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i know i have to leave my relationship…. he is a cheater and liar and has abused me in the past…. but when i leave i miss that love (even if its just sex) and i want to go back…? and i think all guys are like that anyway? i am so destroyed inside and i dont know what to do 
i always get told im attractive and have my whole life ahead of me but i am not ok!!!! how do people get out of this??? how do girls let go????
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not all men are the same. there are a lot of really good men out there. i know, i married one
all guys arnt the same… try lookin for a new love
I resent that comment stereotyping all us guys. I would just find a decent guy, start a relationship with him.
all guys are definitely not the same.
I’m not like that…
And none of my friends are like that…
So…
What bad part of town do you live in?
First off all guys are not bad.I have been married for 37 years.
You need to walk away & stay away from him.
Its all up to you to get out of it. You know you have to so do it. There are two kinds of love, healthy love and unhealthy love unhealthy love is not worth it. Not all guys are the same it just sounds like to me that you may be on some unconscious level attracted to drama with men. If you have had experience with them before you know how to steer away from then, go get yourself a nice man!
Firstly, no. Not all men are the same. There are plenty of dicks out there but there are just as many dickish women but there are always good ones.
First step is first. Get rid of him. You can’t live your life being treated that way, no-one deserves to be treated that way and you can’t let him have that much control over your life. Aim to be single for a while whilst you understand that don’t need other peoples opinions to live off of. And seeing as this has happened to you know, you have the experience to know what to look for if it ever happens again.
This guy you speak of doesn’t deserve someone as good as you, ther are better guys in the world, you don’t have to keep running back to him, I am sure any guy would be lucky to have you as a girlfriend. If you don’t want to hurt his feelings just tell him what he has done wrong and he will understand, good luck!
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The traits are the self-obsession of narcissism; the impulsive, thrill-seeking and callous behaviour of psychopaths; and the deceitful and exploitative nature of Machiavellianism. At their extreme, these traits would be highly detrimental for life in traditional human societies. People with these personalities risk being shunned by others and shut out of relationships, leaving them without a mate, hungry and vulnerable to predators.
Let me assure you, every guy is different, just like you are different to the next girl, even if you both conform to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
This may not work for you, but it has for me: you need to focus your passion on goals, work, study, getting out and doing things – anything be it reading, writing, knitting, singing or running. This will not only make you a better person, but will also distract you and reveal to you the joys of your’ own life.
If you are that screwed up, you need serious counseling girl… really. If you don’t learn why you are attracting losers, then it’s going to keep happening….nobody should crave "bad love".
Well your first mistake is just lumping all men into the same category. All men are NOT the same, just as all women are not the same. everyone is unique. I understand the loneliness when you first break off a relationship, but it does pass and you will find someone new and better who isn’t abusive. And when you say you miss the love, even if it is just sex, there is a HUGE difference. Sex is just sex. Love is an emotion you feel for someone… you can have one without the other.
do you really wanna spend more time with this guy after her cheated, lied, and abused you? i would get out and quick..also maybe take some time for yourself….find what you really want in a man, and not just sex..maybe being loyal to you, respectful, kind, funny…..there is no perfect man, but if you look hard enough and not play around with these lil boys, you can get really close!
well, if all guys are the same, then why bother? the first thing you would need to do is change that frame of mind.
some answers have stated this guy doesnt deserve one as good as you or how healthy you are. i disagree, you are not. no man deserves to be put under the pain of being with you if you believe that we are all the same. that shows a very biased point of view. i wouldnt go into a relationship with a woman with your kind of mentality for all the tea in china. i know as a fact that not all women are the same. im sure my wife is as different from you as the sun is of corn. they are both yellow, but that doesnt make them the same.
as you can see, i have found your statement very distasteful to say the least.
Find a replacement, and choose wisely next time.
All men are not like that….as you can see from all the other answers. The only way to get away from these sort of unhealthy relationships is…to become healthy yourself. The way to do this is to build up your self esteem. When you do this you will have found your pride/dignity/ and self respect….once you have found these , there is no way you will allow anyone to treat you with such disrespect. You will also start to attract men who are not like these guys that you are involved with now. It’s also good to remember…you do have the power to choose what / who you want in your life….you can LET GO …it’s your choice.
