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People always say, that to attract women, one has to be confident and not be shy.

Well I am 18 and I feel I have changed a lot from the 15 yr old shy nerdy high schooler I was.

But at this point, I feel like if I were to change anymore it would be an act.

Yes I go out occasionally, yes I talk to girls at college. I have many female collegues, some almost-girlfriends.

After all, my interests range from sciences, to sci-fi movies and stuff like that. I do have an artistic streak as well. I am confident in my abilities.

But, no matter how confident I get, I’m still not gonna go on stage and break dance / spin on my head ,or walk about to a girl and just slap her on the @ss… that’s just not me.

And why should I have to be that type of person ?

Women always say that men should accept them for their with any flaws, yet women continue to look at a very narrow spectrum of men.

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Okay, basically I’m a very sweet, kind, nice, and romantic guy. I’m generous and not shallow, and I value people for who they are and not what they look like. I’m also a little shy and introverted. Sounds good, right? Apparently not. I’m 19 and I’ve never been in a relationship, hell, I’ve never even kissed a girl.

It seems no matter what I do, I can’t get with a woman. I’m not bad looking, I’m pretty muscular and a little chubby, so I don’t think that’s my problem. I know I got what it takes on the inside to make a great relationship, but all I end up doing is making a bunch of friends who always reject me as a relationship partner.

So, ladies and gentlemen… what tips can you give me to attract women? What do I gotta do to be appealing, so I can actually show a girl how much I can give?

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I’m wondering why i can not seem to attract women. I’m a funny guy with a good sense of humor, (some people say i should be a comedian) Im def. loyal and dependable (sometimes to the point where people take advantage of me for it). Im only 21 and I have a regular 9-5 job where i make about 50 grand a year starting. I have my own car even though it is a junker. Im in the process of getting my own place. I associate with good, honest, hard-working individuals and I know how to have a good time.

The only reason i can think of is maybe my looks, im an average looking guy, not ugly by any stretch nor am i model handsome either. Just plain average. I know plenty of other average guys who have gf and whatnot. It seems every girl I am interested in either declines my advances or ignores me altogether, but then they seem to date an a**hole, who deals drugs,and usually treats them badly. Has the world gone mad or is it me?

btw i hate talking about myself…it feels wierd
Gme and confidence is not my problem, I know (or i at least think i know) how to act ….dont get it twisted i jus came off of a serious 2 yr relationship and it seems getting back into the game is harder for some reason

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I’m a 31 year old man, and I would like to meet someone who is around the same age, give or take a few years. Over the past few months, I’ve been getting myself out there to social events to meet single women. One thing I’ve noticed is that at some of these mixers, women who are substantially older than me appear to be completely enthralled by the conversations with me, yet the women who look like they are around my age seem disinterested, no matter how much I attempt to involve them in the conversation.

Also, I’ve had a few women in their 40s and even into their early 50s flirting with and even hitting on me. While I have no qualms with them per se (nothing wrong with a little experience), I would like to eventually get married and have children. These women are usually divorced with children. They are either not interested in having any more children, or they are beyond an age where it is safe to bear children.

I grew up looking slightly older than my age, but I don’t think I look that much older.

I’m not sure of what it means to act my age, other than meaning not acting like a child. Perhaps I have an “old soul,” but what do I do to attract women around the late 20s, early 30s age range? Do I be someone that I’m not, dumb down my behavior, eat with my hands and fart at the dinner table? Am I forced to wait to date until my actual age matches my mental age? Or is there another option for me?

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in terms of communicating, and flirting, and the body language, what should i have to make myself appealing to women and ultimately catch the heart of the woman i like?

i know confidence is the main key but it would be better if i learn specific details.

thanks brothers

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When men ask how to attract women solely based on their skin tone?

Did you learn anything from the Tiger Woods event?

Is anyone else having problems seeing the current YA! questions?

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I’m not trying to brag but I have a looks though not that really so handsome. I find women as a necessity of a man without her, your life is incomplete. However here’s my problem I see many girls everyday but it seems they snob me or they take me for granted.It’s like my physical appearance is not enough for them to be seduced and trap them on my snare so that i can date with them. Do you know some tips on how to attract women?or how to attract beautiful women?If you can give advice how to attract a woman that would be great and will be greatly appreciated

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I’m 20 years old and I consider myself good looking, I get good grades in school, and I’m a nice person. But I notice I attract women in their mid-late 20s with kids already. Why is this?

Also, I notice I get compliments on my looks more so from guys than I do from girls. I’ve had guys in high school tell me I’m sexy and stuff. I’m not sure if they were kidding or not but I think they were serious. I don’t think I look gay. When I got those compliments I think I was putting gel in my hair and combing it back but so what?

In one class, our teacher said, "I won’t have to worry about guys and girls sending notes to each other in here unless you want to jump on (my name here) because he’s the most handsome person in this room." I took that as a compliment and smiled.

