Archive for November, 2009

How do you get a girl to like you?

How do you get a girl to like you is a fundamental question in a guy’s life.

I bet you have encountered guys who got the most successful, beautiful girls and left you astonished by their success. You couldn’t find anything outstanding about them and you are absolutely sure it is not jealousy that has blinded you.

These guys weren’t extremely smart or successful. There was nothing you could have pointed out and say that’s the reason why women fall at their feet. Nothing unusual about them and yet they had the secret code for cracking the essence of the question how do you get a girl to like you in an effortless manner.

Now, I know the clichés, we all know them about guys who are tough, playing it hard to get and hurt girls who keep on chasing after them begging for another rejection.

But those guys, I must ask myself, are they enjoying this unfertile dance? Maybe they do but I don’t see the point of getting a girl to like you if in the following day you don’t have the slightest interest in her.

A guy told me once that when he passes near a girl he fancies he look through her rather than at her. “Do that and that will do the job” he told me. Now maybe it works, we all suffer from this psychological bug as Graucho Marx famous quote implies: I do not want to belong to a club that accepts people like me.

However, these methods are not for me. I prefer staying naïve and authentic and get girls who like guys like me, who hasn’t lost a romantic point of view.

Anyway, the bottom line is I want a girl who is mature enough to appreciate my respectful attitude, my honesty and my ability to show affection.

I don’t want someone who is masochistic; a type of girl that wants a guy just because he doesn’t want her. I want someone stable though I must admit unstable girls also have their charms…

How to flirt with a girl

How to flirt with a girl is a question that occupies my mind every now and then, usually when I recognize an opportunity for an acquaintance, recruit all my wits and charms, gather my thoughts and go with high confidence towards my destination and still in spite all the efforts the opportunity often slips away because of some concealed ingredient in the communication equation.

First of all I must admit I don’t believe that flirting with a girl is a technical thing. Today you can find a book about everything: how to raise children, how to live well, ten ways to success etc…We want a manual for everything, a magic receipt so we can get what we want without sweating, without a changing process.

Well, everybody can write a manual handful of tips about how to flirt with a girl; telling you to be funny, smart, courageous, generous and charming.  I guess if you felt you possess these qualities you would be the one to write a booklet of tips and advices.

Now I am not saying those advices can not be helpful; awareness is an important thing and acquiring awareness will help one in each and every aspect of his life.

So of course when you want to flirt with a girl being aware of your messages, of your body language, of the feeling you evoke will help you transmit the right messages.

The thing is acquiring awareness is a long process of self observation, growing up, understanding your needs, knowing how to identify your own emotions and recognizing the person’s you interact with emotions.

Going through this process will buy you good communication skills: with your relatives, with your friends, employers and also with complete strangers; strangers, who can potentially become your intimate partners, if only you could learn how to communicate properly.

Okay, this has happened a few times. I go to college and between class, I relax at one of the rec rooms we have, and every once in a while a cute girl will sit at the one of the other tables, and I feel so inclined to say hi, but I feel like I will come off as a creep. What are some good ways to approach these girls and just say Hi?

Head from your girl??? I mean or are you completely not in the mood for that?? Sorry don’t mean to be vulgar being serious. And question two if I do while he is sick, will I also get sick?? Thank you both 25 if that helps:)

I think I really like her, but I worry that she is not as "experienced" as me, and that might make it awkward. I’m also not sure what her parents would think about it. Do you think three years is too big of a gap? I am 71 years old, she is 68.

Ok I have been trying to be with this girl but she won’t because she doesn’t trust me. I tried my hardest to show her that she can trust me and that I will never hurt her or treat her like crap.

Well i really like a girl that i doesn’t know about but i am talking to her at many placeses and hanging around with her but she doesn’t realy like me, so is there any way she might be able to like me?

Sometime when i talk to women i feel that i’m desperate or give off the vibe of being desperate and i don’t know it. When talking to a women what are the best things not to see so you wont seem desperate?

Please tell me how I can flirt with her by using sms.

So I like this girl in class but she never talk to me. However, I sense that she always look at me, like at least once a day. I wonder if it was because I look weird or something else.

First off, I’m a sophomore. There is this girl Danielle who i really like. No joke, she is the most amazing girl i have ever met. she is smart, funny, athletic, one of the prettiest girls that i have ever seen. i think about her a lot, but not in a creepy way. okay so i don’t know how close to get before i should ask her out. i don’t want to become too close to her i don’t think because then she might think of me as just a friend. one of my friends likes her too though, but i don’t think she likes him that way because she already turned him down once. (is that wrong to like someone that your friend likes?) and i don’t know how much to talk to her. i don’t want to seem like some creep that talks to or texts her all the time. and another thing is the "touch barrier" what kind of touching is kinda flirty but not awkward for the girl to show that i care about her? o, and what kind of compliments and how often is it good to compliment a girl? and at what point is it not weird to hang out just one on one because whenever i hang out with her it is with a group unless if it is walking with her to class alone or after school to her car. any help on this is great. i need as much advice as i can get because sadly, i have never had a girlfriend, but neither have any of my friends really. (no i am not a geek, i am athletic, smart, and decent looking.)
o and for the record, i know her already and talk to her at school every day basically.
o update!!!!:
she told my friend who also liked her that she doesn’t like him that way.

She is the most popular girl at school and I seriously like her. Please tell me how I could get her to go out with me?

What % of women do you think trick men into marriage I would say 85 %.

If you say no show me a women who is the same as before marriage.

ok so i like this girl and a wanna ask her out by writing her a note and giving it to her after skool. problem is i dont know what to put in the note. please help me with this problem. and dont just say " tell her what you think" i need sumthing. please. thanks!

This girl stumbles upon another girl and sees that she has been physically abused. How would I imply this with certain signs?
How’s this? "I saw the bruises on legs and the burns on her arms. And I understood." Sorry for my ignorance I just want to turn in a good story!

I really like this guy he’s not a player but he has allot of friends that are girls so he usually knows if I’m up to something. We’ve been friends for a few years so we’re very close that’s how he knows allot about me. he liked me last year but i think he got over me when he dated my friend. this weekend me and him are going to the movies together and meeting some friends there. got any ideas on how i can get him to fall for me?

Approaching women in bars is not difficult. A wingman can be helpful to break up a pair of girls or get them at your table, but going alone can be just fine. If you’re desperate, just leave. Girls can smell despiration a mile away. That has a small stink of desperation, and if the girls in the bar see you get rejected once, you’re pretty much shot for the night. Sit at the bar or at a small private table. You have your money on the table (it’s the closest item men have to attract "horny women"). Dress nice, in darker clothing (to appear dark, mysterious, etc.) Have a drink or two, and just watch the action. Scan the room. See who you want to have sex with. Sooner or later, girls are going to approach you. Wonder if you’re waiting on someone. Or if you’re just lonely. By not approaching, you’re not buying girls drinks that you have no chance with. Girls who approach you will likely sleep with you because you’ve already made the list of people they will sleep with. Now you just have to close the deal.

I am really interested in shy girls or confident girls’ flirting techniques.

A side question: If you (as a girl) think that a boy likes you and you think the same way, what do you do? Do you stare and smile?

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