This question shows how intelligent and healthy you are. Number one is that all guys are not the same. We have the same struggles as you. The question to answer is why are you attracted to unavailable guys. Why is your attraction to guys based on the bad boy syndrome. Look at battered women and ask yourself what could they possible see in a guy that beats the hell out of them. They are usually playing out their parents relationship in one form or another. Counseling and self help books are the quickest way to get insight into your own personality and make changes. Most people don’t want to do the hard work and have to hit bottom before they get help. Again you are asking the right questions, now are you willing to act on what you need to do? You sound young and have your whole life ahead of you, so don’t throw away one more minute on a piece of garbage. Learn how to take care of yourself. If you have children some day they will make different choices if you make the right decisions today. Good luck. The answers are out there if your willing.
1. all guys are not like that. allowing you to think that is one of the psychological warfare tools that an abuser uses to keep you locked in the cycle.
2. if all of your relationships have been like this (or even if they haven’t) you should probably consider counseling so that you can get to the root of the reason why you would stay with someone that treats you in a relationship like garbage.
3. it may seem daunting to leave a relationship (even a bad one) it brings up feelings of loneliness, fear, lack of intimacy, etc. however, look at your current relationship. you are basically living that now…you are just with someone. ever hear the saying "i’d rather be alone than lonely?". it applies here.
this relation you should definately forget about. Regarding your comment abt all guys being the same i have to say that not all guys are the same , juta like not all gals are the same, but fact is that we change as the years go by, our thinking , our likings, our opinions . same is for yourself, what seem to be your dream man today, you may not even have a sentence to talk with in another 10 years…. so try and find a decent guy but be aware that nothing is meant to last forever, if it happens then it’s fine, if not donn be disappointed just think that you also may change and accept the same for your partner…
your views are wrong….. i met this girl dat said i changed her life, dat i didnt see her for the sex ( shes pretty hot) and now ive gain her full trust and respect.
There are many many really caring wonderful men out there. The thing is.. you will attract to yourself and be attracted to this "type" of person who treats you badly and gives you BS in life, as long as you think you dont deserve better.
Get help.. get a counsellor.. if you’re not able to do this yourself. There is no reason in the world that you dont deserve the love that you are capable of giving.
just take the beatings…
Walk out that door and don’t look back!!
I suggest you take some time on your own and really focus on you and your goals for the future.
A good man always comes along when you least expect it.
its easy. you make a hate wall of all his faults. and look at the postit notes everyday. and go out and meet someone. why would anyone want to be in an abusive relationship. if its just sex, definitely someone else in this world can give you that. enjoy your freedom. he will suffer just knowing that you have moved on.
First off, not all guys are the same as the cheating, lying , abuse ex boyfriend of yours, that’s your first problem, you’ve generalized a whole population based on one bad apple….yes there plenty of jerks out there, but theres plenty who are not, you now have the life experience to tell the difference so the next time around when your ready and have healed, you ll know not to go for this type of guy.
Secondly, the issues of missing him are yours, not his, he isn’t forcing you to come over, your making that choice on your own because he has broken you down inside, and has successfully given you the impression that you can and should not be alone.
You need to learn some tools to deal with the urge and desire to call him, be with him and go back to him, or else your never going to break the cycle…its like an addiction, the first few days you quit smoking are the worst, but everyday thereafter is much easier and eventually over time, you think about it, but dont have the same cravings or desire
So you need to surround yourself with good friends and family. And find yourself an activity to keep your mind off things, go to the library and pick up a book on the topic, education on the matter will empower you to make a better , healthier choice.
I felt the EXACT same way you do 2 yrs ago. I’ve had one bad relationship after another. Every guy I dated would cheat lie or jus try to use me. I know how u feel. Its hard to deal with the pain. But a guy like that doesn’t deserve you. The only way to get over him is to go thru the pain and realize that u don’t need him. Its easier said then done, I know. I just gave up with guys then I unexpectedly met my fiance one day. Trust me you will meet the guy of ur dreams when u least expect it and all of this will pay off. I promise