Also another incident was, we were talking about how to choose witnesses for signing wills. So our teacher said, "Don’t pick some old person like me who is all over the place, choose a nice young fellow like (my name here)" and he pointed at me.

When he said that to me, I smiled and took it as a compliment. But some of the other girls in the class laughed. Were they thinking, "Yea right, he’s not good looking."?

I mean when at first, I thought both of my teachers were complimenting me But at the same time, I can’t really be sure because I’m the only guy in class. Sometimes if you’re the only guy in class, people tease you.

I don’t think I’m ugly but sometimes I feel funny if people say things about my looks. I’m not sure if they’re messing with me.

I don’t think being the only guy in class is what it’s cracked up to be. I mean if my teachers just wanted to lighten the tension, why couldn’t they say something else?

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This is one of the simpler aspects of a man’s routine- because if it were hard it certainly isn’t shown in our high population levels. Women are basically made to order for men, I find it crazy that so many guys find it difficult to get women. Functionally as a man, you are already equipped with everything you need to succeed. One of those success is the ability to manage women. A man who can’t attract women is like a cowboy who can’t control a horse. – Being able to control your horse should be the least of your worries, just like pulling women should be one of the last things you really need worry about. It should come very natural and if it doesnt it is usually something you yourself are hindering. And in all reality, would he really qualify as a cowboy if he couldn’t even ride a horse?
Its astonishing to see men who are very smart struggle with women; absolutley crazy. In contrast, how many successful men do you know who cannot horde women?
Worry about everything else in line with success and women are part of that package, it’s very simple. Why the struggle

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The last 8 girls I’ve dated (no joke) were head-over-heels for me for some period of time…for the first date, for a few months of dating and passionate love-making, and time frames in between as well. Each time, whether I am the ‘nicest guy’ in the world, or if I act ‘rebelliously’ and typically just the same way I’d been acting while we were dating, they either change how they act towards me or completely tell me off and that I disgust them. Some of them I allow to string me along knowing they don’t care about me, but I’m desperate for them because of their looks or how society treats you when you’re in the company of a beautiful woman.

Regardless, why are there tons of guys who breakup with girls and those girls either can’t get over it or ponder what made him do it, yet I am always on the losing end of the stick. Like, if I try to tell a girl that we should cool down a bit because we’re moving too fast, she’ll assume I’m an a-hole when I really truly like her. I’m a good communicator, I’m bright, I’m not too bad on the eyes. I’m always smiling and I have a deep side as well..What could it be?

You psychobabble people, is it mother issues somehow involved? My parents got divorced and my mother was sort of absent as she had to be the head of the household, but I still really love her. I tend to date women who are totally opposite of my mother in most ways. And if I did have a parent who was ineffective in raising me because she was overextending herself or she liked my brother more than me, would this really cause me to be attracted to (and attract) women who are way off their rocker. What in God’s name could be the reason that the night before a woman asks me to "…be her man" and then the next day tell me that I’m a crazy idiot who doesn’t think well or speak well…? I’m at a loss, I really am…You psychologists maybe can help me, cuz I am starting to believe that either "all women are crazy" and those guys who can tame them are skilled craftsmen who know how to keep a crazy in her place, or "most" women are crazy and there are a "chosen" few who date only guys like Derek Jeter and David Beckham…Or, there’s something about "me" that has and will continue to prevent normal relationships with basically ALL women who I encounter more than once. Thoughts? Psychologists? Where are ya?

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If I go out with my friend/s, it is not long until I make some visual contact with a girl and the next step is to talk to her (hehe I hardy do it, but I know that if she smiles, I have a "chance").
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My fiends have girlfriends so I sometimes go to the pub by myself. This is kind of different situation because there is no one to talk to a it is much harder to attract women, even to get noticed by them. Staring at them definitelly doesn’t make it. I dont drink too much so my self-enjoyment ability is not very high.
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What should I do/not do to possibly get into same or similar situation as if I go out with my friend? Other then getting wasted?

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So for some I’m attractive. I also work out, not because i want to be muscular but because i love the pump. I spend most of my time reading books and studying and what not.. the other time i spend working out or at work (im in my 20s).
When I go out, I tend to attract women, as I am relatively attractive and confident. However, once I get into conversation, I flop.. evidently few females really want to talk about the latest technological advances or engineering feats or how the theory of relativity can be used to prove much more than we though and the accuracy of it is outstanding.. just like how gravity as we know it is actually an incorrect theory..
anyways.. i suck at speaking to girls.. what sort of topics should I practice and use when I converse with them? Any tricks?

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It always seems like I attract the women that never want to get into a relationship with me. I guess part of the reason why is because I never talk to females that don’t send me any kind of signs. I will see females that I might be interested in but they act like they are not interested in me. Which I have also had from other people that women are intimated by me and I need to make the first move or they think I am stuck up. What do I need to do differently and how can I attract the right kind of girl

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I dont really look that great, so I need to have a good personality right. How do I know if I have one? How do I make mine better?

