Do middle school boys judge on how girls look?
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All of the middle school boys at my school seem to judge on how girls look.Of course,they want hott,pretty looking girls,but I wear ugly looking glasses and average looking hair. I can’t get contacts until I’m a teenage.The boys focus on the blonde,stylish,hott looking girls,and me,I’m not that hott. I want to be hott,but how? Help me! 
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Hi Catherine,
Well, not "all" middle school boys want hot blondes. Also, ugly glasses can be replaced with a more stylish pair.
BTW… are you perhaps judging the boys the same way you think that they are judging you? By only looking at what the hot hunks want, and ignoring the decent shy guys who look average?
Not too many guys seem to be talking to you? The reason is probably because the nice decent guys are a bit shy, and you don’t look hot enough or sleazy enough for the handsome creeps and charming players to be chasing you like a pack of wolves. Keep in mind that not being "hot" isn’t an insult… because "hot" is often used in conjunction with the terms "bimbo" and "airhead".
Consider yourself lucky. Why? Because lots of young teenage guys can be real frogs… not princes. Because the types of young teenage guys who are bold enough to be dating are frequently focused solely on satisfying their own selfish desires. Because lots of young teenage girls are simply too vulnerable, too impulsive, and too emotional. Because lots of young teenage guys are typically only interested in what’s in a young girl’s panties. Because young teenage guys usually don’t care about a girl’s feelings. Because when the inevitable break-up occurs, a young teenage girl will often feel as though her heart has been trampled. Because any older guy who would date a young and vulnerable teenage girl is a creep.
Actually, I’d recommend waiting until you’re a junior in HS before you start dating… to give those frogs some extra time to mature into princes. But if you want to start dating immediately, at least ask your parents first… and then choose only nice guys to date.
Don’t get too obsessed with your looks, because personality is the ultimate hook for most guys in a long term relationship. You don’t need to be drop-dead gorgeous or a perfect 10. Most guys would prefer a cute girl rather than a 10. Why? Because a 10 is usually high maintenance, spoiled, vain, selfish, unappreciative, arrogant, useless… and a 10 would probably also have expensive tastes.
So, want some more free advice? OK.
Exactly how do you get a guy to like you and keep him interested? Just be nice, pleasant, and friendly. Don’t act like a sl*t, or you’ll only succeed in attracting complete jerks who will then proceed to wreck your life… and make your parents really mad at both you and the jerk you’ve hooked up with.
When you’re about 17 and ready to hunt for a BF, just be nice to a couple of decent guys, smile at them, and ask a few questions about whatever you both might have in common (homework, school, music, teachers, etc…). They’ll ask you out. If they’re too stupid or too shy to ask you out (which will be likely), then you ask them out instead. If a guy says "no", laugh and tell him he’s an idiot… most guys like a girl who’s funny and honest, and he might change his mind.
Young guys and young girls are typically very unpredictable… including you. Don’t get too wrapped up over who likes who, because the next day it could be completely switched around.
Don’t expect too much from a teenage BF at first, or at least until you both get to know each other better. Statistically, it won’t last anyway… so just enjoy spending time with him and have some innocent fun together. Don’t be too dramatic, and don’t be clingy. Don’t over-analyze him too much.
Watch out for those handsome players and creeps who might pretend to like you, because you could easily fall for their phony attention and smooth lines of crap. Beware – they’ll use your body and then dump you like a sack of potatoes.
No matter what, don’t date any older adult guys who pretend to be interested in you. They’re even worse than players your own age… and like the players they’ll only be interested in one thing… and it won’t be your mind.
Decide on your physical limits before you start dating, and stick to those limits. Getting too excited while being together with your BF is not the time to start thinking about setting limits… your judgment will be clouded, and your BF’s judgment will be long gone. No, I’m not kidding.
Keep your panties on until you get married. That’ll eliminate 99% of the creeps, losers, and players… which will make your life much happier and simpler in the long run. You’ll also be protected against pregnancy, STD’s, and excessive heartache.
Don’t make too many stupid decisions, don’t drink booze or take drugs, don’t have friends who drink or take drugs, listen to your Mom and Dad, read the Bible (the Gospel of John is a good place to start), and then everything will turn out fine.
That’s all there is too it, Catherine.
Signed, PC
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Don’t worry so much about trying to look like everyone else. Focus on your own natural beauty. Try talking to a female adult who knows about style & ask them how you can enhance your own natural looks. Also, the next time you pick out glasses, ask for help trying to find something that looks really good on you if you think that you are always picking out clunky glasses.
Trust me- not every guy wants the "hot" girl that you have described. There are lots of guys who want regular girls & actually are repulsed by the "hot" girl. Plus there’s a whole slew of guys who love girls with glasses & actually prefer them to non-glasses girls.
I have a feeling that over all, you need to work on your self esteem. If you don’t love & appreciate yourself, then how do you expect others to? I also think that perhaps you are looking at the wrong guys- maybe try looking around you a bit more. I have a feeling that there’s probably more than one or two guys hoping that you’ll look in their direction.
Simple, one step at a time, just make one improvement then another so that its gradual and soon the guys will be looking at you. You might start out with hair. Get a good do then save up for some stylish glasses that fit your face and take a few friends that can advise you on the right frames that fit your face. Things like that will get you noticed. If you are over weight then run or get some kind of exercise. Keep making little improvements and you will get there. Good luck. Oh and yes do Judge how girls look. It’s the way of the world, sorry.
They don’t realize that they won’t find a girl like they want until 9th grade. They want skinny, pretty, make-up using girls. Paint ure nails, (if you are fat) watch what you eat, try to get girl abs (not 6-pack just abs), dress not that girly not that boyish, dont act like a bitch, and BE YOURSELF… YOU WILL FIND YOUR PRINCE CHARMING ONE DAY
best of luck
Yeah, almost all middle school boys are like that. As you get older, guys begin to realize looks isn’t the only thing to a relationship, and that personality plays the biggest role in the relationship. Guys will begin to give you much more of a chance, even if they don’t think you are extremely attractive.
I don’t think you need to change your style, be yourself and believe me someone will come along and love you for who you are, chances are it won’t happen in middle school, or even high school.Although if you want to change your style, maybe try to get "cooler" glasses, and get a different hair style. You could ask your parents, or some of your friends for good ideas in this category. Also wear clothes that are in style, i guess.
Good Luck
I agree with Tanner, don’t change who you are to get with a guy. If he doesn’t like you for who you are then what’s the point? Just be yourself, and soon enough someone will come along who likes you for who you are. That’s what matters.
Good luck, (:
Yes…I dated a man with the mentality of a 14 year old and he primarily judged women by their looks