easy, im sure someone will eventually like you. The secret to it is you have to be friends first so they know you and can like you back, so if you have your sight set on a certain girl try being her friend first!
Confidence comes from being proud of the person you are – your likes and dislikes, how you treat others, the experiences you’ve had and sought – it shouldn’t have anything to do with whether girls like you or not. Everyone faces rejection but you can’t let that effect your confidence. You sound young, time changes many things – especially the maturity of younger girls. You should be proud of yourself for being brave and actually asking girls out.
Confidence is a difficult thing, been there, done that. I had the same problem, just with guys. But confidence is something you’ll just have to work with. Find out why it is so low. Is it just because of all the rejection from girls, or is it something else? The ego does take a hit when rejected, but one should be able to get back up no matter what:)
Maybe changing your hairstyle and clothing style would help? If you feel sexy, it will show through:) Give charm a go too, practice on a good female friend! Smiling is always good, and joking around. Girls love guys who make them laugh^^,
Good luck either way:)
You are trying too hard. Just stop you need to give your mind a rest. The best is yet to come, and when you least expect it. Add a little charm to your personality and show an honest interest in someone is really all it takes.
You can start by smiling at someone for no other reason expect that you like them. Playing hard to get works better for girls nevertheless, if you show you are interested, and flirt from a distance you stand a way better chance of succeeding.
Just have a little flirtatious fun with a few girls and they will be left wondering if you are available or not. Be a little mysterious, and not so desperate. Are you serious 30 girls. (lol) That’s a lot of girls.
You just simply need to be yourself ! Your lack of confidence probably comes from the negative vibes some people like to bring. Don’t worry because if you really want to find the right girl you will. If your not a confident person don’t pretend to be. A relationship needs to be filled with the truth, honesty and humor you cant say you have never laughed before.
Good luck.
That’s part of the problem you are facing right there.
People are feeding you poor information and until you properly understand how your own mind works, you can not properly diagnose and fix the problem.
I want to challenge you to think very in depth about everything I am going to explain to you. If my understanding of how we operate is sound, you will understand how to transform yourself to be successful with girls and for that matter, in anything.
For starters, instead of viewing confidence as some sort of "object" lets consider that this idea of "confidence" is rather a reflection of a person’s aptitude, skill, and performance in a particular area of expertise.
How do you increase aptitude, skill, and performance in anything?
Practice.
What happens when you practice anything is your subconscious brain processes do what they do best. They automatically evolve based on constant day-to-day experience to become efficient at the tasks it finds itself doing most often.
You practice an instrument everyday, your brain evolves to be efficient at the task, you can then play the instrument with confidence.
This is what some may label as "performance confidence."
Your answer is simple, practice approaching and talking to girls, and remain positive no matter what.
You will evolve into being "confident with girls."
All the above was simply to say practice, but what is to come is some revolutionary ideas of my own that if understood and applied properly should in anything utterly shatter your fears leaving nothing left to get in the way of your success.
Now to give you some really powerful information I’ll explain about those 30 girls and how exactly they have affected you and how you can change that.
Remember from above your brain is contantly ingesting information and formulates what we call experience. This information is what most of your decisions are calculated from.
If something causes you negativity usually, your brain has saved that information and calculates that the best decision is to run away. Your subconscious is very simplistic, think fight or flight, positive and negative.
You probably have learned subconsciously through your experiences, "girls cause me negativity, so I should avoid them." So when you make a conscious decision to approach one, your subconscious is working against you trying coerce you into "running away."
You need to re-program your subconscious with positive experience.
Then you ask what if I get rejected again? Won’t this make me worse off?
If you allow things to go as they go, yes. But if you control your interpretation, you can engineer the experience to be positive.
When you encounter a girl, maintain positive thoughts no matter how good or bad things go. You will engineer a positive interpretation. Positive interpretations eventually are "saved" as positive experience. Over time, these positive experiences will re-program you, and you will AUTOMATICALLY respond positively instead of negatively towards girls.
It will eventually literally be automatic for you.
Your a human being like me, so if I can succeed, I already know you can.
So what are you waiting for?