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As I did not know him, I just said, "Ask them." But then I got to thinking, maybe I should’ve said the following:

"You’ll never be short a woman once you know how to use your tongue."

Or would that have been too gross?

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I need to non-verbally attract a woman before I can even talk to her.
So How should I look at her?
Is there a special look I should give her to say I am interested?
How should I smile at her or whatever to let her know I like her?

What type of cloths should I wear?
I notice I am more attracted to women who wear more colorful cloths for instance.

I need to do something to make the girls notice me and make them come to me.

What is the first thing I should say to her?

Where should I go?

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Firstly I want to clarify the difference for all the women out there. There are two types of men who learn this kind of thing:

Players:- Simply say and do whatever makes a woman attracted to them quickly, only temporarily and build no emotional connection essentially just to get laid.

Pick up Artists:- Learn how to be perceived as attractive by women on a deeper level and learn how to interact with women effectively so they can date the women they want to and build a working relationship.

I used to be terrible with women, one girl straddled me and I still wasn’t sure if she liked me and had no idea how to react or what to do. I was sick of always being stuck as just friends, I had enough friends. I wanted someone to show my affection towards and to be close to emotionally, I’m not going to lie, the only difference between your best friend and your boy/girl-friend is you have sex with your boy/girlfriend so that was a factor but I do not want to shag every girl and have meaningless sex, I want as most if not all “pick up artists” do; to find a special girl who is worth sharing my life with.

I was sick of it being up to fate putting me in a situation where a conversation would start with a girl and we might "click", I wanted to be in control so if I met the girl of my dreams or saw her I could go and get her or at least know how to have a go and maybe not crash and burn instantly. You have no idea girls how terrifying it can be for a guy to approach a girl, the fear of rejection was crippling.

I have read so many questions like this and all the answers are guys saying "its bull****, none of it works you are either attractive or not" and women saying "you sicken me tricking women like that just to get laid".

Guys who think its all crap; there is allot of bull**** out there written by guys who are naturally successful with women but have no idea why and make up bull**** theories. I learned by reading a few select books written by guys who have studied evolution, biology, psychology and sociology and been out and tested their theories, their stuff is correct at a fundamental scientific level. I have tried it and what they say is true. It’s not "say or do this and she will be yours", It’s "this is what women find attractive, this is why they find it attractive this is how to communicate that attractive trait to a woman".

For women who think we are tricking or manipulating you. It’s not like that. I HAVE NEVER TRICKED A WOMAN OR FAKED AN INTERACTION, everything that happened was real, we met, had a conversation and every feeling she felt was a real emotion. I just learned how to convey the positive aspects of my personality effectively. Like now i know that bragging about my car won’t do much.

Have you ever worn a push up bra, low cut top or a short skirt or worn makeup to attract guys? That is manipulating men, you are pushing our inbuilt attraction mechanisms, women are far more complex than men so why is it wrong to learn what women’s attraction mechanisms are and how to push them? You do it to men all the time, most men just don’t know how to do it to women because they are so much more complex. When it comes to attraction, men are like whistles, a couple of buttons, easy to work out, but women are like accordians, or a harp or a piano, far far more difficult.

Don’t get me wrong, I am me and I won’t change because someone doesn’t like me but I will and have changed to become a better more successful person in general which in turn has made me more attractive to women. I am not the same as every other pick up artist; I am myself I just know how to tell women who that is now.

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So my question is, now you know what a pick up artist is, what is your opinion of them? And what do you think about guys who actively tried to learn it?

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so i was wondering what do women find most attractive in a guy?do girls like a challenge? what do you chracteristics do u find in a challenging guy?

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If him wearing Speedos in front of her or him being naked in front of her doesn’t attract her sexually on the physcial level, then I don’t know what the hell will. Besides, if they laugh at instead of getting turned on by him if his pants are pulled down and he’s wearing boxers shorts, if not even THAT attracts her physcially, then I don’t know what will.

I just don’t think it’s fair that God didn’t program women to be physcially attracted to men like vice versa, because if they were, women would sexually desire men in Speedos like men sexually desire women in bikinis, and the way men would suddenly get turned on by a woman with her skirt torn off in public and her panties showing, that’s exactly how turned on women would be toward a man if his pants were pulled down and it turns out he’s wearing Speedos.

Seriously, it’s like God deliberatly made men ugly to women and because of that, the only way men can sexually attract women is by using their physcial approach, their words, and their personalites…

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IN OTHER words: if ur the hottest guy ever, do u have to do different things to attract women? if ur hot should u be like EXTRA NICE and easy to get for her (maybe she thinks ur impossible to get)? how does attraction differ from hot guys to ugly guys?

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